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Hare Krishna prabhu,

 

Please accept my humble obeisances. All Glories to Srila Prabhupada!

 

Thank you for your reply.

 

 

> You are right. Violence is not a good option, ever. It is always to be

> avoided. And when nothing else works, violence is still not necessary.

 

We are agreed fully on this!

 

 

 

> marriage, one can still separate from his partner, or in modern ISKCON,

> even divorce and thus attain his peace. And regarding children, if nothing

> works, violence is still not necessary. One can still ignore them, or

> avoid their company, or withdraw himself, or send them to Gurukula or

> something. Of course, one may argue, that this may be even a greater

> violence. But thats already another story.

 

 

Yes, certainly shirking our duty is another form of violence.

 

But there is a third option: a Krishna conscious option. If we are really

serious devotees , then we understand that Krishna is controlling both our

material and spiritual life.He knows how to balance both and help us to get

to Him. So because of our modes there are bound to be problems in marraiges,

but if we take the help of advanced Vaishnava Grahasthas who have a proper

understanding of marital relationships as well as the process of dependence

and surrender to Krishna, then Krishna helps His devotees to somehow

co-operate together for a higher goal.Marraige is also an ashrama for

purification... so we can use our trials to become better devoptees which is

the purpose of every Ashrama.Through this the modes getter better and better

and then married life also is happy in the mode of goodness.

 

Bringing up children is also a devotional service to Krishna and Krishna

uses every opportunity to purge us of our anarthas and weaknesses. So if we

are facing problems we are also responsible for it.So why not use our

difficulties to advance in Krishna consciousness. Then with our every step

of purification, material problems either keep getting solved or we become

better and better in coping with them.

 

Thinking of Krishna always is our only mantra, so why do we forget the

Krishna factor in our marraiges. Krishna is so kind that He arranged

marraiges for His devotees like Karadama Muni by personally coming and

informing him about his prospective bride. That shows that He is aware and

sensitive to our material needs as well. But without any tapasya of pleasing

Krishna , how can we expect to get happiness?

If we stop blaming others and start looking within us, we will be happy and

know how to deal with anybody or any situation. But we certainly need the

help of Vaishnavas to keep that focus. Due to attachment, we can get carried

away and so we need the wise Krishna conscious counselling of compassionate

Vaishnavas.

 

Your humble servant,

Prema Padmini dd