Please analyze my case - I will be very cruel 11/8

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Shri Prashant Sahab,

 

Yes Sir,When we are writing so fast,then such contemplation does not

come. So that example came readily in mind without giving time to

polish the writing. As an after thought what You mentioned is very

right.

 

Regards,

Bhaskar.

 

 

 

, Prashant Kumar G B

<gbp_kumar wrote:

>

> Bhaskar

> the best thing u can show one who has lost a shoe is one who

doesnt have a footwear anything else is really cruel.

>

>

> bhaskar_jyotish <bhaskar_jyotish

wrote: Dear

Prafullaji.

> Agreed life is not so cruel.You have written maturely.

>

> When a person has lost his shoe it is always better

> to show the cruel side of fate,ie. a man with no feet.

> so the pain becomes lesser.

>

> These explanations are all relative to various circumstances

> and keep changing to suit different people, scenes and situations.

>

> Otherwise, life is beautiful.

>

> Regards,

> Bhaskar.

>

> -

>

> -- In , Prafulla Gang <jyotish@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Dear Bhaskar ji

> >

> > Life is not that cruel as well. Yes there are difficulties in

> reltions..but many of these, if approached properly - can be

> balanced. Or atleast, one can repay his karmic debts.

> >

> > Each one of us go through this cylce, and "not expecting from

> anyone" becomes too philosophical. It is impossible situation in

our

> life to ignore any such issues. Adopt to the circumstances and

facing

> them open heart / mind is the key.

> >

> > Somewhere on the thread, there was concern for non response

from

> astrologers. My question, even if some astrologer can volunteer

to

> help - how does one know that, it will help!!! Each one has his

> priorities and can not really complain from others, who do not

owe

> them anything. and If there is karmic debt, then those people

will be

> prompted to answer as well. At some stage, when complaining

becomes a

> habbit, it torments the relations. So I always belive that, if

one is

> suffering from relations - firstly stop complaining, then think -

if

> you could fulfill your obligations selflessly and finally, even

if

> the problem persist - take it as karmic debt. Until then,

creditor is

> not obliged to be nice with you. This happens with all of us, and

I

> have gone through difficult phases on relationships (not

necessarily

> with spouse); but since then, I feel it as karmic debt, I am much

> more easy and happier. Yes, expectation still remains that one

day,

> karmic debt will be repaid and things will be back to normalcy.

> >

> > regards / Prafulla Gang

> >

> > The long span of the bridge of your life is supported by

countless

> cables called habits, attitudes, and desires. What you do in life

> depends upon what you are and what you want. What you get from

life

> depends upon how much you want it, how much you are willing to

work

> and plan and co-operate and use your resources. The long span of

the

> bridge of your life is supported by countless cables that you are

> spinning now, and that is why today is such an important day.

Make

> the cables strong!!

> >

> >

> > >

> > > bhaskar_jyotish@

> > > Fri, 11 Aug 2006 06:54:38 -0000

> > >

> > > Re: Please analyze my case - I will be very

> grateful...

> > >

> > > Dear Sandeep,

> > >

> > > We all share your pain and sympathise with You.

> > > Next time in any relation stop expecting,

> > > Apeksha ki upeksha karo.

> > > Sab rishte bemani hai.

> > > No one is ours on this earth,

> > > Koi apna nahi sab sapna hai.

> > > Milan ka sukh sirf uparwale se milega.

> > > Actual pleasure of love can only be gotten from Him.

> > > Toh sirf use pyaar karo.

> > > Abhi Tumne jawani mein uska haath pakda toh phir woh bhi

tumhare

> > > budhape mein,tumhara haath nahi chodenge.

> > > Apna kartavya palan karo, aur baki sab chod do.

> > > Pyar karo tum sabse, magar,

> > > umeed na karo,ke koi tumhe kare.

> > > Neki kar dariya mein daal,

> > > mat kar kisise saval.

> > > Kuch salon baad, na tum rahoge,

> > > na hum rahenge.

> > > na woh rahenge,

> > > samay barbad karna kyon ,

> > > in jhamelon mein, ke

> > > usne yeh kiya,usne woh kiya.

> > > Hathi jab savari karta hai,

> > > tab machar ki fikar nahi karta.

> > > woh to apni mast chal mein chalta hai,

> > > tum bhi chalte raho,

> > > jeevan mein aage bhi tumhare

> > > ayenge bahut caravan (mele),

> > > tum bi hamesha nahi rahoge akele,

> > > Karo us wakt ka intejar,

> > > jub tumhe milega tumhara pyaar.

