Uncle is dieing..

[Tirisilex]

My Uncle has terminal Cancer.. He's been given a few more months to live.

Is there a prayer.. A special prayer I can do for him?

 

IS there a Hindu teaching out there that is like the Tibetan Book of the Dead?

I was thinking of getting this for him I dont know how else I can help him.

 

any suggestions?

[Redsox]

I am sorry to hear that.

I hope your uncle finds some peace.

[Hari Bhakta dasa]

 

My Uncle has terminal Cancer.. He's been given a few more months to live.

Is there a prayer.. A special prayer I can do for him?

 

IS there a Hindu teaching out there that is like the Tibetan Book of the Dead?

I was thinking of getting this for him I dont know how else I can help him.

 

any suggestions?

 

Bhagavad-gita As It Is - Chapter Two

[Jahnava Nitai Das]

The second chapter of the Gita deals with the eternality of the soul, and the fact that the soul never dies nor takes birth. That is for philosophical understanding and strength. But to help him you should just personally prayer to Lord Krishna to help him and protect him on his spiritual journey. The soul is eternal and his journey doesn't end when he dies. It's actually just beginning.

[sanatan]

Instead of Book of the Dead get him a nice copy of Bhagavad-gita As It Is, 1972 edition.

 

As Hari Bhakta dasa suggested, he needs to read chapter two. If that's all he reads, it will be of immense benefit.

 

I chanted japa for hours sitting next to my father in law the night he died of alzheimer's. I strongly felt Krishna's presence as I chanted...he had lost his mental faculties years before, and was unconscious the last couple of days, but his subtle faculties heard.

[Hari Bhakta dasa]

Yes

[theist]

 

My Uncle has terminal Cancer.. He's been given a few more months to live.

Is there a prayer.. A special prayer I can do for him?

 

IS there a Hindu teaching out there that is like the Tibetan Book of the Dead?

I was thinking of getting this for him I dont know how else I can help him.

 

any suggestions?

 

I was with my aunt and she lay dying of cancer. She hardly in any condition to begin studying anything from a book. I don't know the conditon of your uncle.

 

The last few days she could not speak eat drink or move. I just played continously Krsna conscious sound vibration over and over 24/7. Fortunately it was just me and her with no relatives to clutter the atmosphere.

 

The time of death is not an intellectual happening for most people so it should not be approached that way. Just try to maintain transcendental sound vibration entering their ears at all times because you never know when that moment will come.

 

For my aunt it was late one night and I dozed off on the couch and when I awoke 1/2 later she was gone. Fortunately she passed as the verse from Chaitanya Charitarmrtia were being read.

 

Maybe the last thing she heard was Gauranga! That would be sweet.

[gHari]

Your strength can be his strength, Tirisilex. I know it is a hard time; your saying good-bye to him and his saying goodbye to this world

 

I took my dying grandmother a piece of prasadam sweet (burfi) from the temple with a tulasi leaf on it. You could explain to them at the temple and I'm sure they would arrange a tulasi leaf for you and a nice sweet that anyone would enjoy. I didn't know that would be my last visit, but I am pleased that it was so perfect. I even chanted a little as she watched silently. She LOVED the burfi - that hospital food is all cardboard, you know. I would imagine that with a nice letter and some stamps you could even arrange to have it mailed to you.

 

Let Krsna's mercy make his transition pleasant.

 

As always, if you surrender to Krsna you will have done your best, for all concerned.

[mahak]

THE TEACHINGS OF LORD YAMARAJA

 

 

<!--HEAD2--> Srimad Bhagavatam 6:3

 

 

<!--LINE1-->

 

 

King Pariksit said: "O my lord, O Sukadeva Gosvami, Yamaraja is the controller of all living entities in terms of their religious and irreligious activities, but his order had been foiled. When his servants, the Yamadutas, informed him of their defeat by the Visnudutas, who had stopped them from arresting Ajamila, what did he reply? O great sage, never before has it been heard anywhere that an order from Yamaraja has been baffled. Therefore I think that people will have doubts about this that no one but you can eradicate. Since that is my firm conviction, kindly explain the reasons for these events."

 

 

Sukadeva Gosvami replied: "My dear King, when the order carriers of Yamaraja were baffled and defeated by the order carriers of Visnu, they approached their master, the controller of Samayamanapura; and master of sinful persons, to tell him of this incident."

