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Dear Family,

 

Namaste!

 

Our Beloved Swamiji has answered several questions on goal-setting that came up in our

chat session and Henny's question. Food for thought!

 

Sincerely,

srini

 

Kali: If your goal is devotion, what would be the path and sankalpa?

 

Answer: The continuous prayer for increase in devotion is the way to increase devotion.

Love is such an entity that the more we give it away, the more it grows.

 

Prasanna: How to make a goal (resolve) and yet be detached from the goal itself.

 

Answer: Defining a pure goal which includes renunciation and making our motives pure

will yield the proper results. Some attachments are pure and will lead us to freedom. Some

attachments are a bondage. The function of discrimination is to determine what is

appropriate

according to each of our circumstances.

 

Ann: How to know where to draw the line between being motivated and letting go of the

result?

 

Answer: When the result is to be enjoyed by others, we can be motivated and unattached

at the same time.

 

Raghu: How does one set goals and works at it while weakening the sense of doership

rather than enahancing it

 

Answer: It is not a bad concept to become a servant of God. But remember, the servant

does his or her best, but remembers the Master will enjoy the fruits. The servant rejoices

in doing his or her best with a pure heart.

 

Henny's question on the club based on class --

My question is: are we always able to judge what would

be best for us?

 

I mean, isn't there a tendency to choose steps which are either too comfortable/easy, or

too difficult/ambitious (when learning how to perform puja, I could choose to add one

mantra a month or I could have the ambition to master the advanced Shiva Puja in that

time.) So in the first case you could be tempted to think you are doing fine, while actually

you are not moving at all, and in the second case you would think you had chosen the

wrong goal, while all you did was bite off more than you could chew.

 

I also find it is not always easy to evaluate if some situation I have maneuvered myself into

is taking me towards or away from the goal. For instance, some years ago I decided to

take a simple part time job in order to have more time for spiritual practice. Now I have

more time, but really dislike the job. Does this dislike take me away from my goal because

I spend too much time fretting about it and I feel I waste talents I could have put to better

use, or does it actually take me closer because it gives me a chance to practice humility

and selfless service?

 

How well do we know ourselves and how do we judge our own strengths and weaknesses?

 

What would be the role of a guru in this?

 

Answer:

There are many issues which you have raised. Too Much and Too Little are constantly

plaguing us, so that determination is a matter of constant rebalancing. We require to

adjust our schedule at least daily, if not many times during the day. There is no One Final

Determination until we remain in Samadhi.

 

However, I find it helpful to establish minimum performance goals, as well as an ultimate

objective. I started with the minimum discipline of learning two mantras a week.

Sometimes I could learn more, but

that was my minimum. That become a minimum of 100 new mantras a year, and that was

almost 40 years ago.

 

Little by little we grow organically.

 

Regarding employment, sometimes an easy repetitive task gives us the capacity to keep

our mind in the mantra. We can recite texts inwardly while we are performing, so that the

routine work becomes an expression of our love for God. Then we find more time and

capacity to serve God in other ways without thinking about remuneration.

 

We can also utilize our skills and talents in serving humanity with our knowledge. Both

ways have their place.

 

Raghu: Brahmacharya is often defined as celibacy but You define it as sacred study. What

is the relationship between these two concepts?

 

Answer:

Actually Brahma means Supreme Divinity or God. Chari to walk or move. Who moves with

God is a Brahmachari.

 

Traditionally there are four ashramas of life: Brahmacari, Grihasta, Vanaprastha, Sannyasa.

Brahmacari is generally known as student life, where we learn how to make our

contribution to Life. Students were not earning members of the community and as they

were occupied by studies, circumstances in our classical culture dictated abstinence.

Therefore, celibacy was an

important aspect of student life. But most important is learning.

 

Grihasta is defined as Griha Avastha, who is situated in a house - a householder. The duty

of the householder is to make a contribution to society, to Life, and to free him self or her

self from the debts of karma.

 

Vanaprastha is one who has one foot in the samsara and one foot outside, who has passed

responsibility to heirs, and assumes a managerial position.

 

And Sannyasa is someone who is attached to truth, wandering free from attachment.

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Dear Srini,

 

please convey to Shri Swamiji my heartfelt thanks for answering our

questions on goals. In the answer to my own question, Swamiji has

demonstrated to me what the role of a guru is in all this, without a

doubt.

 

with love,

Henny

 

, "srini_sadhu" <srini_sadhu

wrote:

>

> Dear Family,

>

> Namaste!

>

> Our Beloved Swamiji has answered several questions on goal-setting

that came up in our

> chat session and Henny's question. Food for thought!

>

> Sincerely,

> srini

>

> Kali: If your goal is devotion, what would be the path and sankalpa?

>

> Answer: The continuous prayer for increase in devotion is the way to

increase devotion.

> Love is such an entity that the more we give it away, the more it

grows.

>

> Prasanna: How to make a goal (resolve) and yet be detached from the

goal itself.

>

> Answer: Defining a pure goal which includes renunciation and making

our motives pure

> will yield the proper results. Some attachments are pure and will

lead us to freedom. Some

> attachments are a bondage. The function of discrimination is to

determine what is

> appropriate

> according to each of our circumstances.

>

> Ann: How to know where to draw the line between being motivated and

letting go of the

> result?

>

> Answer: When the result is to be enjoyed by others, we can be

motivated and unattached

> at the same time.

>

> Raghu: How does one set goals and works at it while weakening the

sense of doership

> rather than enahancing it

>

> Answer: It is not a bad concept to become a servant of God. But

remember, the servant

> does his or her best, but remembers the Master will enjoy the

fruits. The servant rejoices

> in doing his or her best with a pure heart.

>

> Henny's question on the club based on class --

> My question is: are we always able to judge what would

> be best for us?

