The Secret Lives of Wives + This Is Not A Book Review

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Dear Braja Sevaki,

 

Please accept my best wishes. All glories to Srila Prabhupada.

Bhaktivignavinasa Nrsimhadeva Bhagavan kijaya!

 

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> > > >

> > > > Anecdote: I was recently visiting some devotee friends. They told me

> > > > that their neighbor was getting married to a Filapina woman he met

> > > > through a marriage broker. He had been married twice before and

> > > > raped in the divorce courts. My devotee friend told me that a local

> > > > women asked him why did he want to marry a Filapina? His answer "If

> > > > you have to ask you will never know why?" This man was not out

> > > > sexually exploiting loose women (that he had created via his

> > > > involvement in a plot by all males to create feminism for that very

> > > > purpose) and then when it came to marry he went looking for a good

> > > > girl in another country. No he and others like him tried to do the

> > > > decent thing and marry local girls only to get burnt in the process.

> > > > Or, they saw others get burnt so they decided to try a foreign bride

> > > > instead.

> > >

> > > That's like saying every woman around him is "unqualified" to be his

> > > wife. Most likely, it's the other way around....

> >

> >

> > Speculation

>

> No, actually, it's not...what you're asking us to believe is that all

> these men "tried to do the right thing," but somehow or other they all

> attracted absolute witches who saw to it that they were "raped in the

> divorce courts", so I'm wondering what kind of men repeatedly attract such

> low class women who only wish to make their life a misery and drag them

> through court? Bottom line is, everyone gets what they deserve in

> life---that is after all our philosophy---so I can only conclude they're

> not very qualified and can't seem to handle women very well.

>

> No speculation

 

In an earlier text you wrote:

 

>

> Well no offense, but if I was a man I wouldn't want to marry an American

> woman either...

>

 

Speculation: transitive senses

1 : to take to be true on the basis of insufficient evidence.

 

Here is some evidence for you. A link to an article written by a

"individualist feminist" about why American men don't want to marry American

women:

 

http://www.ifeminists.net/introduction/editorials/2003/0812.html

 

Excerpt:

"As a critic of anti-male bias in the family courts, the reasons I hear most

frequently from non-marrying men are fear of financial devastation in

divorce and of losing meaningful contact with children afterward. (Such

feedback is anecdotal evidence but, when you hear the same response over a

period of years from several hundred different sources, it becomes prudent

to listen.)"

 

 

 

The following link leads to an article called the "Marriage Strike" that

spells out pretty much why American men don't want to marry American women.

 

http://www.mattweeks.com/strike.htm

 

Excerpt:

"Take a hypothetical husband who marries and has two children. There is a 50

percent likelihood that this marriage will end in divorce within eight

years, and if it does, the odds are 2-1 it will be the wife who initiates

the divorce. It may not matter that the man was a decent husband. The

reality of the situation is that few divorces are initiated over abuse or

because the man has already abandoned the family. Nor is adultery cited as a

factor by divorcing women appreciably more than by divorcing men.

 

"The new trend that has taken hold of the court system is what are known as

the "no fault" divorce, in which the filing party needs only to cite their

general discontent with the marriage in order to be granted a hearing. Women

initiate these unilateral divorces-on-demand 3 times as often as men.

"While the courts may grant the former spouses joint legal custody, the odds

are nearly 40 to 1 of the wife winning physical custody. Overnight, the

husband, accustomed to seeing his kids every day and being an integral part

of their lives, will now be lucky if he is allowed to see them even one day

out of the week.

 

"Once the couple is divorced, odds are at least even that the wife will

interfere with the husband's visitation rights. Three-quarters of divorced

men surveyed say their ex-wives have interfered with their visitation, and

40 percent of mothers studied admitted that they had done so, and that they

had generally acted out of spite or in order to punish their exes.

 

 

 

The following three links relate to a series of articles by Donna

Laframboise published in The National Post. They explain what it means for a

man to be raped in the divorce courts of Canada.

 

http://www.fact.on.ca/news/news0003/np000325.htm

 

http://www.fact.on.ca/news/news0003/np000327.htm

 

http://www.fact.on.ca/news/news0003/np000328.htm

 

 

The following excerpt tells you the stories told in the above articles:

 

"Today, and on Monday and Tuesday, the National Post will tell you the

stories of fathers who have been driven to suicide by a system deaf to their

pleas. We'll introduce you to a man who is still paying child support for a

23-year-old employed daughter. We'll tell you about an executive with

take-home pay of $7,455 a month who is left with $302 after handing over

child support and alimony to his ex-wife."

 

 

All the above articles and many more like them are archived at

 

http://www.fact.on.ca/news/news0003.htm

 

 

The following link discusses the growing tide of adulterous women in the

USA.

 

http://siddhanta.com/archives/culture/000066.html

 

Excerpt:

 

"The cover story of this week's issue of Newsweek Magazine focuses on

extra-marital affairs among American women--how many married women have

them, why they have them and how they have them. This is important for us in

ISKCON to be aware of because on the periphery of ISKCON, these are some of

the kinds of women we preach to. This also gives us notice of some of the

increasingly negative cultural traits new devotee women bring with them to

ISKCON and which can create further imbalance for themselves, their

families, and the greater ISKCON community."

 

 

 

This final link addresses the general anti-male tone of modern Western

culture, which is being exported:

 

http://www.mcgill.ca/reporter/34/05/misandry/

 

Excerpt:

"Popular Culture's War on Men"

 

"Misogyny is an attitude that nobody in his or her right mind would seek to

defend, and popular culture takes a misogynist stance at its own peril. Not

so, misandry. It is perfectly acceptable -- indeed, common -- to portray men

in misandric terms as violent, vulgar, insensitive boors, argue Paul

Nathanson and Katherine Young in their provocative new book, Spreading

Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture

(McGill-Queen's University Press)."

 

"Their research, which will eventually fill three volumes, is the result of

15 years of discussions between them about gender and its complex role in

society and inter-sexual relations."

 

 

> No, actually, it's not...what you're asking us to believe is that all

> these men "tried to do the right thing," but somehow or other they all

> attracted absolute witches who saw to it that they were "raped in the

> divorce courts", so I'm wondering what kind of men repeatedly attract such

> low class women who only wish to make their life a misery and drag them

> through court?

 

What kind of men? American men. What kind of women? American women. But

actually this could be said of men and women in most of the Western world.

 

>Bottom line is, everyone gets what they deserve in

> life---that is after all our philosophy---

 

Is this also applicable to women in "abusive" relationships and abused

children? Or, is it only men who are not deserving of sympathy, whereas

women and children are the victims (of men).

 

Yours in the service of my eternal master Srila Prabhupada,

 

Shyamasundara Dasa

 

www.ShyamasundaraDasa.com