Guest guest Posted April 7, 2006 Report Share Posted April 7, 2006 om sai ram It is just wonderful. sai ram --- Swamy Mahadevan <mahadevanvnswamy wrote: > HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING > > This is Dale Carnegie's summary of his book, from > 1948 > Part One > > Fundamental facts you should know about worry > > 1. If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir > William Osler > did: Live in "day-tight compartments." Don't stew > about the futures. > Just live each day until bedtime. > 2. The next time Trouble--with a Capital > T--backs you up in a > corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier: > a. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can > possibly happen > if I can't solve my problem? > b. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the > worst--if > necessary. > c. Then calmly try to improve upon the > worst--which you have > already mentally agreed to accept. > 3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price > you can pay for > worry in terms of your health. "Those who do not > know how to fight > worry die young." > > Part Two > > Basic techniques in analyzing worry 1. > Get the facts. > Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University > said that "half the > worry in the world is caused by people trying to > make decisions > before they have sufficient knowledge on which to > base a decision." > 2. After carefully weighing all the facts, > come to a > decision. > 3. Once a decision is carefully reached, act! > Get busy > carrying out your decision--and dismiss all anxiety > about the > outcome. > 4. When you, or any of your associates, are > tempted to worry > about a problem, write out and answer the following > questions: > a. What is the problem? > b. What is the cause of the problem? > c. What are all possible solutions? > d. What is the best solution? > > Part Three > > How to break the worry habit before it breaks you > 1. > Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty > of action is > one of the best therapies ever devised for curing > "wibber gibbers." > 2. Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit > little things--the > mere termites of life--to ruin your happines. > 3. Use the law of averages to outlaw your > worries. Ask > yourself: "What are the odds against this thing's > happening at all?" > 4. Co-operate with the inevitable. If you > know a circumstance > is beyond your power to change or revise, say to > yourself: "It is > so; it cannot be otherwise." > 5. Put a "stop-less" order on your worries. > Decide just how > much anxiety a thing may be worth--and refuse to > give it anymore. > 6. Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw > sawdust. > > Part Four > > Seven ways to cultivate a mental attitude that > will bring you > peace and happiness 1. Let's fill our minds > with thoughts > of peace, courage, health, and hope, for "our life > is what our > thoughts make it." > 2. Let's never try to get even with our > enemies, because if > we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt > them. Let's do as > General Eisenhower does: let's never waste a minute > thinking about > people we don't like. > 3. > A. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, > let's expect it. > Let's remember that Jesus healed ten lepers in one > day--and only one > thanked Him. Why should we expect more gratitude > than Jesus got? > B. Let's remember that the only way to find > happiness is not > to expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of > giving. > C. Let's remember that gratitude is a > "cultivated" trait; so > if we want our children to be grateful, we must > train them to be > grateful. > 4. Count your blessings--not your troubles! > 5. Let's not imitate others. Let's find > ourselves and be > ourselves, for "envy is ignorance" and "imitation is > suicide." > 6. When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to > make a lemonade. > 7. Let's forget our own unhappiness--by > trying to create a > little happiness for others. "When you are good to > others, you are > best to yourself." > > Part Five > > The perfect way to conquer worry 1. > Prayer > > Part Six > > How to keep from worrying about criticism > 1. Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. > It often means > that you have aroused jealousy and envy. Remember > that no one ever > kicks a dead dog. > > 2. Do the very best you can; and then put up your > old umbrella and > keep the rain of criticism from running down the > back of your neck. > > 3. Let's keep a record of the fool things we have > done and > criticize ourselves. Since we can't hope to be > perfect, let's do > what E.H. Little did: let's ask for unbiased, > helpful, constructive > criticism. > > Part Seven > > Six ways to prevent fatigue and worry and keep > your energy and > spirits high > 1. Rest before you get tired. > 2. Learn to relax at your work. > 3. Learn to relax at home. > 4. Apply these four good workings habits: > a. Clear your desk of all papers except > those relating to > the immediate problem at hand. > b. Do things in the order of their > importance. > c. When you face a problem, solve it then > and there if you > have the facts to make a decision. > d. Learn to organize, deputize, and > supervise. > 5. To prevent worry and fatigue, put > enthusiasm into your > work. > 6. Remember, no one was ever killed by lack > of sleep. It is > worrying about insomnia that does the damage--not > the insomnia. > > > Jai Sai ram > Swamy Mahadevan > Bow to Shri Sai-Peace to all > Baba Bless you ever!!! > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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