brahmacari or grhasta

[Guest guest]

>> S.Prabhupad said, that we can ,if needed, marry till

>> 30.

 

>Please send this quote.

 

I heard that on S.Prabhupada's lectures wich i don't have anymore.

Someone can help?

Also i heard it from Guru Maharaj.

Maybe this quotes:68 11 08 My Dear Hayagriva,and (SB 2 7 6p)can help:

....

I also understand that you do not want to get married now, but if you marry

at all, you should marry now. Because after the age of 30, marriage is not

so pleasing. Practically I am giving in charge of the different centers to

the Grhasthas. If you decide to marry, there are many devotee girls, and one

of them may be a very nice companion for your devotional life. You prefer to

be free, but a devoted wife is as good as freedom. The Grhastha disciples,

just like Syamasundara., Mukunda, and Gurudasa, with their wives, are doing

very nicely in London. Similarly Dayananda and his wife Nandarani are doing

very nicely here.

....The Deity worship must be continued by everyone. Another secret of

success is that when one is very much sexually disturbed he should think of

Lord Krishna's pastimes with the Gopis, and he will forget his sex urge. To

think of Krishna's pastimes with Gopis, but not to try to imitate.

Hoping you are all well,

Your ever well-wisher,

A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami

 

The brahmacäri, or a boy from the age of five years, especially from the

higher castes, namely from the scholarly parents (the brähmaëas), the

administrative parents (the kñatriyas), or the mercantile or productive

parents (the vaiçyas), is trained until twenty-five years of age under the

care of a bona fide guru or teacher, and under strict observance of

discipline he comes to understand the values of life along with taking

specific training for a livelihood. The brahmacäré is then allowed to go

home and enter householder life and get married to a suitable woman. But

there are many brahmacärés who do not go home to become householders but

continue the life of naiñöhika-brahmacärés, without any connection with

women. They accept the order of sannyäsa, or the renounced order of life,

knowing well that combination with women is an unnecessary burden that

checks self-realization. Since sex desire is very strong at a certain stage

of life, the guru may allow the brahmacäré to marry; this license is given

to a brahmacäré who is unable to continue the way of naiñöhika-brahmacarya,

and such discriminations are possible for the bona fide guru. A program of

so-called family planning is needed. The householder who associates with

woman under scriptural restrictions, after a thorough training of

brahmacarya, cannot be a householder like cats and dogs. Such a householder,

after fifty years of age, would retire from the association of woman as a

vänaprastha to be trained to live alone without the association of woman.

When the practice is complete, the same retired householder becomes a

sannyäsé, strictly separate from woman, even from his married wife. Studying

the whole scheme of disassociation from women, it appears that a woman is a

stumbling block for self-realization, and the Lord appeared as Näräyaëa to

teach the principle of womanly disassociation with a vow in life. The

demigods, being envious of the austere life of the rigid brahmacärés, would

try to cause them to break their vows by dispatching soldiers of Cupid. But

in the case of the Lord, it became an unsuccessful attempt when the

celestial beauties saw that the Lord can produce innumerable such beauties

by His mystic internal potency and that there was consequently no need to be

attracted by others externally. There is a common proverb that a

confectioner is never attracted by sweetmeats. The confectioner, who is

always manufacturing sweetmeats, has very little desire to eat them;

similarly, the Lord, by His pleasure potential powers, can produce

innumerable spiritual beauties and not be the least attracted by the false

beauties of material creation. One who does not know alleges foolishly that

Lord Kåñëa enjoyed women in His räsa-lélä in Våndävana, or with His sixteen

thousand married wives at Dvärakä.

SB 2.7.7

Yhs Rohini-dulal das