Conquer lust by thinking that this woman is not to be enjoyed by me

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In his commentary to SB 7.15.22, Srila Bhaktisiddhanta Sarasvati Thakura

suggests bhogarhata-buddhi varjanat as a synonym for asankalpat. This basically

means, "by giving up the enjoying mentality." Srila Visvanatha Cakravarti

Thakura comments: "Asankalpat means that even if lust arises from remembrance

or seeing of a woman, a person is determined not to think, 'This woman is to be

enjoyed by me;' thus he conquers lust." (From BIKC)

 

kaminir kama, nahe tava dhama,

tahar-malika kevala `yadava'

 

The lust towards women is not your prerogative or right. That right belongs

only to Lord Krsna who is real husband & master of all women. (Dusta mana by

BSST, verse 3)

 

asankalpaj jayet kamam

krodham kama-vivarjanat

arthanartheksaya lobham

bhayam tattvavamarsanat (SB 7.15.22)

 

By making plans with determination, one should give up lusty desires for sense

gratification. Similarly, by giving up envy one should conquer anger, by

discussing the disadvantages of accumulating wealth one should give up greed,

and by discussing the truth one should give up fear.

 

PURPORT

Srila Visvanatha Cakravarti Thakura has suggested how one can conquer lusty

desires for sense gratification. One cannot give up thinking of women, for

thinking in this way is natural; even while walking on the street, one will see

so many women. However, if one is determined not to live with a woman, even

while seeing a woman he will not become lusty. If one is determined not to have

sex, he can automatically conquer lusty desires. The example given in this

regard is that even if one is hungry, if on a particular day he is determined

to observe fasting, he can naturally conquer the disturbances of hunger and

thirst. If one is determined not to be envious of anyone, he can naturally

conquer anger. Similarly, one can give up the desire to accumulate wealth

simply by considering how difficult it is to protect the money in one's

possession. If one keeps a large amount of cash with him, he is always anxious

about keeping it properly. Thus if one discusses the disadvantages of

accumulating wealth, he can naturally give up business without difficulty.