Please help! The biggest crisis in my life ever!

[Heart_broken]

Dear learned astrologers & other forum members,

 

Last Tuesday (27.01.09) I happened to face the biggest crisis of my life when I found out that my wife had been having an affair with her old boyfriend since Nov./Dec. 2008. And from 6-7 Jan. to 16 Jan. stayed with him in a hotel in our town when I was told that she was visiting her friend in another city while I was taking care of our daughter (almost 3 years old). She has been acting very weirdly since Oct. 2008 when this boyfriend first took contact after 10 years through Facebook and I was told about this incident but I didn't mind as they wanted to be just friends. Now I am told that this developed to be something else as we have been having a tough marriage (I partly agree to that!) and we have been talking divorce and she was so weak and all this and this guy from her past told her that he never forgot her and was always looking for her. She says in her eyes our relationship has been over since last 1-2 years and she has been suffering in our marriage. I understand that as I have been depressed for last 3 years and been very angry on her all the time (called her names many times) but for me it was not over.

 

Her boyfriend lives in Israel, is married and has a son (1 year old). And we live in a European country (I don’t want to disclose the location). I am an Indian and my wife is from this country where we live. She is the love of my life and I never had any girlfriend before her so this hurts very much. She is a nice and very kind girl and loves my family in India like no other western girl could. She shows understanding that I need to help my family in India (buying house, arranging sister marriages and supporting with monthly expenses). She is very skilled in foreign languages and even learned my mother tongue and Hindi for me and my family's sake without I or my family ever asked for it. The worst part is that we have a daughter and this is going to affect her future. We both love our daughter beyond anything and neither of us wants to leave her alone with the other. So my wife wants us to be separated and that we take care of her 50%-50%. But being an Indian this seems to very unnatural for me in spite of that I have been living in this country for last 7 years where this is very normal. This also mean that we have to sell our big flat in this bad market (most probably in loss) and rent/buy 2 separate little flats.

 

When I found about her affair I felt like taking my own life but I know that I have to live for my daughter and my family back in India as they all depend on me, so I called to my father in law who lives in a different country to come and help us saving our marriage. He is into psychology and we share a very good relationship almost like father-son that I don’t have with my own father. He came very next day and talked to both of us separately as well as in group where we discussed several issues in our marriage for 3-4 days. The conclusion is that we both partly want to work on our marriage and partly don’t trust each other. She says that she noticed a big change in my behavior since 4-5 weeks as I started taking care of our daughter much more and helping in household things and sees a hope but is still afraid of my anger and after this affair she will have to live with guilt in this marriage. She still has some feelings for that guy but knows that they can never live together and have any future (at least that is what she says). Her father concludes that this guy is just a flu not a cancer. I, on my part, am not sure if I ever can trust her back as wife and love her the way I am supposed to as I am feeling deeply hurt and I never thought that she could deceive me.

 

Here is where I need HELP! I am attaching mine, my wife’s and daughter’s horoscope screenshots. I am using Jagannatha Hora ver 7.32 and can attach more screenshots if needed, but I don’t want to share birth place details in open forum.

 

I have been through mahadasha of Mars for last seven years and this will end in this month when Rahu’s mahadasha will start. Mars is my yogakaraka (Leo ascendant) and it is vargottama in D-9, D-10 and some other divisional charts. The mahadasha of Mars has been great as it gave me residence in Europe, marriage, study at university here, a daughter, IT job in a esteemed company and a flat (with bank loan). So the question is: was this the best period of my life? Am I going to remain successful? Should I get separated/divorced as soon as possible because Rahu’s mahadasha is starting soon and could give me troubles? Or should I do my best to save my marriage? I have been deceived in Mars-Moon dasha and was told that I should be careful during this time but I didn’t grasp it properly and now I am regretting. I have been told to wear Ruby, Coral and yellow sapphire. I know that ruby should be worn in ring finger in right hand, yellow sapphire should be worn in index finger in right hand but I am confused about coral. Should it be worn in left hand medium finger? What about if I get ruby or yellow sapphire in pendant? What about 12 mukhi rudraksha pendant for making my langa lord sun strong?

