To Gary about relationships, astrology ,karma

[Guest guest]

Gary wrote:

 

....I am new to the group and to the

website. The topics seem to be what has been going on in my life. I

have been living with a sad and painful heart the past few months or

less. A recent breakup with a loved one is so difficult and very

hard. It is a slow process to feel everyday this sadness and

depression.

Dear Gary ~ this is a good place for you to be hanging out in terms of what

you're going through. I know it has helped me, especially chanting the Chandi.

I won't say I know how you feel, but I do empathize because I have been in

an off/on again relationship for 6 years. This weekend, we decided to split

and I was in a terrible state of loss and grief that seemed it would never end.

Then my hubby came back, hat in hand, and we agreed to try again.

Personally, given the patterns so far, I don't think it will work out. I'm not sure I

want it to work out. That realization, which only came after I got what I

thought I wanted (hubby saying he would try, go to anger management class, etc.).

He promised this once before and never made the arrangements. So far, it is

the same. I think if I/we decide to split again, I will feel grief, but it

will not be so dire as what I endured this weekend. My heart goes out to you,

and I'm very glad you're here. Blessings ~ Linda

 

P.S. being part of this group, doing the sankalpas as my capacity has

allowed, being part of the prayer club, staying connected to Maa and Swamiji ~

these have been my anchor. When I wrote to Swamiji not long ago saying I was

grieving the loss of my mother (who died in July) and now what looked like the

loss of my hubby, and what should I do, he wrote back and encouraged me to chant

the Durga mantra: Om Hrim Shrim Dum Durgayai Namaha (if I have left

anything out of the mantra, Nanda, Srini ... please post it correctly.) I go to

sleep alone every night because my husband is more in love with his computer

gaming, but I am not really alone because I fall asleep chanting this mantra.

[Guest guest]

Om Namah Shivaya!

 

It is really painful when you experience break up with your loved

one. As far me, I had to face the death of my wife two years before

(July 2004). That was really a blow for me. Then in 2005, my marriage

was arranged in august and I really liked the girl whom I was to marry.

But the girl refused to marry on the last day. In Jan 2006, I married

to another girl. But she lived with me only for five days and filed for

divorce and got that.

 

Why all these things happened? I am beginning to understand the

spiritual truth of all these happenings now. when my wife died in July

2004, if I look into spiritual perspective I understand, she has

completed her mission for me. If I am to move into next stage, her

presence wouldn't have worked. (This is a spiritual point which I

realise very late though I was depressed off and on till mar: 2006 and

felt a big void.) I should not have looked to a new relationship to

fill a void because relationship is a place where I am to show what I

can do for the beloved. You must not go into relationship to get

security in life as security is provided only by God. As I was

insecure, I attracted insecure girls who left me.

 

Hope this helps you. You can always ask God what went wrong in your

relationship and get answer in your heart.

 

Cheers and Amma bless you,

 

Mahadevan venkitaraman

, nierika wrote:

>

> Gary wrote:

>

> ...I am new to the group and to the

> website. The topics seem to be what has been going on in my life. I

> have been living with a sad and painful heart the past few months or

> less. A recent breakup with a loved one is so difficult and very

> hard. It is a slow process to feel everyday this sadness and

> depression.