A child's case

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I know this isn't a new message, but I am replying anyway

 

It sounds to me that the child is simply stressed out, confused,

perhaps a bit angry as well and as a child of that young an age,

doesn't have healthy outlet for those very confusing emotions.

Repeating things, to me, likely indicates a need for being heard and

perhaps validation. Security is a very great issue for children, and

being uprooted constantly and in unfamiliar territory is likely

bringing up much anxiety. This is also an age where certain things

like understanding community and place within community are important.

At 5 years old, they can't use much logic

to understand, thus it gets expressed through whatever means they can

control (eg food) Playing with dolls is normal for a child, not having

any friends besides the dolls, is not.

 

Unfortunately, the only thing that may cure this is to create

stability in whatever way you can. If you continue to move around,

perhaps consider homeschooling, or at the very least try to recreate a

familiar home environment (her bedroom looking same in each place) and

create simple at home rituals that remain the same wherever you are.

Spend much time with the child, and create a calm, loving environment.

Talk to your child, and listen to what the child says. Give

validation to the emotions and thoughts.

 

It may not be possible to stop so much traveling - but as a child

myself of being moved around very often ( and actually, i tended to

repeat things as well) creating serentity and a child-like atmosphere

may help as well. Dealing with anxiety is a very grown-up thing and

serious. Giving a secure environment they can trust to help nurture

their development and that they can count on lets the child be more

free to develop all the wonderful traits they possess and that anxiety

and lonliness can push into the background. Children forced to grow

up too early (which is popular in our culture) can hold great

resentment and anger that they may not be aware of the source for.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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> Jay <jaydhruv wrote:

> Hi all,

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> I am a Indian nationality father of an 5 year old girl, working in

> US.

> i came to us some 3 years back after which my daughter has been

> going to a local school. but within us also we have been travelling

> from one state to another state because of project work. the reason

> being my daughter has been unable to settle down to one school. the

> school which she is studying right now is the 5th school in 2 years.

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