Guest guest Posted May 25, 2006 Report Share Posted May 25, 2006 SELF-OBSERVATION The only way someone can be of help to you is in challenging your ideas. If you’re ready to listen and if you’re ready to be challenged, there’s one thing that you can do, but no one can help you. What is this most important thing of all? It’s called self-observation. No one can help you there. No one can give you a method. No one can show you a technique. The moment you pick up a technique, you’re programmed again. But self-observation – watching yourself - is important. It is not the same as self-absorption, where you’re concerned about yourself, worried about yourself. I’m talking about self-observation. What’s that? It means to watch everything in you and around you as far as possibile and watch it as it were happening to someone else. What does that last sentence mean? It means that you do not personalize what is happening to you. It means that you look at things as if you have no connection with them whatsoever. The reason you suffer from your depression amd your anxieties is that you identify with them. You say, “I am depressed”. But this is false. You are not depressed. If you want to be accurate, you might say, “I am experiencing a depression right now”. But you can hardly say, “I am depressed”. You are not your depression. That is but a strange trick of the mind, a strange kind of illusion. You have deluded yourself into thinking – though you are not aware of it – that you are your depression, that you are your anxiety, that you are your joy or the thrills that you have. “I am delighted!” You certainly are not delighted. Delight may be in you right now, but wait around, it will change; it won’t last: it never lasts; it keeps changing: it’s always changing. Clouds come and go: some of them are black and some white, some of them are large, others small. If we want to follow the analogy, you would be the sky, observing the clouds. You are a passive, detached observer. That’s shocking, particulary to someone in the Western culture. You’re not interfering. Don’t interfere. Don’t “fix” anything. Watch! Observe! The trouble with people is that they’re busy fixing things they don’t even understand. We’re always fixing things, aren’t we? It never strikes us, that things don’t need to be fixed. The need to be understood. If you understood them, they’d change. Anthony De Mello Awareness Fount An inprint of HarperCollins Publishers Talk is cheap. Use Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2006 Report Share Posted May 26, 2006 Vanakkam! the habits of the mind are hard to break..... the GRACE is required... Anbudan michael bindel <michael_bindel > wrote: SELF-OBSERVATION The only way someone can be of help to you is in challenging your ideas. If you’re ready to listen and if you’re ready to be challenged, there’s one thing that you can do, but no one can help you. What is this most important thing of all? It’s called self-observation. No one can help you there. No one can give you a method. No one can show you a technique. The moment you pick up a technique, you’re programmed again. But self-observation – watching yourself - is important. It is not the same as self-absorption, where you’re concerned about yourself, worried about yourself. I’m talking about self-observation. What’s that? It means to watch everything in you and around you as far as possibile and watch it as it were happening to someone else. What does that last sentence mean? It means that you do not personalize what is happening to you. It means that you look at things as if you have no connection with them whatsoever. The reason you suffer from your depression amd your anxieties is that you identify with them. You say, “I am depressed”. But this is false. You are not depressed. If you want to be accurate, you might say, “I am experiencing a depression right now”. But you can hardly say, “I am depressed”. You are not your depression. That is but a strange trick of the mind, a strange kind of illusion. You have deluded yourself into thinking – though you are not aware of it – that you are your depression, that you are your anxiety, that you are your joy or the thrills that you have. “I am delighted!” You certainly are not delighted. Delight may be in you right now, but wait around, it will change; it won’t last: it never lasts; it keeps changing: it’s always changing. Clouds come and go: some of them are black and some white, some of them are large, others small. If we want to follow the analogy, you would be the sky, observing the clouds. You are a passive, detached observer. That’s shocking, particulary to someone in the Western culture. You’re not interfering. Don’t interfere. Don’t “fix” anything. Watch! Observe! The trouble with people is that they’re busy fixing things they don’t even understand. We’re always fixing things, aren’t we? It never strikes us, that things don’t need to be fixed. The need to be understood. If you understood them, they’d change. Anthony De Mello Awareness Fount An inprint of HarperCollins Publishers Talk is cheap. Use Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2006 Report Share Posted May 26, 2006 in my opinion due to self-observations many problems are coming in the life. it is very important to evey one. prasad --- michael bindel <michael_bindel > wrote: > SELF-OBSERVATION > > > The only way someone can be of help to you is in > challenging your ideas. If you’re ready to listen > and if you’re ready to be challenged, there’s one > thing that you can do, but no one can help you. > What is this most important thing of all? It’s > called self-observation. No one can help you there. > No one can give you a method. No one can show you a > technique. The moment you pick up a technique, > you’re programmed again. But self-observation – > watching yourself - is important. It is not the same > as self-absorption, where you’re concerned about > yourself, worried about yourself. I’m talking about > self-observation. What’s that? It means to watch > everything in you and around you as far as possibile > and watch it as it were happening to someone else. > What does that last sentence mean? It means that you > do not personalize what is happening to you. It > means that you look at things as if you have no > connection with them whatsoever. > The reason you suffer from your depression > amd your anxieties is that you identify with them. > You say, “I am depressed”. But this is false. You > are not depressed. If you want to be accurate, you > might say, “I am experiencing a depression right > now”. But you can hardly say, “I am depressed”. You > are not your depression. That is but a strange trick > of the mind, a strange kind of illusion. You have > deluded yourself into thinking – though you are not > aware of it – that you are your depression, that > you are your anxiety, that you are your joy > or the thrills that you have. “I am delighted!” You > certainly are not delighted. Delight may be in > you right now, but wait around, it will change; it > won’t last: it never lasts; it keeps changing: it’s > always changing. Clouds come and go: some of them > are black and some white, some of them are large, > others small. If we want to follow the analogy, you > would be the sky, observing the clouds. You are a > passive, detached > observer. That’s shocking, particulary to someone > in the Western culture. You’re not interfering. > Don’t interfere. Don’t “fix” anything. Watch! > Observe! > The trouble with people is that they’re busy > fixing things they don’t even understand. We’re > always fixing things, aren’t we? It never strikes > us, that things don’t need to be fixed. The need to > be understood. If you understood them, they’d > change. > > > Anthony De Mello Awareness > Fount > An inprint of HarperCollins Publishers > > > > > > > > Talk is cheap. Use Messenger to make > PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2006 Report Share Posted May 26, 2006 pranam, u are correct but try and try until u succeeded. prasad --- mango tree <oldmangotree > wrote: > Vanakkam! > > the habits of the mind are hard to break..... > > the GRACE is required... > > Anbudan > michael bindel <michael_bindel > wrote: > SELF-OBSERVATION > > > The only way someone can be of help to you is in > challenging your ideas. If you’re ready to listen > and if you’re ready to be challenged, there’s one > thing that you can do, but no one can help you. > What is this most important thing of all? It’s > called self-observation. No one can help you there. > No one can give you a method. No one can show you a > technique. The moment you pick up a technique, > you’re programmed again. But self-observation – > watching yourself - is important. It is not the same > as self-absorption, where you’re concerned about > yourself, worried about yourself. I’m talking about > self-observation. What’s that? It means to watch > everything in you and around you as far as possibile > and watch it as it were happening to someone else. > What does that last sentence mean? It means that you > do not personalize what is happening to you. It > means that you look at things as if you have no > connection with them whatsoever. > The reason you suffer from your depression > amd your anxieties is that you identify with them. > You say, “I am depressed”. But this is false. You > are not depressed. If you want to be accurate, you > might say, “I am experiencing a depression right > now”. But you can hardly say, “I am depressed”. You > are not your depression. That is but a strange trick > of the mind, a strange kind of illusion. You have > deluded yourself into thinking – though you are not > aware of it – that you are your depression, that > you are your anxiety, that you are your joy > or the thrills that you have. “I am delighted!” You > certainly are not delighted. Delight may be in > you right now, but wait around, it will change; it > won’t last: it never lasts; it keeps changing: it’s > always changing. Clouds come and go: some of them > are black and some white, some of them are large, > others small. If we want to follow the analogy, you > would be the sky, observing the clouds. You are a > passive, detached observer. > That’s shocking, particulary to someone in the > Western culture. You’re not interfering. Don’t > interfere. Don’t “fix” anything. Watch! Observe! > The trouble with people is that they’re busy > fixing things they don’t even understand. We’re > always fixing things, aren’t we? It never strikes > us, that things don’t need to be fixed. The need to > be understood. If you understood them, they’d > change. > > > Anthony De Mello Awareness > Fount > An inprint of HarperCollins Publishers > > > > > > > Talk is cheap. Use Messenger to make > PC-to-Phone calls. Great rates starting at 1¢/min. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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