> > >

> > > See I have personally had many relationships and break ups,

> > > so have experienced, dot worry this is a passing phase.

> > > Take care,

> > >

> > > regards,

> > > Bhaskar.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > , Prathamesn Chawan

> > > <upaoakcrest@> wrote:

> > >>

> > >> Dear Sandeep

> > >>

> > >> I am sorry to hear your pain. Let me share you my pain. It

will

> > > help you a bit.

> > >>

> > >> I met a girl in one of my class. She was having bf for

past 5

> > > years. But she started showing me her interest in me. I was

also

> > > intereted in her. One day she said that she loves me. I also

felt

> > > myself in love with her. I used to help her in her studies. I

made

> > > her whole project report and did everything to make her

happy. I

> used

> > > to taker her out on expensive dates. I asked her many times

that

> She

> > > should leave that other boy and its bad to cheat someone. I

> requested

> > > her that either dont cheat or leave him. Everytime i asked

this

> she

> > > used to say that she wants to know me more or else she used

to

> cry.

> > >>

> > >> One day when semester was over she said to me that she

cant

> meet

> > > me so often because of heavy work schedule. I was stunned on

this.

> > > But she also said that she loves me. I felt very strange and

i

> felt

> > > that we should not hide anything from that other boy. I told

that

> > > other boy about our relation. She filed complained against me

> that i

> > > am harrassing her.

> > >>

> > >> Circustances were such that i could not understand why

she did

> > > so while i am just trying to make this straight. After 2

months of

> > > her complaints i bought present and a greeting card for her.

She

> > > again call the police and pressed charges against me.

> > >>

> > >> From that day my life became hell. I spent 6000 dollars on

> > > attorneys. My mental peace was lost. Life became hell. All

this

> > > happened last year. I was 23 years old. I did not tell my

parents

> > > about it as i dont want them to suffer because of my pain. So

i

> > > continued to suffer alone.

> > >>

> > >> I came to find the solution in the astrological forums. I

was

> in

> > > a fear that i may get deported. 60 % of astrologers said that

i

> will

> > > be deported and 40 % said No.

> > >>

> > >> Eventually case settled down and i had to pay 200 dollar

fine

> to

> > > Court.

> > >>

> > >>

> > >> But as time passed i had to suffer few more weird

situation

> which

> > > just happened to me. I wish if i can share it with you but

> because of

> > > some personal reason i dont want.

> > >>

> > >> I dont expect that anything will change in your life so

soon.

> But

> > > i just want to let you know that you are not alone in this

world.

> > >>

> > >> Take Care

> > >>

> > >> Jagdish

> > >>

> > >>

> > >>

> > >> "Sandeep M. Bhammer" <s_bhammer@> wrote:

> > >> Anilji -

> > >>

> > >> Thanks for writing particularly because you are only one of

two

> > >> people who wrote to me (the other being one Mr. Prashant who

was

> > >> also very kind to respond). I am really disappointed with the

> > >> response rate of this site (people spend more time talking

about

> > >> fees and political sensitive astrological issues rather than

> > > helping

> > >> people like me who come here to get some answers with our

> > >> dysfunctional lives - not one astrologer has bothered to

write

> > >> back). I am both happy (because I dont feel alone being the

only

> > >> person this has happened to) but at the same time sad

(because I

> > >> know the pain you might have already gone through as I am

going

> > >> through now) after hearing from you. Yes, I am looking

forward

> to a

> > >> better life than what I have had so far. I could never in a

1000

> > >> years imagined that my wife would have cheated on me! I

worked my

> > >> butt off to provide her the best life. But as you rightly

pointed

> > >> out, maybe this is the best thing that could be happening to

me.

> > > But

> > >> its sad because its the death of something you loved and

> nurtured.

> > > I

> > >> am afraid that my kid will be poisoned against me given how

young

> > >> she is but what can I do ? I can only hope she grows up and

is

> able

> > >> to think for her self. I am an Indian citizen but a green

card

> > >> holder as is my wife (and she knows this is a positive for

her)

> so

> > >> she has decided to file for divorce in the US to take

advantage

> of

> > >> this system. Its a no fault system so even though she has

cheated

> > > on

> > >> me, it doesnt change the fact that she gets a huge payout

from

> this

> > >> situation. Isnt it great that a woman who cheats on her

husband

> > > gets

> > >> half his hard earned money while she is with someone else

and

> also

> > >> gets to keep the kid ??? The only thing I can hope for is

karma.

> > >> What goes around, comes around and there is a God up there.

But

> > > hey,

> > >> I just wanted to write to let you know how much I appreciate

you

> > >> writing. Thanks again.

