Guest guest Posted July 7, 2006 Report Share Posted July 7, 2006 SAT NAM, I find that I do not like, when others try to become closer to me, want to meet me often etc. There is a friend whose presence makes me feel that she is drawing a lot of energy from me and my instinct is to avoid her presence, she comes to me unwelcomed often. how do I handle such situations? WHy am I not liking people's presence? When in meditation I had a strong feeling to avoid her , not sure why? Has anybody had such experiences? This is contradicting to the notion that people become more peaceful, cherishing others with practising yoga, I dont see that happening to me with friends of my age but I find to welcome and enjoy a lot with kids. ANy input is valued. Thanks AKkama Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2006 Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 Sat Nam Akkamahadevi Avanti Whenever I feel my energy being sapped, I imagine it looping back to me. In other words energy going out and returning to me. As far as not likeing people's presence, sometimes we reach a point where we want to be alone. This does not mean you have swayed from the path, just that you are allowing yourself the space to know yourself better. At one point or another in our lives, we have to stand alone and become soverign. It is sort of a "disconnection" from mass consciousness and overlays from other people that have kept us "stuck". This is one of the things I have learned. Sometimes I get lonely and wish the company of others and when I finally get it, I wish I had not. Having said that, this too shall pass as we evolve. Children are pure and innocent so they don't contribute much to changeing or trying to change our belief systems, which is why you probably enjoy their company. Sunder Kaur Toronto Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2006 Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 ---- Original Message ---- akkamahadevi avanti Kundaliniyoga Friday, July 07, 2006 9:29 PM Kundalini Yoga people's presence > SAT NAM, > I find that I do not like, when others try to become closer to me, > want to meet me often etc. > There is a friend whose presence makes me feel that she is drawing a > lot of energy from > me and my instinct is to avoid her presence, she comes to me > unwelcomed often. > how do I handle such situations? WHy am I not liking people's > presence? When in meditation I had a strong feeling to avoid her , > not sure why? Has anybody had such experiences? > > This is contradicting to the notion that people become more peaceful, > cherishing others with practising yoga, I dont see that happening to > me with friends of my age but I find to welcome and enjoy a lot with > kids. Sat Nam! Starting from my personal experience i tell you that the Yoga pratice helps to me see better the things and the people around me as they are, not as they would be or as i'd like they were: it meant for me not accepting some compromise and sometime having the same feeling you wrote about. Then, try to understand what you dislike in that person.......because the people around us are a mirror.........what we dislike in someone is something we have to work to grow for ourselves. In the end (i'm sorry i can't explain better but my english is a flaw in this situation), when i feel that someone is drawing energy from me i "create" a energetic shield leaning on a mantra (the first you made me think is "Add sach, jugad sach, Haibhee sach, Nanak hosee bhee sach"). I hope it can help you! Greetings from Rome AC Sujan Singh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2006 Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 SAT NAM, i am not giving any suggestion because me too am a pray of the same problem. i too dont like people's company much and enjoy time spent with kids very much. what i feel is that serious things like meditation and philosophy has turned me like this and often wonder that meditation is supposed a make a person more cheerful. i enjoy people's company when a serious issue is being discussed and the discussion is more like arguement. but the light and easy going topics discussed by my friends everyday makes me bored and if i try to participate somehow it becomes like an artificial task just done for the sake. Is this the same problem with you? I am feeling very satisfied to have found a person with same problem. I always thought i am the only one suffering in this angle. anyway let me know if you get any solution to this. ___________Aparajita akkamahadevi avanti <akku96 > wrote: SAT NAM, I find that I do not like, when others try to become closer to me, want to meet me often etc. There is a friend whose presence makes me feel that she is drawing a lot of energy from me and my instinct is to avoid her presence, she comes to me unwelcomed often. how do I handle such situations? WHy am I not liking people's presence? When in meditation I had a strong feeling to avoid her , not sure why? Has anybody had such experiences? This is contradicting to the notion that people become more peaceful, cherishing others with practising yoga, I dont see that happening to me with friends of my age but I find to welcome and enjoy a lot with kids. ANy input is valued. Thanks AKkama Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Dear Akkama: You don't have to like anyone's presence. You are here to love people. Loving simply means to seek in yourself your connection to their soul, their SAT NAM, and hold it in your heart. That may be very different from what they project or believe about themselves. By holding only the truth, you help them find themselves and you are not in judgment of what you don't like. What you don't like does not matter anymore. You don't have any obligation to want to be with anyone. When I meet someone interested to be around me I ask myself: Is this someone I trust? Is this someone I need to teach/heal? Is this someone I could be friends with? Is this someone I could enter a business relationship with? Is this someone I want to spend time with? And to each question, why? or why not? I try to be as honest with myself as I can with each of these questions. It is not that I think of these questions each time I meet someone, only if I find myself hesitating about what may be happening. Blessings, Awtar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Sat Nam, I too experience this with other people's presence. For myself I think it is a few things. One is our yoga practice has us becoming more conciously aware of those who are taking energy. I find now I choose to spend time with those who share as well, so it is a give and take to both sides. It is uplifting, and empowering for both people. A true exchange of energies. Some people choose to take energies from others rather than connect to Source themselves, some do it conciously many do not know what they are doing. I believe I owe it to myself and them to gently share what my experience is with that person if it is someone who is in my life. Some people are not aware until we share this with them. This way we give them the oppportunity for self growth, if they choose, and to grow in our relationship with them. And we get to speak our truth so we can claim that equal energy exchange in our relationships. For in claiming it we allow it to come forward. It has been a lesson that has taken sometime to integrate. And I am grateful for it's gifts. Sat Nam, Cass Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Dear Akkamma, Am glad to inform you that I too have this experience. But probably it has something to do with ego. I have consciously learnt to accept everyone and share in their conversations -- still going through the process -- I'm beginning to enjoy 'small talk' as well. I had a friend who used to deplete me of my energy -- she stayed with me for about 6 months. I finally gathered the courage to ask her to leave and go and live on her own. Today I'm happy for my decision. Nothing wrong in preserving your SELF. Theresa There is a friend whose presence makes me feel that she is drawing a lot of energy from me and my instinct is to avoid her presence, she comes to me unwelcomed often. how do I handle such situations? WHy am I not liking people's presence? When in meditation I had a strong feeling to avoid her , not sure why? Has anybody had such experiences? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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