 

 

The Yamadutas said: "Our dear lord, how many controllers or rulers are there in this material world? How many causes are responsible for manifesting the various results of activities performed under the three modes of material nature (sattva-guna, rajo-guna and tamo-guna)? If in this universe there are many rulers and justices who disagree about punishment and reward, their contradictory actions will neutralize each other, and no one will be punished or rewarded. Otherwise, if their contradictory acts fail to neutralize each other, everyone will have to be both punished and rewarded. Since there are many different karmis, or workers, there may be different judges or rulers to give them justice, but just as one central emperor controls different departmental rulers, there must be one supreme controller to guide all the judges. The supreme judge must be one, not many. It was our understanding that you are that supreme judge and that you have jurisdiction even over the demigods. Our impression was that you are the master of all living entities, the supreme authority who discriminates between the pious and impious activities of all human beings.

 

 

But now we see that the punishment ordained under your authority is no longer effective, since your order has been transgressed by four wonderful and perfect persons. We were bringing the most sinful Ajamila toward the hellish planets, following your order, when those beautiful persons from Siddhaloka forcibly cut the knots of the ropes with which we were arresting him. As soon as the sinful Ajamila uttered the name Narayana, these four beautiful men immediately arrived and reassured him, saying, "Do not fear. Do not fear." We wish to know about them from Your Lordship. If you think we are able to understand them, kindly describe who they are."

 

 

Sukadeva Gosvami said: "Thus having been questioned, Lord Yamaraja, the supreme controller of the living entities, was very pleased with his order carriers because of hearing from them the holy name of Narayana. He remembered the lotus feet of the Lord and began to reply."

 

 

Yamaraja said: "My dear servants, you have accepted me as the Supreme, but factually I am not. Above me, and above all the other demigods, including Indra and Chandra, is the one supreme master and controller. The partial manifestations of His personality are Brahma, Visnu and Siva, who are in charge of the creation, maintenance and annihilation of this universe. He is like the two threads that form the length and breadth of a woven cloth. The entire world is controlled by Him just as a bull is controlled by a rope in its nose. Just as the driver of a bullock cart ties ropes through the nostrils of his bulls to control them, the Supreme Personality of Godhead binds all men through the ropes of His words in the Vedas, which set forth the names and activities of the distinct orders of human society (brahmana, ksatriya, vaisya and sudra). In fear, the members of these orders all worship the Supreme Lord by offering Him presentations according to their respective activities.

 

 

I, Yamaraja; Indra, the King of heaven; Nirvrti; Varuna; Chandra, the moon-god; Agni; Lord Siva; Pavana; Lord Brahma; Surya, the sun-god; Vivsu; the eight Vasus; the Sadhyas; the Maruts; the Rudras; the Siddhas; and Marici and the other great rsis engaged in maintaining the departmental affairs of the universe, as well as the best of the demigods headed by Brihaspati, and the great sages headed by Bhrgu are all certainly freed from the influence of the two base material modes of nature, namely passion and ignorance. Nevertheless, although we are in the mode of goodness, we cannot understand the activities of the Supreme Personality of Godhead. What, then, is to be said of others, who, under illusion, merely speculate to know God? As the different limbs of the body cannot see the eyes, the living entities cannot see the Supreme Lord, who is situated as the Supersoul in everyone's heart. Not by the senses, by the mind, by the life air, by thoughts within the heart, or by the vibration of words can the living entities ascertain the real situation of the Supreme Lord.

 

 

The Supreme Personality of Godhead is self-sufficient and fully independent. He is the master of everyone and everything, including the illusory energy. He has His form, qualities and features; and similarly His order carriers, the Vaisnavas, who are very beautiful, possess bodily features, transcendental qualities and a transcendental nature almost like His. They always wander within this world with full independence. The order carriers of Lord Visnu, who are worshiped even by the demigods, possess wonderful bodily features exactly like those of Visnu and are very rarely seen. The Visnudutas protect the devotees of the Lord from the hands of enemies, from envious persons and even from my jurisdiction, as well as from natural disturbances.

 

 

Real religious principles are enacted by the Supreme Personality of Godhead. Although fully situated in the mode of goodness, even the great rsis who occupy the topmost planets cannot ascertain the real religious principles, nor can the demigods or the leaders of Siddhaloka, to say nothing of the asuras, ordinary human beings, Vidyadharas and Charanas. Lord Brahma, Bhagavan Narada, Lord Siva, the four Kumaras, Lord Kapila (the son of Devahuti), Svayambhuva Manu, Prahlada Maharaja, Janaka Maharaja, Grandfather Bhisma, Bali Maharaja, Sukadeva Gosvami; and I myself know the real religious principle. My dear servants, this transcendental religious principle, which is known as bhagavata-dharma, or surrender unto the Supreme Lord and love for Him, is uncontaminated by the material modes of nature. It is very confidential and difficult for ordinary human beings to understand, but if by chance one fortunately understands it, he is immediately liberated, and thus he returns home, back to Godhead.

Devotional service, beginning with the chanting of the holy name of the Lord, is the ultimate religious principle for the living entity in human society.

