Guest guest Posted April 28, 2001 Report Share Posted April 28, 2001 Dear Mani, Australian Aborigines have a very complex kinship system. I was totally confused when I first started working with them. For a start, they incorporate you into their familial hierachy, before 'real' communication takes place.(so that they know where you stand!). Unfortunately, once the incorporation takes place, there are a series of avoidance relationships which must be adhered to.ie Mother-in-law must 'avoid' son-in-law physically, or at least eyes downcast, back turned and no interaction. You can imagine the problems when trying to dispense health care and medications to isolated rural communities!!!. Maternal aunts are called mother. Paternal aunts are aunty. Maternal uncles are uncle. Paternal uncles are called father. All very well, but in a western beaurocratic system, when mother or father are required to sign consent forms for minors, it can be a legal headache!. "Will the 'real' mother please stand up" is totally alien to them. Anybody and everybody seem to be cousins!!!. As a mark of respect, the youngsters call older westerners, aunt or uncle. If trusted, sometimes mother. A younger person will never look an elder in the eye, or speak until spoken to. Westerners wrongly perceive this as 'shifty'. Condolences for the death of a relative is considered rude in the extreme and dangerous.( The spirit of the departed may 'come back' if they hear you talking about them. NEVER mention their name). Most faux pas are initially forgiven, as they realise 'we' are hopelessly undeveloped spiritually. Punishment of 'indiscretions' are quick and brutal within the community. Eye for an eye, spear in the leg, that sort of thing!. Best Wishes, Ann. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 28, 2001 Report Share Posted April 28, 2001 Ann Murphy wrote: > > Dear Mani, > Australian Aborigines have a very complex kinship system. I was > totally confused when I first started working with them. >"Will the 'real' > mother please stand up" is totally alien to them. > Anybody and everybody seem to be cousins!!!. This sort of sitzuation is or was apparently all over the Pacific. Marriage was there but sex was free, with some restrictions, so that the real father was not usually known. This had one positive result: there were no abandoned or neglected children, all the elders looked after all the kids with affection and care. Death or divorce did not leave a vacuum and the children were spared traumatic experiences. > As a mark of respect, the youngsters call older westerners, aunt or >uncle. If trusted, sometimes mother. To an extent this applies/ applied to India too. People call all older acquaintances uncles or aunts, treating them as brothers of mother or sisters of father. (The sisters of mother and brothers of fathers are referred to as big- or little mother, big or little father depending on older or younger than the parent.) This was quite common in Germany too. >A younger person will never look an >elder in the eye, or speak until spoken to. Westerners wrongly perceive this >as 'shifty'. Also applies to India, but not very strict today. regards Mani Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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