Guest guest Posted November 30, 2005 Report Share Posted November 30, 2005 What is Friendship? "I shot an arrow into the air, It fell to earth, I knew not where; For so swiftly it flew, the sight Could not follow it in its flight. I breathed a song into the air, It fell to earth, I knew not where; For, who has sight so keen and strong That it can follow the flight of song? Long, long afterward, in an oak I found the arrow, still unbroken; And the song, from beginning to end, I found again in the heart of a friend." -- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow "Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure." - Jewish Saying "Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend." - Albert Camus "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." - Walter Winchell "What is a friendship? A single soul dwelling in two bodies." - Aristotle 1. Don't worry about knowing people, just make yourself worth knowing. 2. Be friendly with the fellow beings you know. If it weren't for them you would be a total stranger. There is nothing worth the wear of winning, but laughter and the love of friends. 3. Friends are those who love you even when the others hate you. 4. Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow- ripening fruit. 5. The way to have friends is to be willing to lose some arguments. 6. Deal with other's faults as gently as if they were your own. 7. True friendship is like sound health; the value of its seldom known until it is lost. 8. You will never have a friend if you must have one without faults. 9. You can make more friends by being interested in them than trying to have them be interested in you. 10. A real friend is a person who, when you've made a fool of yourself, lets you forget it. 11. A friend is a person who listens attentively while you say nothing. 12. A friend hears the song in your heart and sings it to you when your memory fails. 13. A friend loves at all times. 14. A companion loves some agreeable qualities which a man may possess, but a friend loves the man himself. 15. Hold a true friend with both your hands. 16. A faithful friend is the medicine of life. 17. Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same. 18. Friends are like melons; shall I tell you why? To find one good you must one hundred try. 19. Friendship multiplies the good of life and divides the evil. 20. Friends are the sunshine of life. 21. The best mirror is your friend. He tells you your faults in private. 22. One who looks for a friend without faults will have none. 23. Friends show their love in times of trouble... 24. One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives. 25. Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, but in the hearts of true friends. 26. Your friend is the man who knows all good and bad about you, and still likes you. 27. The only way to have a friend is to be one. Love your friends unconditionally, respect them and behave yourself to make them to respect you, but most of all value the relationship and love spending time together. 28. Good friends are good for your health. 29. Friendship doubles our joy and divides our grief. 30. Count your age with friends but not with years. 31. Plant a seed of friendship; reap a bouquet of happiness. 32. However rare true love may be, it is less so than true friendship. 33. Life is to be fortified by many friendships. To love and to be loved is the greatest happiness of existence. 34. Let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. 35. There can be no Friendship where there is no Freedom. 36. Friendship is a strong and habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and happiness of one another. 37. A best friend is hard to find and lucky to have. No man is useless while he has a friend. 38. A friend is a present you give yourself. A single rose can be your garden... a single friend, your world. 39. Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends whom we choose. 40. It is not what you give your friend, but what you are willing to give him that determines the quality of friendship. 41. A true friend is one who overlooks your failures and celebrates your success. Do not protect yourself by a fence, but rather by your friends. Friendship needs no words... And most important, A friend is a treasure who may well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature. There may be somebody who is thinking about you right now and wishing that you were around. That's the wonderful thing about friendship. You always feel loved and cared about. It's no wonder, then, that medical researchers have found that those who have friends tend to be happier, healthier, and live longer than those who do not. In fact, friendship has numerous physical and spiritual benefits. According to research studies, our brains are programmed to receive unexpected rewards and pleasures. Friendship is the foundation of many of these unexpected pleasures, such as a spontaneous game of racquetball, a spur-of-the moment decision to see a movie, and an outpouring of praise for something we did well. As in the word, a friend is like a ship that carries us, abides with us unfailingly, through the calm and rough seas of life. Is there any purer relationship than friendship? It is unconditional loyalty and love. Friendship is a bond of steadfastness and acceptance that allows us to be who we are, fully, without fears that love will be withdrawn. Over a lifetime, it is the bond of friendship that allows us to explore our depths with non-judgmental feedback and supportiveness. Friendship is more than just hanging out together and gossiping about other people. True friendship is when two people have mutual respect for one another, and really care about the each other's feelings and dreams. You need to be able to be honest with your friends. If there is ever a time where you feel that you can't tell them the truth, for