This makes me so angry

[Guest guest]

How many times have you heard someone say this? Have you said it

yourself? It's a pretty typical way to phrase such a statement and

its unconscious implications are quite significant. How so? You see,

this phrasing implies that something outside of yourself controls

your inner state of being. It's saying that your emotions are

dominated by what's happening outside of you and that instead of

proactively choosing a response to the event, you're automatically

and robotically reacting to a external stimuli.

 

The truth is that nothing outside of you can control your inner state

of Well-Being. In fact, nothing truly causes anything. Events and

circumstances may certainly influence you to select one state over

another, but they do not have the ability to literally " make you

angry " or " make you happy. "

 

Recognizing this, let's make a shift in the way we phrase the

statement, " This makes me so angry! " Let's remind ourselves of the

underlying reality by changing the statement to read, " This event

creates the context in which I choose to feel anger. "

 

It may sound like an issue of semantics at first, but it's really

deeper than this. By shifting the way you phrase this statement,

you'll continuously come to realize that your emotions are in fact

your choice, that you can take responsibility for deciding whether

you choose to feel good or not.

 

" This event creates the context in which I choose to feel happy. " How

do you think this impacts any addictions or habits that you may have

picked up in order to feel good?

 

This change in phrasing can bring you a tremendous sense in freedom.

It can help remove the barriers you've set up to resisting your own

sense of joy and wonder. Happiness can be a continuously experienced

state. Make this simple change in your wording and you'll bring

yourself a step closer to this place of continuous Well-Being.

 

" ABC creates the context in which I choose to feel XYZ. "