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On Fri, 11 Dec 1998, COM: Isvara (das) GGS (Vrindavana - IN) wrote:

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''Dandavata. Jaya Srila Prabhupada. I will try to answer your comments on my

''text points for points, however, you should remember, this is a

''philosophical debate and not a name calling issue or challenging issue.

 

[..]

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''Srila Prabhupada quoted Canakya Pandita many times. A beautiful woman, a

''woman who argues with her husband, and mother who remarries are all

''considered enemies. Please check the folio.

 

May be blessed with long life and ever-increasing realizations as above!

 

your servant in service to ISKCON,

Guru-Krsna das (HDG)

*dharmo-rakshati rakshitaha*

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COM: Vijaya-venugopala (das) JPS (Persian Gulf) wrote:

 

> [Text 1927093 from COM]

>

> >A woman looses all her respect when she looses her shyness, by attempting

> >to be plainly visible alongside with men.

>

> Is that only with her physical body? If she is attempting to be plainly

> visible conversing with men and sannyasis on COM, does she preserve her

> shyness? Even though she is writing letters to men other than her husband?

 

The women should not be seen with men in ISKCON, as that would be a sign of

lack of shyness, but if they go out and sell books so sannyasis and temple

presidents can have money to spend, then that is not shyness.

 

The amazing thing is these guys can support positions like the above with a

straight face and actually believe it makes sense.

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> >A woman looses all her respect when she looses her shyness, by attempting

> >to be plainly visible alongside with men.

>

> Is that only with her physical body? If she is attempting to be plainly

> visible conversing with men and sannyasis on COM, does she preserve her

> shyness? Even though she is writing letters to men other than her husband?

 

Definitely looses her shyness that way too. A chaste woman would leave all

dealings with other mean entirely to her husband.

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Isvara das wrote:

 

> > Is that only with her physical body? If she is attempting to be plainly

> > visible conversing with men and sannyasis on COM, does she preserve her

> > shyness? Even though she is writing letters to men other than her

> > husband?

>

> Definitely looses her shyness that way too. A chaste woman would leave all

> dealings with other mean entirely to her husband.

 

Jivan Mukta prabhu and Sita dd, have you heared? ;)

 

 

ys mnd

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Dear Mahanidhi,

 

Dandavata. Jaya Srila Prabhupada. I can clearly understand that whatever

sastric refferences there may be, you will stick to your idea about the

unprotected single women in Iskcon, and how the men are the ones to blame

for it. I can say to you that myself and some male devotees who are strongly

advocating traditional roles of women according to Vedic principles are all

married men. At least I know some of them personally, they have never been

known as those who abuse their wives or other women. Myself and my wife have

very cordial relationship, based on sound vedic principles. She understands

her role as a dutiful wife, and a mother, very respectful to her husband,

the result is she is quite happy. So she is always fully protected. A

husband provides for the household, while the wife keeps the household

happy. Srila Prabhupada mentioned as follows in Srimad Bhagavatam 3:23:4-5

 

"The daughter of Manu, who was fully devoted to her husband, looked upon him

as greater even than providence. Thus she expected great blessings from him.

Having served him for a long time, she grew weak and emaciated due to her

religious observances. Seeing her condition, Kardama, the foremost of

celestial sages, was overcome with compassion and spoke to her in a voice

choked with great love.

 

PURPORT

 

The wife is expected to be of the same category as the husband. She must be

prepared to follow the principles of the husband, and then there will be

happy life. If the husband is a devotee and the wife is materialistic, there

cannot be any peace in the home. The wife must see the tendencies of the

husband and must be prepared to follow him. From Mahäbhärata we learn that

when Gändhäré understood that her would-be husband, Dhåtaräñöra, was blind,

she immediately began to practice blindness herself. Thus she covered her

eyes and played the part of a blind woman. She decided that since her

husband was blind, she must also act like a blind woman, otherwise she would

be proud of her eyes, and her husband would be seen as inferior. The word

samanuvrata indicates that it is the duty of a wife to adopt the special

circumstances in which the husband is situated. Of course, if the husband is

as great as Kardama Muni, then a very good result accrues from following

him. But even if the husband is not a great devotee like Kardama Muni, it is

the wife’s duty to adapt herself according to his mentality. That makes

married life very happy. It is also mentioned herein that by following the

strict vows of a chaste woman, Princess Devahüti became very skinny, and

therefore her husband became compassionate. He knew that she was the

daughter of a great king and yet was serving him just like an ordinary

woman. She was reduced in health by such activities, and he became

compassionate and addressed her as follows."

 

While the Vedic regulations are the principles to be followed by civilised

society, but it is not the end in themselves. The goal is the development of

love of God and thereby end the repetition of birth and death. But as long

as we are conditioned, the principles must be followed. Endless speculations

about the duties are will not help, as long as we think the vedic rules and

regulations are outdated, and needs to be modified to suit our western

mentality. Regardless of how much you care about single mothers, unprotected

women etc, withour adhering very strictly about the injuctions given by the

Supreme Lord in the form of the Vedas, there will not be any success in

whatever formula we think, we may adopt. I think you can the only to help

the unprotected single motherhood in Iskcon, is by stopping them from

becoming single, by following the guidelines as given above by Srila

Prabhupada.

 

If you still think sticking to the vedic principles is not enough, and I am

simply following some politically motivated ideal, (you have a right to your

opinion), then it is simply a waste of my valuable time to continuing

indulging in maeaningful discussion with you.

 

I hope we can engage in honest, frank, and heart to heart dialog that can

really be helpful to all members of Iskcon.

 

Ys, Isvara Dasa.

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> On 11 Dec 1998, Mahanidhi das wrote:

> > They say that a woman can't have even a varna on her own,

> > without "leaning" to a husband's qualities.

