Hare Krishna

[Guest guest]

Dear Ekabuddhi Prabhu,

 

Thank you for your encouragement. Perhaps we should all just stay on the Cow

Conference and share positive words with everyone here. It is sad that there

is so much rough energy. I've gotten a big dose of encouragement lately

though and I think the answer is still to love and be mindful and keep working

toward healthy relationships. I was really just wanting to run from the

harshness. But, grounding ourselves in sadhana, we will be able to move the

material

energy and offer something beautiful to Guru and Krishna.

 

Thank you again for your words. Your encouragement means a lot to me.

 

Your servant,

Kalavati devi dasi

[Guest guest]

> Thank you again for your words. Your encouragement means a lot to me.

>

 

here is something that can be encouraging - if someone says something,

assume it is positive, even at the risk of being wrong

[Guest guest]

 

Mark Middle Mountain <gourdmad (AT) ovnet (DOT) com>

 

 

assume it is positive, even at the risk of being wrong

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Gosh! You know what they say about making an assumption (makes an ass out of

"u" and "mption").

[Guest guest]

>

> assume it is positive, even at the risk of being wrong

> -----------------

> Gosh! You know what they say about making an assumption (makes an ass out

of "u" and "mption").

 

Assumption is there regardless - the question is does one assume something

is negative or assume something is positive.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 4/1/05 6:00:38 PM Eastern Standard Time,

gourdmad (AT) ovnet (DOT) com writes:

 

 

> assume it is positive

 

Interesting. Lovely Pollyannaing. Another mode of communiation could be....

If I say something and it is taken as an offence, perhaps there was some

underlying current that I have not wanted to acknowledge. I am speaking from

experience here, unfortuantely. In my old age I find that what I learn the

most

from is - when I am told I have been harsh, I need to not just look at what I

was attempting to express, but what were my underlying motivations, before

putting the thought into words.

 

Often I will find that I did have some strong feelings, and although I

'thought' I was expressing myself with love or openness, somehow or other

"stuff"

had seeped through. So, we can accept everything through rose colored glasses,

 

but that might not always be realistic. Sometimes when we have been

surrounded by harshness it might be proper to see that there is indeed a bit of

 

harshness about. And conversly, we (you, I, they) the person who was percieved

as

harsh could examine their motives or true feelings....once honest with oneself,

 

the statement can be clarified. i.e. Yes I may have stated that in a way in

which it could have been misunderstood, please allow me to restate......OR

After a harsh self-examination I feel that I did indeed speak in a way that

could have caused discomfort, I apologize....here is what I would really like

to

express.......

and even - After serious self-examination I feel that my motives for making

that statement were pure and honest. I apologize for offending, I will try to

be respectful of your sensitivity on these issues.

 

And yes, I'm taking notes. I know I'm considered a big, fat, loud mouth. I

do believe that truth should be spoken loudly at times, but it also needs to

be not so loud that it can't be heard.

 

obeisances, eka Buddhi