 

 

My dear servants, who are as good as my sons, just see how glorious is the chanting of the holy name of the Lord. The greatly sinful Ajamila chanted only to call his son, not knowing that he was chanting the Lord's holy name. Nevertheless, by chanting the holy name of the Lord, he remembered Narayana, and thus he was immediately saved from the ropes of death.

Therefore it should be understood that one is easily relieved from all sinful reactions by chanting the holy name of the Lord and chanting of His qualities and activities. This is the only process recommended for relief from sinful reactions. Even if one chants the holy name of the Lord with improper pronunciation, he will achieve relief from material bondage if he chants without offenses. Ajamila, for example, was extremely sinful, but while dying he merely chanted the holy name, and although calling his son, he achieved complete liberation because he remembered the name of Narayana.

 

 

Because they are bewildered by the illusory energy of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Yajnavalkya and Jaimini and other compilers of the religious scriptures cannot know the secret, confidential religious system of the twelve mahajanas. They cannot understand the transcendental value of performing devotional service or chanting the Hare Krsna mantra. Because their minds are attracted to the ritualistic ceremonies mentioned in the Vedas (especially the Yajur Veda, Sama Veda and Rg Veda), their intelligence has become dull. Thus they are busy collecting the ingredients for ritualistic ceremonies that yield only temporary benefits, such as elevation to Svargaloka for material happiness. They are not attracted to the samkirtana movement; instead, they are interested in dharma, artha, kama and moksa.

 

 

Considering all these points, therefore, intelligent men decide to solve all problems by adopting the devotional service of chanting the holy name of the Lord, who is situated in everyone's heart and who is a mine of all auspicious qualities. Such persons are not within my jurisdiction for punishment. Generally they never commit sinful activities, but even if by mistake or because of bewilderment or illusion they sometimes commit sinful acts, they are protected from sinful reactions because they always chant the Hare Krsna mantra.

 

 

My dear servants, please do not approach such devotees, for they have fully surrendered to the lotus feet of the Supreme Personality of Godhead. They are equal to everyone, and their narrations are sung by the demigods and the inhabitants of Siddhaloka. Please do not even go near them. They are always protected by the club of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, and therefore Lord Brahma and I and even the time factor are not competent to chastise them. Paramahamsas are exalted persons who have no taste for material enjoyment and who drink the honey of the Lord's lotus feet. My dear servants, bring to me for punishment only persons who are averse to the taste of that honey, who do not associate with paramahamsas and who are attached to family life and worldly enjoyment, which form the path to hell. My dear servants, please bring to me only those sinful persons who do not use their tongues to chant the holy name and qualities of Krsna, whose hearts do not remember the lotus feet of Krsna even once, and whose heads do not bow down even once before Lord Krsna. Send me those who do not perform their duties toward Visnu, which are the only duties in human life. Please bring me all such fools and rascals."

 

 

Then Yamaraja, considering himself and his servants to be offenders, spoke as follows, begging pardon from the Lord. "O my Lord, my servants have surely committed a great offense by arresting a Vaisnava such as Ajamila. O Narayana, O supreme and oldest person, please forgive us. Because of our ignorance, we failed to recognize Ajamila as a servant of Your Lordship, and thus we have certainly committed a great offense. Therefore with folded hands we beg Your pardon. My Lord, since You are supremely merciful and are always full of good qualities, please pardon us. We offer our respectful obeisances unto You."

 

 

Sukadeva Gosvami continued: "My dear King, the chanting of the holy name of the Lord is able to uproot even the reactions of the greatest sins. Therefore the chanting of the samkirtana movement is the most auspicious activity in the entire universe. Please try to understand this so that others will take it seriously. One who constantly hears and chants the holy name of the Lord and hears and chants about His activities can very easily attain the platform of pure devotional service, which can cleanse the dirt from one's heart. One cannot achieve such purification merely by observing vows and performing Vedic ritualistic ceremonies. Devotees who always lick the honey from the lotus feet of Lord Krsna do not care at all for material activities, which are performed under the three modes of material nature and which bring only misery. Indeed, devotees never give up the lotus feet of Krsna to return to material activities. Others, however, who are addicted to Vedic rituals because they have neglected the service of the Lord's lotus feet and are enchanted by lusty desires, sometimes perform acts of atonement. Nevertheless, being incompletely purified, they return to sinful activities again and again."

 

 

After hearing from the mouth of their master about the extraordinary glories of the Lord and His name, fame and attributes, the Yamadutas were struck with wonder. Since then, as soon as they see a devotee, they fear him and dare not look at him again. When the great sage Agastya, the son of Kumbha, was residing in the Malaya Hills and worshiping the Supreme Personality of Godhead, I approached him, and he explained to me this confidential history.