 

There is kalsarpa yoga in my wife’s chart and she is undergoing Moon’s mahadasha (2004-07-14 - 2014-07-14) and had this affair in Saturn’s antardasas (2008-10-15 - 2010-05-12) and was with him in Saturn’s pratyanardasa (2008-10-15 – 2009-01-12) and Jupiter’s sookshma-antardasa (2008-12-31 – 2009-01-12). I know that her moon is afflicted with Saturn, mars and venus in sixth house. She has been suffering mentally since Oct. 2008 and has not been herself. And I know that she couldn’t have done what she did if her mind was in control and I could feel it that something was wrong with her all this time. Is there any remedy I can do to lessen her problems (bear in mind that I am not in India so there are certain things that I can’t do).

 

I would appreciate all kind of help as I am clueless what to do next, my whole world is upside down. If more information is needed, please let me know. Big thanks in advance!

[webyogi]

 

Dear learned astrologers & other forum members,

 

Last Tuesday (27.01.09) I happened to face the biggest crisis of my life when I found out that my wife had been having an affair with her old boyfriend since Nov./Dec. 2008. And from 6-7 Jan. to 16 Jan. stayed with him in a hotel in our town when I was told that she was visiting her friend in another city while I was taking care of our daughter (almost 3 years old). She has been acting very weirdly since Oct. 2008 when this boyfriend first took contact after 10 years through Facebook and I was told about this incident but I didn't mind as they wanted to be just friends. Now I am told that this developed to be something else as we have been having a tough marriage (I partly agree to that!) and we have been talking divorce and she was so weak and all this and this guy from her past told her that he never forgot her and was always looking for her. She says in her eyes our relationship has been over since last 1-2 years and she has been suffering in our marriage. I understand that as I have been depressed for last 3 years and been very angry on her all the time (called her names many times) but for me it was not over.

 

Her boyfriend lives in Israel, is married and has a son (1 year old). And we live in a European country (I don’t want to disclose the location). I am an Indian and my wife is from this country where we live. She is the love of my life and I never had any girlfriend before her so this hurts very much. She is a nice and very kind girl and loves my family in India like no other western girl could. She shows understanding that I need to help my family in India (buying house, arranging sister marriages and supporting with monthly expenses). She is very skilled in foreign languages and even learned my mother tongue and Hindi for me and my family's sake without I or my family ever asked for it. The worst part is that we have a daughter and this is going to affect her future. We both love our daughter beyond anything and neither of us wants to leave her alone with the other. So my wife wants us to be separated and that we take care of her 50%-50%. But being an Indian this seems to very unnatural for me in spite of that I have been living in this country for last 7 years where this is very normal. This also mean that we have to sell our big flat in this bad market (most probably in loss) and rent/buy 2 separate little flats.

 

When I found about her affair I felt like taking my own life but I know that I have to live for my daughter and my family back in India as they all depend on me, so I called to my father in law who lives in a different country to come and help us saving our marriage. He is into psychology and we share a very good relationship almost like father-son that I don’t have with my own father. He came very next day and talked to both of us separately as well as in group where we discussed several issues in our marriage for 3-4 days. The conclusion is that we both partly want to work on our marriage and partly don’t trust each other. She says that she noticed a big change in my behavior since 4-5 weeks as I started taking care of our daughter much more and helping in household things and sees a hope but is still afraid of my anger and after this affair she will have to live with guilt in this marriage. She still has some feelings for that guy but knows that they can never live together and have any future (at least that is what she says). Her father concludes that this guy is just a flu not a cancer. I, on my part, am not sure if I ever can trust her back as wife and love her the way I am supposed to as I am feeling deeply hurt and I never thought that she could deceive me.

 

Here is where I need HELP! I am attaching mine, my wife’s and daughter’s horoscope screenshots. I am using Jagannatha Hora ver 7.32 and can attach more screenshots if needed, but I don’t want to share birth place details in open forum.