> > >>

> > >> , "Anil Krishnan"

> > >> <thuttu@> wrote:

> > >>>

> > >>> Sandeep,

> > >>>

> > >>> I am not an Astrologer or a Psycologist. But I know your

> > >> situation,

> > >>> because I have been there.

> > >>>

> > >>> First of all, don't lose your patience, and be courageous.

Hope

> > >> for

> > >>> good things to happen. I can only give you a moral support.

Just

> > >>> think about what you want to achieve in your life. Do you

want

> to

> > >>> waste your precious time thinking about a cheating, blood

> sucking

> > >>> wife? Ofcourse we cannot giveup our kids, we have to support

> > > them.

> > >>> And one-day, you will get your kid back.

> > >>>

> > >>> What you need is a legal advice. If you are an Indian

Citizen,

> > > you

> > >>> can file a petition in India rather than in US. If you have

the

> > >>> proof that your wife was cheating, you can use it against

her.

> So

> > >>> please consult a good lawyer.

> > >>>

> > >>> Regards,

> > >>> Anil

> > >>>

> > >>> , "Sandeep M.

Bhammer"

> > >>> <s_bhammer@> wrote:

> > >>>>

> > >>>> DOB - Feb 5, 1973

> > >>>> Place of birth - Mumbai (Bombay)

> > >>>> Time of birth - 7.53 am

> > >>>>

> > >>>> Background :

> > >>>>

> > >>>> 1. I thought my life was fine until Aug last year when I

> > >> suspected

> > >>> that

> > >>>> my wife was involved emotionally and physically with

someone

> > >> else.

> > >>> This

> > >>>> was confirmed in Dec 2005.

> > >>>> 2. I accepted her back due to the fact we have a child

together

> > >>> her

> > >>>> apology to me and in spite of that, she and her mother

made my

> > >>> life

> > >>>> living hell. I felt I did not deserve this as I was

wornged by

> > >> my

> > >>> wife

> > >>>> in the first place. Her mother has always been totally

> > >> interfering

> > >>> in

> > >>>> our life right from early days of our marriage given my

wife

> > > was

> > >>> her

> > >>>> only child.

> > >>>> 3. When I threatened seperation, she went and filed for

divorce

> > >> in

> > >>> the

> > >>>> US (even though I only threatened seperation but did not

ever

> > >>> intend to

> > >>>> follow through on it) and under US law, has claimed all of

my

> > >> self

> > >>>> created wealth. Every day is like death now (but yet, I

feel

> > > sad

> > >>> not

> > >>>> because I am losing all I made to her but because the

woman I

> > >>> loved and

> > >>>> was married to for 7 years did this to me and I cant and

dont

> > >>>> understand why I am a victim of such misery because I was

> > > always

> > >> a

> > >>>> loving and dedicated husband and father (even people who

know

> > > us

> > >>> say

> > >>>> so). Particularly, I worked really hard to give my family a

> > > good

> > >>> life

> > >>>> (often getting very little sleep and not eating) and got

paid

> > > in

> > >>> return

> > >>>> like this !!!)

> > >>>> 4. I was likely to return to India with my entire family

in Aug

> > >>> this

> > >>>> year permanently (we even bought a house in Mumbai) and

now she

> > >>> has

> > >>>> decided that she does not want to return to India for at

least

> > >>> another

> > >>>> 5 years. This means I will be seperated from my daughter

> > >>> physically as

> > >>>> I will be in India and my wife and daugter will be in the

US.

> > >>>> 4. To add fuel to the fire, I was asked by the company I

work

> > >> for

> > >>> to

> > >>>> relocate to Singapore instead of India. Since I have

already

> > >> gone

> > >>>> through an emotionally traumatic time due to my pending

> > > divorce,

> > >>> the

> > >>>> fact of not being around my loved ones (my dad, uncles,

aunts,

> > >>>> grandmother, etc) after my divorce and living in a totally

new

> > >>> country

> > >>>> was unacceptable (esp since the company had promised me an

> > > India

> > >>>> relocation earlier). When I said I couldnt relocate to

Sing,

> > >>> inspite of

> > >>>> my excellent performance at the job which is well known by

all,

> > >>> they

> > >>>> have asked me to leave the company (albeit they are asking

me

> > > to

> > >>>> continue as a consultant rather than a full time employee).

> > >>>>

> > >>>> So now, here is what I am faced with and am looking for

> advice :

> > >>>> 1. Why is this happening to me ? Am I going to get

divorced for

> > >>> sure ?

