Ten Terrible Relationship Traps

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Observe each of the following statements and its potential to sour a

relationship forever. Dr. Harold Bloomfield, M.D. advises never, ever

to fall into these deadly relationship traps.

 

" I am right and you are wrong. "

Trap: Being unable to introspect.

Fix: Practicing Transcendental Meditation®, which puts you back in

touch with your deepest Self and illuminates your spirit.

 

" Of course there are two sides to everything but I am right. "

Trap: Again, failure to introspect.

Fix: Spending quality time with oneself, through positive activity

and Transcendental Meditation.

 

" I hate your constant passive-aggressive attitude. "

Trap: Starting with the assumption that the other person's behavior

is negative.

Fix: Understanding the negativity inside your own self and changing

it into positive energy.

 

" I'm tired of always wondering how to deal with you. "

Trap: Getting caught in either/or thinking.

Fix: " Dealing " with the other person by giving and respecting more.

 

" I know your thoughts towards me are malicious and mean. "

Trap: Failure to think positive.

Fix: Believing in the goodness of the heart, and being willing to

trust.

 

" What will my lover/mother/neighbor think? "

Trap: Lack of assurance and harmony within Self.

Fix: Listening to your heart, and following its voice.

 

" This stress is driving me crazy. "

Trap: Being debilitated by " pragya aparadh " .

Fix: Examine and remove stress-causing factors from your life, before

letting them ruin your relationships. Rethink your diet, sleep and

work pattern.

 

" You are the one responsible for all my miseries. "

Trap: Trading blame, instead of loving unconditionally.

Fix: Think instead: what am I doing to fuel my own miseries.

 

" Why can't you ever do things the way they should be done? "

Trap: Emphasizing " should " instead of recognizing the other person's

sense of Self.

Fix: Understanding your own need for freedom and extending it to

others around you.

 

" You're a miserable little mamma's boy. "

Trap: Trying to hurt and insult.

Fix: Saying, " I respect your feelings but would like to discuss some

of mine, too.