Re[2]: see *some* women as mother?

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Re: see *some* women as mother?

Author: "COM: Madhusudani Radha (dd) JPS (Mill Valley - USA)"

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21/02/99 23:16

 

 

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>Of course, the question can be raised as to what they are fighting for.

>How about the right to use our Krsna-given skills and talents in the

service of Guru and Krsna? If we happen to have non-traditional skills,

why *artificially* make us do stereotypical female work? I couldn't

arrange flowers if my life depended on it, I hate cooking, I don't have an

artistic bone in my body and I get cabin fever whenever I have had to be a

full-time mom, however much I love my children. On the other hand, I'm good

with numbers, designing scientific studies, using my "left brain", and

managing projects. Why not try to apply these skills in service too?<

I can fully agree with you that a person should be engaged in service

according to " Krsna-given skills and talents " as you said. That's

what Krsna advises us in Bhagavad-Gita, to perform our given duty.

However, I don't understand why are you so much resisting to the

fact that a woman should be woman especially in the house. Men are

naturally " operated " from the activities that woman easily performs.

And every man is very pleased when he is a " hero " of his wife, and

he feels he's a man. Otherwise, there will be a lot of frustration in

the marriage. It could work differently for a while only if a man has

feminine qualities, and woman is a " real man " in the house. But that

definitely can not last for a long time. I can tell you from my own

experience that my wife respects me and allows me to have a dominant

role ( not in the sense of tyranny ), but I had to earn that trust in

her eyes. It's not that I was sitting, demanding and not doing

anything. No. It is mutual effort. If men want to be respected, they

have to show they're responsible. And women should not be spoiled. You

mentioned that Srila Prabhupada was engaging his female disciples in

service according to their capabilities, but he also never advised

them to not cook nicely, and to stop performing their housewife

duties, because, there lies the family happiness. So, my definite

point is, please let's become serious,accept our positions as given

according to our past desires and serve Krsna without trying to become

what we're not. That would include to give up the false ego too.

servant of the all Vaisnavas/is

bh. Muhamed