Brahmacari Training

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I came upon the following on the WEB:

 

 

Brahmacari Training:

 

Marriage is a partnership between the husband and wife. In a Krsna Conscious

marriage it is foremost a spiritual partnership. Although the specific

duties and roles are different, the responsibility to make the partnership

work is shared by both parties. As training is required on the girl’s side,

proper training is also required on the man’s side.

 

Briefly the man must be trained to be responsible, to carry out his duty -

despite any and all mundane difficulties his marriage may encounter. His

conviction must be that he is going to be life-long responsible for his wife

and children regardless of whether he likes his wife or not. Like or dislike

is not important, what is most important is that he carries out his

prescribed duty as a husband-father, despite any and all other

considerations.

 

To install such a noble spirit of conviction requires cultural training.

 

One of the most profound things a young boy is to learn is how to properly

respect women. From early boyhood he must be trained to see all women (other

then his own wife) as mother. This does not mean he must see older women as

mother only, but all women, all girls, as mother.

 

When the boy reaches 10 to 15 years old, the training has to be there, he

should not just see women who are over 20 as mother, but he should see the

15 year olds, the 10 year olds, as mother. This way when he reaches his teen

years he will not be so agitated by the girls his own age. He will see even

teenage girls who are the same age as himself, he will be able to see and

respect them as his mother.

 

This, I see, is sorely lacking in our gurukula schools, at least what I have

seen in America.

 

What does it mean to respect someone as ‘mother’? Vedic culture has a very

high respect for mother. A child (and latter the adult) is trained to touch

his mother’s feet to his head each day. He bows his head at her feet. He

approaches her with folded hands. This is the mood and respect he should

naturally develop toward all other women, and girls, who are not his own

wife. The wife is to have the greatest respect toward her one husband. So,

the man is to allow the wife to give him that respect. But, all other women,

the man is to give them the same respect his wife gives him. At least, he

should approach them with folded hands and be very respectful.

 

Men who have this training will make better husbands. They will be trained

no to see other men’s wives as objects of their own sense enjoyment. And it

will be more natural and easy for them to also have compassion and a sense

of responsibility in dealing with their own wife.

 

That is all I will say for now, as this book is meant as a training manual

for the mothers. I will elaborate more on training for men in the Kanya Daya

book, when I have time to complete it.

 

 

 

Hare Krishna, Your Servant,

 

Ameyatma das

 

I welcome any and all correspondence with parties interested in this and

related topics. (Questions, advice, or discussion or criticism, etc.). At

least for a while my mailing address is:

 

Ameyatma das PO Box 2369 Alachua, FL 32615

 

904 / 462-3901

 

email: ameyatma (AT) futuresunltd (DOT) com

 

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