accepting life

[Guest guest]

Dear all:

 

 

I am coming across statements such as: I am trying to help people but they

don't follow my advice or they do and it backfires on me. I don't want to

help anymore!

 

 

I am also coming across people who are struggling, they are obviously upset,

and they choose to look away: "things will change, they will improve" they

say.

 

 

To be able to help others, it is not enough to offer advice, it is not

enough to have ideas to share or a willingness to help. One must listen from

the heart, from one's entire body, from a neutral yet completely

compassionate place.

 

 

What does it mean to be neutral? Drop your own agenda so it does not matter

whether the other follows your advice or not. It is their life! They are in

charge! I have been given so much advice in my life and most of it was not

for me. The advice came from perspectives that did not consider my spiritual

path into account. How could it have worked?

 

 

What does it mean to be compassionate? It means to love the other so much

that you are willing to let them make "mistakes". Mistakes are only in the

eye of the beholder. Hasn't God let you make your own mistakes? Hasn't life

warned you at times of what you could be doing and you still went your way?

And if you truly see clearly, neutrally, what's best for them, you still

give yourself permission to let them stray. Perhaps the best thing they can

do is to stray one more time. This time they might get it for real, from

experience!

 

 

As teachers we need to experience life as fully as we can so when we teach

we come from experience, not from what we read, not from what others have

taught us. Yes we start from there, but if we teach from there, we are only

robots. Keep the teachings pure, yes. What I am saying though is as you

allow others to stray, allow yourself to stray a little, feel what it is

like to experiment, feel what it's like to learn to be you. And since all of

life is an experiment, it's alright to make mistakes! The more mistakes, the

more daring you are, the more you'll experience. That's where true abundance

comes from!

 

 

Who are you? Who are you really? Can you tell yourself? How are you going to

figure out who you are if you follow paths already laid out? Your path is

you. Even within Buddhism, or within Kundalini Yoga, you still need to stop

looking to the Buddha or to Yogi Bhajan and watch where your light is

guiding you.

 

 

There are many ways to avoid living: One of them is to explain everything

mentally. A lot of new age thoughts or spiritual thoughts get thrown left

and right. For instance: "This person is negative! I can't be around them!"

My question is: "How does this person affect you? Where does it hurt inside

when you are with them?" You need not come across that person ever again.

Just accept the experience that person gave you! Another is to be totally

right brain about it and send the light over everything. Although it might

be a good thing to do, it is still not taking life as it is. When people

send the light like this, they really try to change the world so they don't

have to feel. Left brain or right brain only leads to trouble. Open your

heart to your situation first, accept to feel. You may get a glimpse that

life does not waste experiences. They all have a purpose. They all have gold

for you.

 

 

Blessings,

 

Awtar S.

 

Rochester, NY

[Guest guest]

One day you finally open your mail and you hit the jackpot. One day when you

feel isolated and inadequate you read an eloquent travelogue of your own

journey described by a stranger...and you don't think about it, you experience

your truth in someone else's words...heart to heart. Thank you, Awtar S.