Seven Rules For Successful Parents?

[suchandra]

Just found this "seven rules" guideline and wonder if there's something simliar in the vedic textbooks? At least these points seem be clear from common sense. Of course, Hare Krishna devotess often have rather this clichee: "We meet Derek Archer of Akron, Ohio, whose father is a former pot-smoking Hare Krishna turned Christian missionary and whose mother has never even been to the local mall." (Published: September 9, 2007)

 

Seven Rules For Successfull Parents

 

<!--[if !supportLists]-->1)<!--[endif]-->Parents holding their baby for the first time often feel contradicting emotions like, “I’m totally happy and deeply moved, but I see a huge responsibility coming closer which I don’t feel to be up to address.”

The joy and anxieties of parents can be empathized. Rarely anything can be so satisfying and beautiful but also so difficult and frustrating, than to be parents.

What the “experts” say is often outdated and in many nations, families are not anymore such a safe fitting together anymore. Somehow it seems that parents are best advised to seek for help when seeking shelter in Whom, Who is the Creator of all living entities:

"To those who worship Me with devotion, meditating on My transcendental form--to them I carry what they lack and preserve what they have."(Bg.9.22)

<!--[if !supportLists]-->2)<!--[endif]--> Creating a lovable home - children need affection, without affection they wither.

For a healthy development the human organism first of all requires affection - practically all aspects of health are connected with properly taking care about someone.

A deficiency of affection can cause heavy damage within a child but why is this so difficult?

In an unkind world as today a family is constantly under the pressure of quite strong burdens.

Financial problems and emotional demands while raising kids can intensify existing marriage problems and disturb communication.

It is of importance to regularly schedule time for the whole family.

3) Accepting the upbringing order - kids of caring parents who also fix a limit are more successful and happier than children whose parents are too mellow or too demanding.

To be authoritative parents doesn’t mean to create a distance towards one’s kids or to frighten them.

 

Kids quickly find out when parents are too soft. When parents don’t have a clear concept about who says what should be done, the kids take the lead.

First of all educating children is something what God demands from parents and second, God’s codes of morality are surely the best. Just like Krishna advises a lifestyle which is well-balanced.

“There is no possibility of one's becoming a yogi, O Arjuna, if one eats too much, or eats too little, sleeps too much or does not sleep enough.”

(BG 6.16)

<!--[if !supportLists]-->4)<!--[endif]-->Clear rules and prompt consequences – it is proven that kids go better along with clear rules and clear consequences. Without structure children are at one point only focused upon themselves, become self-absorbed and unhappy and also cause others difficulties. One who loves his child, has to rebuke his child.

Reasonable limits and to maintain those limits takes time, effort and endurance and kids often want to find out how far they can go. Children are personalities with ideas, desires and a connate drive to do something forbidden. “Sometimes kids can be obstinate and egotistic”

There should some rules written down and they should be repeated.

<!--[if !supportLists]-->5)<!--[endif]-->Establishing continuousness – important because in the adult's everyday life there’re many orderly courses. Spiritual life and even recreation require certain continousness.

Fixed rules and structures make children feel safe. Learning self-discipline and gaining self-confidence. Taking prasadam together at least once a day should be established.

6)Take your children seriously – parents shouldn’t too quickly disagree which will eventually result in caginess.

7) Teaching by own example - actions speak louder than words.

"Whatever action is performed by a great man, common men follow in his footsteps. And whatever standards he sets by exemplary acts, all the world pursues."

(BG 3.21)

[Murali_Mohan_das]

These are very good guidelines. When I have been able to follow them, there has been success. Sadly, I often forget and end up in hollering-tyrant mode

 

I'm surprised there were no replies to this! I guess all the other parents on the forum are perfect

[gHari]

I had one rule: remember Nanda Maharaja.