 

I have been through mahadasha of Mars for last seven years and this will end in this month when Rahu’s mahadasha will start. Mars is my yogakaraka (Leo ascendant) and it is vargottama in D-9, D-10 and some other divisional charts. The mahadasha of Mars has been great as it gave me residence in Europe, marriage, study at university here, a daughter, IT job in a esteemed company and a flat (with bank loan). So the question is: was this the best period of my life? Am I going to remain successful? Should I get separated/divorced as soon as possible because Rahu’s mahadasha is starting soon and could give me troubles? Or should I do my best to save my marriage? I have been deceived in Mars-Moon dasha and was told that I should be careful during this time but I didn’t grasp it properly and now I am regretting. I have been told to wear Ruby, Coral and yellow sapphire. I know that ruby should be worn in ring finger in right hand, yellow sapphire should be worn in index finger in right hand but I am confused about coral. Should it be worn in left hand medium finger? What about if I get ruby or yellow sapphire in pendant? What about 12 mukhi rudraksha pendant for making my langa lord sun strong?

 

There is kalsarpa yoga in my wife’s chart and she is undergoing Moon’s mahadasha (2004-07-14 - 2014-07-14) and had this affair in Saturn’s antardasas (2008-10-15 - 2010-05-12) and was with him in Saturn’s pratyanardasa (2008-10-15 – 2009-01-12) and Jupiter’s sookshma-antardasa (2008-12-31 – 2009-01-12). I know that her moon is afflicted with Saturn, mars and venus in sixth house. She has been suffering mentally since Oct. 2008 and has not been herself. And I know that she couldn’t have done what she did if her mind was in control and I could feel it that something was wrong with her all this time. Is there any remedy I can do to lessen her problems (bear in mind that I am not in India so there are certain things that I can’t do).

 

I would appreciate all kind of help as I am clueless what to do next, my whole world is upside down. If more information is needed, please let me know. Big thanks in advance!

 

 

Namaskar,

 

First of all, your match points for charts are only 19 out of 36 and that too with two dosha, Nadi and Nav Pancham. This is not a good match to start with.

 

Secondly, I do not think she has Kal Sarpa Yoga. In my openion, she has Kal Amrita yoga. She can do the following:

 

Moon is heavily afflicted, avoid taking any decisions on full Moon or Amavasaya days.

 

Wear peral necklace as well as good quality pearl (no holes/pierced!) in silver.

 

Wear very good quality Emerald in silver in little finger.

 

Worship lord Shiva and fasting on every Monday may be helpful.

 

Be vegetarian if not already so to get the divine help.

 

-WebYogi-

[Heart_broken]

Thank you webyogi ji for your suggestions! She is not vegetarian and I don't think she can be one either. Any suggestions for me?

[k1_monica]

I could have helped you but i am not being able to get full information about your birth chart i.e Date, place and time.

So if you could provide me that, i ll try my level best to help you. You can send me a private message for that matter

[Heart_broken]

Thank you Monica ji for your reply & offer to help me. I can't send any PM before I have atleast 30 posts in this forum which I don't have. But I am going to share my birth details with all here now:

 

DOB: 01.10.1976

Time: 04:15 (Morning)

Place: New Delhi, India

 

Hope it is ok and don't hesitate to ask for more info if you need. I appreciate that you take interest in my problem! May god bless you!

[k1_monica]

Your wife birth details too..

[Heart_broken]

Sorry! I can't share my wife's birth details. But I can attach many screenshots from her horoscope. Please let me know what do you want to see.

[k1_monica]

Your Venus ( the planet of marriage ) is afflicted from Rahu. you can try some of the remedies which i am writing as follows:

1. Keep silver at home.

2.Your wife should wear a silver ring or a silver bangle in her right arm.

3. Ensure that your wife should wear a gold clip in her hair and must not remain barefoot this year i.e from 1-10-08 to 1-10-09

4. Abstain from drinking and eating non-veg

5. Put kesar tilak

6. Throw new empty pitcher (MITTI KA) in the river.

Try all these remedies. Good Luck!!

5.

[k1_monica]

I just wanted to know her details so that i can see her this year's birth chart. Every year the chart changes. so it also has effects.

[k1_monica]

Keep a silver brick at home. That's very essential. You don't have to sell it or donate this silver at any cost to anybody.

 

Take a glass of silver fitted with a silver lid, fill it with water of river (sacred) and put a piece of silver in it and keep it in the house and ensure the water doesn't dry, change it whenever necessary.

 

Offer coconuts in river.

[Heart_broken]

Thank you Monica ji for all the remedies suggested! You are a kind person! I am attaching mine and wife's annual TP charts.