>

> I mean, isn't there a tendency to choose steps which are either too

comfortable/easy, or

> too difficult/ambitious (when learning how to perform puja, I could

choose to add one

> mantra a month or I could have the ambition to master the advanced

Shiva Puja in that

> time.) So in the first case you could be tempted to think you are

doing fine, while actually

> you are not moving at all, and in the second case you would think

you had chosen the

> wrong goal, while all you did was bite off more than you could

chew.

>

> I also find it is not always easy to evaluate if some situation I

have maneuvered myself into

> is taking me towards or away from the goal. For instance, some

years ago I decided to

> take a simple part time job in order to have more time for

spiritual practice. Now I have

> more time, but really dislike the job. Does this dislike take me

away from my goal because

> I spend too much time fretting about it and I feel I waste talents I

could have put to better

> use, or does it actually take me closer because it gives me a chance

to practice humility

> and selfless service?

>

> How well do we know ourselves and how do we judge our own strengths

and weaknesses?

>

> What would be the role of a guru in this?

>

> Answer:

> There are many issues which you have raised. Too Much and Too Little

are constantly

> plaguing us, so that determination is a matter of constant

rebalancing. We require to

> adjust our schedule at least daily, if not many times during the

day. There is no One Final

> Determination until we remain in Samadhi.

>

> However, I find it helpful to establish minimum performance goals,

as well as an ultimate

> objective. I started with the minimum discipline of learning two

mantras a week.

> Sometimes I could learn more, but

> that was my minimum. That become a minimum of 100 new mantras a

year, and that was

> almost 40 years ago.

>

> Little by little we grow organically.

>

> Regarding employment, sometimes an easy repetitive task gives us the

capacity to keep

> our mind in the mantra. We can recite texts inwardly while we are

performing, so that the

> routine work becomes an expression of our love for God. Then we find

more time and

> capacity to serve God in other ways without thinking about

remuneration.

>

> We can also utilize our skills and talents in serving humanity with

our knowledge. Both

> ways have their place.

>

> Raghu: Brahmacharya is often defined as celibacy but You define it

as sacred study. What

> is the relationship between these two concepts?

>

> Answer:

> Actually Brahma means Supreme Divinity or God. Chari to walk or

move. Who moves with

> God is a Brahmachari.

>

> Traditionally there are four ashramas of life: Brahmacari, Grihasta,

Vanaprastha, Sannyasa.

> Brahmacari is generally known as student life, where we learn how to

make our

> contribution to Life. Students were not earning members of the

community and as they

> were occupied by studies, circumstances in our classical culture

dictated abstinence.

> Therefore, celibacy was an

> important aspect of student life. But most important is learning.

>

> Grihasta is defined as Griha Avastha, who is situated in a house - a

householder. The duty

> of the householder is to make a contribution to society, to Life,

and to free him self or her

> self from the debts of karma.

>

> Vanaprastha is one who has one foot in the samsara and one foot

outside, who has passed

> responsibility to heirs, and assumes a managerial position.

>

> And Sannyasa is someone who is attached to truth, wandering free

from attachment.

>

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Hi Everyone ~

 

We read the class prep material and transcripts, are following the on-line

dialogue, and hope to join the Saturday discussion. Here's a question for Swami

related to this interchange:

 

Prasanna: How to make a goal (resolve) and yet be detached from the goal

itself.

 

Answer: Defining a pure goal which includes renunciation and making our

motives pure

will yield the proper results. Some attachments are pure and will lead us to

freedom. Some

attachments are a bondage. The function of discrimination is to determine

what is

appropriate according to each of our circumstances.

 

Question: How is living one's dharma and being in alignment with the yamas in

every moment not sufficient for living a pure life?

 

Love,

 

Shubal & Durga

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I don't intend to reply to your question Shubal, but your reference to

the class discussion pertaining to having a goal and nonattachment,

brought to mind a point I wanted to make.

 

Nonattachment is often misunderstood, at least as I understand it. I

think it applies specifically to this samsara, to the objects and

relationships of this existence. I don't think it's intended to

describe our relationship or aspirations toward divinity.

 

Only if we are detached from attachments to objects and relationships,

the the pairs of opposites, can we experience the fulness of divine

experience. The heart must be free of these things to be filled with

God. That's part of the reason we spiritualize everything,

strengthening its connection to divinity, so it doesn't become an

obstacle.

 

Contrary to being detached from our goal, if our goal is God we must

make ourselves so very attached that it is unbearably painful to feel

separate even for an instant. We must make ourselves like Ramakrishna

who was going to take his own life if his beloved Kali didn't come to

him, like our beloved Shree Maa who was going to throw herself into

the river for want of the fulness of God.

 

The path of God is a path of constant yearning, of painful desire

unfulfilled. It is a path of striving and yearning and pleading for

the Beloved's grace.

 

I pray we are all (especially me) strong enough to embrace it and

strong enough to endure it.

 

Jai Maa!

Chris

 

 

 

, shubalanddurga wrote:

>

> Hi Everyone ~

>

> We read the class prep material and transcripts, are following the

on-line

> dialogue, and hope to join the Saturday discussion. Here's a

question for Swami

> related to this interchange:

>

> Prasanna: How to make a goal (resolve) and yet be detached from the

goal

> itself.

>

> Answer: Defining a pure goal which includes renunciation and making our

> motives pure

> will yield the proper results. Some attachments are pure and will

lead us to

> freedom. Some

> attachments are a bondage. The function of discrimination is to

determine

> what is

> appropriate according to each of our circumstances.

>

> Question: How is living one's dharma and being in alignment with the

yamas in

> every moment not sufficient for living a pure life?

>

> Love,

>

> Shubal & Durga

>

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