The 90/10 Principle

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Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the

way you react to situations). What is this principle?

 

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided

by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over

10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down.

The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.

A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

 

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can

control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how

you react.

 

Let's use an example.

 

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over

a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over

what just what happened. What happens when the next will be

determined by how you react.

 

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

 

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse

and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the

table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change

your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy

crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the

bus.

 

Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

 

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you

are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a

15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at

school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying good-bye.

 

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot

your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it

seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When

you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your

spouse and daughter.

 

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a

bad day?

 

A) Did the coffee cause it?

 

B) Did your daughter cause it?

 

C) Did the policeman cause it?

 

D) Did you cause it?

 

The answer is " D " .

 

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

 

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

 

Here is what could have and should have happened.

 

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently

say, " It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time " .

Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and

your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window

and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You

arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss

comments on how good the day you are having.

 

Notice the difference?

 

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

 

Why? Because of how you REACTED.

 

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The

other 90% was determined by your reaction.

 

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

 

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.

 

Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let

the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin

your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being

fired, getting stressed out etc.

 

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?

 

Do you lose your temper?

 

Pound on the steering wheel?

 

Do you curse?

 

Does your blood pressure skyrocket?

 

Do you try and bump them?

 

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars

ruin> your drive?

 

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

 

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.

Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no

control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know

the other passenger.

 

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know

the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.

You will lose nothing if you try it.

 

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this

principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from

undeserved stress, rials, problems and heartache.

 

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

 

It CAN change your life***!!!!!!!