> > >>>> Will my wife ever regret what she is doing ? And why is she

> > >> doing

> > >>> what

> > >>>> she is doing ? (I was told she is a Manglik (her date of

birth

> > >> is

> > >>> Aug

> > >>>> 21, 1977 in Calcutta at 12.20 pm) but we had a love

marriage

> > > and

> > >> I

> > >>> was

> > >>>> adamant about marrying her anyway so did not pay attention

to

> > >> this

> > >>> at

> > >>>> that time - and I am not a Manglik - but it is too late to

do

> > >>> anything

> > >>>> about that now as I was married for 7 years). She is

moving out

> > >> of

> > >>> our

> > >>>> house in a couple of weeks and has got herself a new place

to

> > >>> stay. She

> > >>>> is taking vacations and doesnt seem to be bothered at all

by

> > > the

> > >>> whole

> > >>>> thing.

> > >>>> 2. Due to my excellent professional reputation, I have been

> > >>> offered

> > >>>> another job that gives me an opportunity to relocate to

India

> > >> but

> > >>> with

> > >>>> not as much money. Should I accept this or continue to

look for

> > >>>> something else ? My financial commitments (due to the US

law)

> > >> are

> > >>> very

> > >>>> stiff due to child support payable in US dollars (even

after I

> > >> pay

> > >>>> everything I have to my wife) while I earn in Indian

rupees.

> > >> While

> > >>> I

> > >>>> will still be able to manage these payments with this new

job

> > >>> inspite

> > >>>> of staying in India, I will not be able to save anything

for

> > >>> myself to

> > >>>> lead a comfortable life. Or will I be alright ?

> > >>>> 3. Is remarriage for me on the cards ever (if not, I am

> > >> acceptable

> > >>> to

> > >>>> this fact) or do I have to spend the next years of my life

> > > alone

> > >>> (it is

> > >>>> likely that my wife will get remarried very soon from the

looks

> > >> of

> > >>> it

> > >>>> as she is totally unemotional about the whole thing and

wants

> > > to

> > >>> hurry

> > >>>> the divorce as soon as possible).

> > >>>> 4. I have to sell my house to pay my wife. Although I have

put

> > >> the

> > >>>> house on the market for sale, there are no takers. This has

> > >>> created

> > >>>> more pressure on me. I have a beautiful house and people

who

> > >> have

> > >>>> visited have loved it and cant believe I have to sell it.

Yet,

> > >>> there is

> > >>>> no bid for it from anyone given that the housing market is

> > > slow.

> > >>> Will

> > >>>> it get sold soon so that I can pay her and if so, when ?

> > >>>> 5. Most importantly my child...I love my child more than

> > >> anything

> > >>> else

> > >>>> in the world. What will happen to her after our divorce and

> > >>>> particularly, my relationship with her esp due to the fact

that

> > >> I

> > >>> will

> > >>>> relocate to India and she will continue to be with her

mother

> > > in

> > >>> the

> > >>>> US ? Will she come back to me and realize what type of

woman

> > > her

> > >>> mother

> > >>>> is !

> > >>>> 5. Both my wife and me are running Shani Mahadasha (I have

been

> > >>> doing

> > >>>> Hanuman Chalisa and wearing 14 mukhi rudraksh and also

doing

> > >> Shani

> > >>>> Chalisa and wearing iron ring on middle finger of my right

> > >> hand).

> > >>> AND

> > >>>> SHE IS MANGLIK TOO. Wife does not believe in all this. She

> > >> thinks

> > >>> I am

> > >>>> crazy because I do this and requested her to do these

remedies

> > >> as

> > >>>> suggested by people in India. I also have Kalp Sarp Yog.

> > >> However,

> > >>> I am

> > >>>> told that there is nothing wrong with my horoscope and that

> > >> really

> > >>> good

> > >>>> days are to come once I get divorced both financially and

> > >>> otherwise. I

> > >>>> have also been told that my wife is likely to undergo a

very

> > > bad

> > >>> time

> > >>>> after our divorce esp she will have severe remorse very

soon

> > >> (this

> > >>> has

> > >>>> been told to me by our family astrologer) for what she has

> > > done.

> > >>> Is

> > >>>> this true ? I am concerned because it will affect the life

of

> > > my

> > >>>> daughter in particular if my wife is having a bad time as

my

> > >>> daughter

> > >>>> will be with her.

> > >>>>

> > >>>> Please analyze my case and let me know what the stars say.

I

> > >> will

> > >>> be

> > >>>> eternally grateful. Thank you and God bless you all.

> > >>>>

> > >>>

> > >>

> > >>

> > >>

> > >>

> > >>

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