Forgiveness (2)

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So many people who have been abused, neglected, and or hurt in many

other ways have great difficulty getting to true forgiveness. The way

to get stuck and block yourself from forgiveness is to mistakenly

believe that by holding on to your anger, rage, and hate that you are

getting revenge upon the person you choose not to forgive. Nothing

could be further from the truth.

 

Forgiveness is NOT about justifying anyone's wrong behaviour, ever.

Forgiveness is not about forgetting. Forgiveness does not mean that

you have to reconnect or have the person you want forgive involved in

your life. Forgiveness is remembering and making a choice to let go.

The letting go is for you. Forgiveness is a gift that you can give to

yourself. If you continue to hold the hurt, anger, and hate, you only

hurt yourself. You are not hurting the person or persons that hurt

you.

 

In order for forgiveness to be possible it is necessary to stop

blaming. No matter how much we may have suffered as children we will

stay stuck in our pain as long as we continue to blame our abusers

for all that has gone asunder in our lives.

 

When we own our own issues, and when we realize that most of the

things we are not pleased about in our lives are a direct result of

our own choices, only this kind of ownership of our issues will

enable us to move forward and to forgive.

 

Forgiveness is Freedom.