Manglik and Marriage- Thanks and some more questions

June 24, 2004

Respected Sirs,

Thank you Sirs for taking the time out to see my issues. I am highly

greatful to you.

I wanted to shed some more light on my matrimonial situation.

We had fixed a match after consulting horoscopes and meeting the

families. We fixed the marriage date for this month (it was suppose

to take place yesterday). We started all preparations. I also left my

work to come to another town to do preparations. A few days ago, we

found things about the match that made it impossible to go ahead with

the marriage. We had to cancel everything. We are still recovering

from what has happened. The social, mental and emotional trauma is

something we are still going through.

I have once before (2 years ago) also considered getting married,

when it did not come through because of non matching of our

horoscopes.

This is the second time I am facing same trauma, only it is worse as

we had done the horoscope tally, and fixed the marriage date and done

preparations.

I am unable to reconcile that this is happening to me. I have prayed

to God and see no good results. Please suggest when exactly my bad

luck will be over, and I will actually get married. I have lost hope

and need your encouragement and support.

DOB- 22 December, 1972, 3:20PM, Bikaner, Rajasthan.(Manglik)

Regards,

seeker

June 28, 2004

Dear Seeker : Firstly, sorry for sending a non-astrological post ( and a long

one at that..)

However i could'nt resist but reply. other members pls. note, these views are

entirely personal.

Few things :

No. 1 is to fully empathise with your situation, its really

traumatic (as you righthly put it), i know becos my close friend underwent a

similar issue. Now he is happily married.

Even i struggle & it hurts when people around you constantly ask

you on your marriage & to go home & see worried parents.

( hope u've seen the movie "Bridjet Jones Diary" and one other

where Tom Hanks is lost at sea.. only to return & find his wife has re-married)

here's how i do it :

ACTIVITY TRAP : Get into work or some other pursuit in EARNEST, let it occupy

your time

for most part of your daily life, struggle with it, come out successfully.

if its work & if u are it for some time, your insights are much more broader &

deeper.

Remember, success in any form breeds confidence & mental sharpness.

SPIRITUALITY : Ah, yes. i do get these impulses now & then but work occupies so

much of my time

then i am plain lazy too. i will eventually get into this full time, i am sure

of it.

Get into it slowly, read a few small books. JK or the very readable

'Autobiography of an yogi'.

Goto http://www.sivanandadlshq.org/home.html this is the site of the Divine Life

society.

Learn how to meditate, YES, u have to. there are few organisations who do this,

like rishi samskriti vidyakendra & their course siddha samadhi yoga. there are

few others

too, who dont charge a single paise .. find out about them.

all our struggles i am firmly convinced are to find ways to god, feel lucky that

you are starting young.

STAY FIT : very important, hit the gym or do minimal exercises to stay slim &

trim.

not only that, fitness keeps your alert & sharp. i hear it also makes u look

younger

it also drives away bouts of depression when you are alone.

LOVE YOUR PARENTS : i used to like the privilege of losing my temper or put on

my worst

behaviour with my parents, NOT abusive mind you, but generally i used to take

them for granted.

the last couple of years i have changed, marriage not happening & seeing my

parents struggle

has made me more tolerant, more caring & i value them more than anything else,

This year in april, i got an impulse & i started to work on an idea to build a

new house,

for years, we had longed for a bigger house ( hey, vaastu compliant mind

you)...so am doing it now

Your parents are the only ones you have, who truly love you for whatever you

are.

thats it... hope you havent fallen asleep already.

Enjoy your life... all the very best.

sincere wishes

Manju

m [ommoll]

Thursday, June 24, 2004 9:21 PM