fear that they will be mad or won't understand, then they aren't true friends. Friends share with each other important things that they wouldn't share with others. Friends also care about each other, stick up for one another and enjoy spending time together. Not everyone values openness or honesty, when others look for an extraordinarily caring individual as a friend. Whatever it is that you value most, make sure that your needs as well as your friends are being met. If you are feeling neglected or mistreated by a "friend" then you need to look more closely at this relationship. Friendship should bring you joy not misery. Find out what you want out of a friendship, and try not to be overtaken by those around you who are not yet mature enough to commit to a true friendship. Friends provide support in three main ways: emotional, cognitive guidance, and tangible help. Friends give each other emotional support by demonstrating care and affection. They also provide guidance during times of decision-making. Friends give help by meeting practical needs, such as loaning a car, cooking a meal, or taking care of a dog while a friend's on vacation. Psychologists have hypothesized that friends are actually coping mechanisms; by providing companionship and resources, friends alleviate stress in a person's life. Equality In good friendships, both people contribute and consider one another equals. Shared Responsibility Friendships need to be cared for. In a strong friendship, both people feel responsible for it, and that means both invest their time and energy to make it work. Trust Real friendship is based on mutual honesty and trust. One way to build trust is to take the risk of sharing more and more about yourself. Availability Good friends are around when you need them. Regular contact helps a friendship deepen. It's like caring for a plant. You can't just water it every now and then, and expect it to grow. Fun Friends should generally make your life more fun. It's true that you should be able to bring your hard and scary feelings into a good friendship and get support. But if you seldom bring your excitement, joy, silliness, humor, and playfulness to it, you have more of a one- person support group than a friendship. Wide variety of interests High quality friends are interesting and interested in life. They're learning and growing and able to contribute to the relationship. Being bored together or always hanging out in the same place shows you have some things in common, but doesn't give your friendship much energy. Alike and different Having some things in common is important. You automatically have ideas to talk about and activities to do together. But it is also important to have some differences. Friends who are different from you can bring out different parts of you, and help you discover new ideas and interests. Too much alike is boring; too different makes it hard to relate. Loyalty Good friends will be with you when the going is tough. They can also give you room to be crazy and make mistakes. They will forgive your behavior still like you. Real friends don't to gossip about you because they know and trust you. Caring Real friends are interested in the details of your life. They remember stuff about you like your birthday and other special times. They remember your current fears and concerns, and ask you about them occasionally. They share in your joys, and hurt a little when you are in pain. They pay attention to your life, and let you know they care. Honesty Thoughts are forms of energy and produce their exact genetic offspring. Good thoughts produce good; selfish actions lead to repeated dissatisfactions. Congruency between our words, feelings and actions, keeping our intentions for the highest good, breeds happiness in friendship. "The life may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear. Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you. Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget. You can only go as far as you push. Actions speak louder than words. Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while, you might miss it. When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there. Good friends are like stars....You don't always see them, but you know they are always there. If you think that the world means nothing, think again. You might mean the world to someone else. Everything is good in the end. If it's not good, then it's not the end. Most people walk in and out of you life. But only friends leave footprints in your heart. True friendship never ends. Friends are forever. "Friendship is to be purchased only by friendship. A man may have authority over others, but he can never have their hearts but by giving his own." - Thomas Wilson "Friendship is essentially a partnership." - Aristotle. " Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace. When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the 'nay' in your own mind, nor do you withhold the 'ay.' And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart; For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed. When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain. And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. For love that seeks aught but the discloseure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught. And let your best be for your friend. If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also. For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill? Seek him always with hours to live. For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness. And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed." - KHALIL GIBRAN ( from the Prophet) lovingly stolen from: http://mailerindia.com/hindu/veda/index.php?friend God Bless You All with true friends Love baba Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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