>

> Here's the proof that a woman has a varNa, and that it is not

> always identical to that of her husband:

>

>

> SB 5.26.23

> "The shameless husbands of lowborn shuudra women live exactly like

> animals, and therefore they have no good behavior, cleanliness or

> regulated life..."

>

> If women have no varNa, then the group described by the

> term "shuudra women" is the null set, as the term "women" would

> rule out the term "shuudra" and vice versa. Therefore, this

> Bhaagavatam verse would speak of the husbands of a null group,

> which in turn is also a null group. So, this Bhaagavatam verse

> speaks of nobody at all, and is therefore absolutely useless --

> it may as well speak of rabbit's horns or barren women's children.

>

> In other words, the idea that "women are a class unto themselves...

> [distinct from] the four higher divisions" is entirely contradictory to

> the Bhaagavatam verse above, and therefore can safely be discarded.

 

 

The proof that women have different varnas is that pratiloma and anuloma

marriages existed in Vedic times. Pratiloma marriages were not welcome

because the woman would belong to a higher varna. In this case she would be

more qualified then the husband, what would make relationship difficult. We

have example of Maharaj Yayati, who was a ksatriya, getting married to

Devayani, who was a brahmani girl. Sukracarya had to make special

arrangments that this marrige would be accepted, since Yayati already had

seen her naked. I think another example could be Romaharsana Suta, but I

can't remember right now.

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> The proof that women have different varnas is that pratiloma and anuloma

> marriages existed in Vedic times. Pratiloma marriages were not welcome

> because the woman would belong to a higher varna. In this case she would

> be more qualified then the husband, what would make relationship

> difficult. We have example of Maharaj Yayati, who was a ksatriya, getting

> married to Devayani, who was a brahmani girl. Sukracarya had to make

> special arrangments that this marrige would be accepted, since Yayati

> already had seen her naked. I think another example could be Romaharsana

> Suta, but I can't remember right now.

 

The proof is being rejected by "Vedics" on the base that

"varna" of an unmarried girl is determined by her father's

varna (or by her birth), not by her personal qualities,

like in the case of the boys.

 

Thus either husband or father. But not on "her own".

 

They simply refuse that women also got the personal

qualities of the particular varna. Like if she would

be a piece of a furniture that may be "painted" over

with another color as soon it changes the owner.

Hopeless people.

 

 

 

ys mnd

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PAMHO. AGTSP.

 

> A husband provides for the household, while the wife keeps the household

happy.

 

In other words: the wife keeps the houshold happy, while the husband

provides for the houshold.

 

Ys Vdd

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On Sun, 13 Dec 1998, COM: Sraddha (dd) HKS (Gothenburg - S) wrote:

 

> [Text 1931777 from COM]

>

> > On 11 Dec 1998, Mahanidhi das wrote:

> > > They say that a woman can't have even a varna on her own,

> > > without "leaning" to a husband's qualities.

> >

> > Here's the proof that a woman has a varNa, and that it is not

> > always identical to that of her husband:

> >

> >

> > SB 5.26.23

> > "The shameless husbands of lowborn shuudra women live exactly like

> > animals, and therefore they have no good behavior, cleanliness or

> > regulated life..."

> >

> > If women have no varNa, then the group described by the

> > term "shuudra women" is the null set, as the term "women" would

> > rule out the term "shuudra" and vice versa. Therefore, this

> > Bhaagavatam verse would speak of the husbands of a null group,

> > which in turn is also a null group. So, this Bhaagavatam verse

> > speaks of nobody at all, and is therefore absolutely useless --

> > it may as well speak of rabbit's horns or barren women's children.

> >

> > In other words, the idea that "women are a class unto themselves...

> > [distinct from] the four higher divisions" is entirely contradictory to

> > the Bhaagavatam verse above, and therefore can safely be discarded.

>

>

> The proof that women have different varnas is that pratiloma and anuloma

> marriages existed in Vedic times. Pratiloma marriages were not welcome

> because the woman would belong to a higher varna. In this case she would be

> more qualified then the husband, what would make relationship difficult. We

> have example of Maharaj Yayati, who was a ksatriya, getting married to

> Devayani, who was a brahmani girl. Sukracarya had to make special

> arrangments that this marrige would be accepted, since Yayati already had

> seen her naked. I think another example could be Romaharsana Suta, but I

> can't remember right now.

>

 

HKDD comments:

 

Sita's already got you beat there. We've been through this discussion

before. Even though Prabhupada maintains that varna is determined by

quality not by birth, Sita maintains that Srila Prabhupada is wrong in the

case of women. Their varna is only determined by birth -- until they are

married that is. They have no inherent nature that determines their

varna. It is determined by birth only.

 

You may ask how Sita prabhu knows more than Srila Prabhupada on how varna

is determined. I admit, I'm stumped on that one.

 

your servant,

 

Hare Krsna dasi

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PAMHO. AGTSP.

 

> > >A woman looses all her respect when she looses her shyness, by

> > >attempting to be plainly visible alongside with men.

> >

> > Is that only with her physical body? If she is attempting to be plainly

> > visible conversing with men and sannyasis on COM, does she preserve her

> > shyness? Even though she is writing letters to men other than her

> > husband?

>

> Definitely looses her shyness that way too. A chaste woman would leave all

> dealings with other mean entirely to her husband.

 

As such, your statement gives a lot of space for speculation. Unless I know

what do you mean by "all dealings", "other men" and "entirely" I tend to

think I would always have to send my husband shopping, go for me to my

gynaecologist and dentist, etc...

 

Your servant,

Viraja dasi

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Please accept my humble obesiances and all glories to srila Prabhupada!

 

Please remove me from any conference! Personal mail are welcome!

 

Your servant

Bharat Patel

 

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