Miserable State of Ladies

[Guest guest]

My dear friends and like minded persons / Brahma Swaroops

 

The subject matter is related to the unethical treatment of ladies in Indian

Families particularly in Brahmin Families. I request you all to pay attention

to this serious situation relating to most uncivilized rituals. It is a fact

that we INDIANS respect ladies utmost and no where on the earth we find such

honorable treatment to the ladies. At the same time, we still follow some

uncivilized rituals in spite of the fact that we have accepted the reforms

suggested and brought into practice by Reformers like Shri Raja Rama Mohan Roy,

Shri Kandukuri Veeresa Lingam. We could successfully ban the Sati Sahagaman;

the society has accepted marriages for the widows, still here is an area where

we ALL have to pay attention.

 

Immediately after the death of a husband, in most of the Indian families, the

widows are treated as untouchables and particularly the scenario on the tenth

day ceremony is heart breaking. On one side the Widow feels herself isolated

and remains in total distress having lost her life partner and on the other

side, most of the ladies (like Sumangalis – leading their family life with

husbands) do not prefer to see the face of the widow.

 

The barber enters the home as some rituals are to be followed, soon the

washerwoman enters and removes the Mangal Sutra (the Holy and sacred ties

representing the marital state), the bangles are broken, the sindur is removed,

white saree is presented to her for wearing and what not and all this – amidst

her sorrowful state of mind and physic. The fact remains that neither the

sindur, nor the bangles, nor the hair style, nor the saree were brought by her

husband. In token recognition of her marriage the only symbol i.e. Mangal Sutra

alone is an addition in her life with the entry of her life partner. If after

the exit of her life partner, something is to be removed, at the best only the

Mangal Sutra and that too she herself can remove if she is willing. I really do

not understand the reason for removal of even Mangal Sutra since it is a mere

symbol of her marriage, I appeal to the Sanatans not to mistake me for writing

all this, but pay some attention to this subject as

HUMAN BEINGS.

 

None – including gents prefer to see the face directly and some ritual is

followed like putting Jeera in the mouth and seeing the face of the widow and

immediately after that taking a head bath as if it is a great crime and sin to

see the face of a fellow human being – a poor lady in distress. Now, let us

look at the situation of poor widow, what crime did she commit to be banned from

the society, what crime did she commit to be ill treated in such an uncivilized

fashion and does the so called CIVILIZED SOCIETY READY TO treat the husband in

the similar fashion if his wife dies ? What type of Justice have we accepted in

our system and who is responsible for all this? The answer is simply – WE – we

are all responsible. Let us do something and let us try to take a lead, as I

know how difficult it is to bring such reforms – particularly such Reforms. But

we have to do something in this regard and if we do not do something – WHO WILL

DO? Please think.

 

Yours - in Reforms

HARA HARA MAHADEVA

DR P V SESHA SAI ASWAMEDHAYAAJI

 

Vedanta Visarada, Adhyatmika Ratna, Sri Yaaga Vidya Praveen

Dr P V Sesha Sai Aswamedhayaaji

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5th May 2008