[k1_monica]

I am not being able to understand these charts as it doesn't go along with what i have made from your details.

Anyways, its ok if you want to keep it confidential. Do go for these remedies. I have seen your wife's birth chart too. Based on that, i have written the remedies of silver. Does your wife got married before 21st year by any chance?Just let me know

[Heart_broken]

Thank you once again! We got married in 2002, I was 25 and she was 24 years old.

[k1_monica]

ok then.. just go through these remedies..

Good Luck!!

[Heart_broken]

I just need to repeat my questions asked in my first post, as they are still unanswered:

 

"I have been through mahadasha of Mars for last seven years and this will end in this month when Rahu’s mahadasha will start. Mars is my yogakaraka (Leo ascendant) and it is vargottama in D-9, D-10 and some other divisional charts. The mahadasha of Mars has been great as it gave me residence in Europe, marriage, study at university here, a daughter, IT job in a esteemed company and a flat (with bank loan). So the question is: was this the best period of my life? Am I going to remain successful? Should I get separated/divorced as soon as possible because Rahu’s mahadasha is starting soon and could give me troubles? Or should I do my best to save my marriage? I have been deceived in Mars/Moon dasha and was told that I should be careful during this time but I didn’t grasp it properly and now I am regretting. I have been told to wear Ruby, Coral and yellow sapphire. I know that ruby should be worn in ring finger in right hand, yellow sapphire should be worn in index finger in right hand but I am confused about coral. Should it be worn in left hand medium finger? What about if I get ruby or yellow sapphire in pendant? What about 12 mukhi rudraksha pendant for making my langa lord sun strong?"

 

Thanks in advance for all the help!

[Ayush]

Dude you are thinking way too much!!. Stop that man.

 

A quick glance at screenshots suggest problems in your wife's chart. Rahu and ketu change their position in rashi and D9 that too in Asc and 7th house. This shows how she got a spouse from a far away place, but it also links dis-satisfaction. If you need to live with her, you need to work hard for that.

 

Now forget about astrology, think about your daught. Separation would bring in trouble for the kid. Astrology can guide you, it can't change your life. I'll take some time out next week and have an indepth look in your chart. I've followed your post since it was posted.

 

Webyogi's remedies would surely help given a westerner can live with that. Hold on man, things happen.

 

wbr

Ayush

[Heart_broken]

Thank you Ayush ji for your reply!

 

Yes, I know I am thinking too much, I didn't sleep for several days after I found about the incident. I have lost appetite and sleeping for max 3-4 hours a day. I have been to Doctor and have gotten some sleeping pills and anti depressive pills. My doctor has had one therapy session with me and in 2 weeks we have a couple therapy appointment with him. So I am trying everything possible to save the marriage (espesially for my daughter) but at same time I know that I am going to have a hard time trusting her and be happy with her. I am a firm believer of vedic astrology and that's why I want to get some help through astrolgy. I know things happen in life and one needs to just accept them. Being a fighter I am, I don't want to accept it before I have tried my best to rescue it, thus won't go around thinking rest of my life I might/could have saved it.

 

I appreciate that you'll take your time and study my chart. I am very thankful for that. Looking forward to hearing from you and others with suggestions!

[sasisekaran_pti]

om gurubhyo namah

 

namaste

 

dear shri.heart_broken

 

with the screen shots, it is not too difficult to find out the birth

details including that of the birth place of your kid. the kid was

born in a land of fjords!

 

your wife birth details tob:0:46 dob:JULY 10, 1978 ( i have little doubt

about place of birth )

your kid's birth details tob:7.31.35 dob: apr 28 2006

 

in your chart:

moon is placed in eight from ul in rasi. it is placed in dhanus ,

third from AL. hence fall from status. moon is bhadaka lord

from ul in navamsa.

 

rahu/rahu/rahu period may pl be handled with care. Give her

some time to change. she will find the going tough till the

end of saturn's antar as per chart

 

may mother bless all

 

sasisekaran

[doe_eye]

I am curious to know what happened to your case?

Your story is very moving...did you finally find any solution?

Your wife's chart shows lots of problems with relationships/marriage.

 

Good luck

[getAnsHere]