Anger and Sadness

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Ordinarily, anger is not bad. Ordinarily, anger is part of natural life, it

comes and goes. But if yourepress it, then it become a problem. Then you go on

accumulating it. Then it is not a question of coming and going, it becomes your

very being. Then it is not that you are sometimes angry, you remain angry, you

remain in rage, and you just wait for somebody to provoke it. Or even a hint of

provocation, and you catch fire and you do things for which, later on, you will

say " I did it in spite of myself " .

 

Analyze ths expression, " in spite of myself " . How can you do anything in spite

of yourself ? But the expression is exactly right. Repressed anger becomes a

temporary madness. Something happens that is beyond your control. if you could

have controlled it you would have, but suddenly it was overflowing. Suddenly it

was beyond you, you couldnt do anything, you felt helpless, and it came out.

Such a person may not be angry, but he moves and lives in anger.

 

If you look at ppl... stand by the side of the road and just watch, and you will

find two types of ppl. Just go on watching their faces. The whole of humanity is

divided into two types of ppl.

 

One is the sad type, who will look very sad, dragging somehow. Another is the

angry type, just bubbling with madness, ready to explode at any excuse.

 

Anger is active sadness; sadness is inactive anger. They are not two things.

 

Ordinary Anger is nothing wrong in it. In fact, ppl who can become angry and

forget all about it in the next moment are really very good ppl. You will always

find them friendly, alive, loving and compassionate. But ppl who are always

holding onto their emotions, controlling and controlling (sometimes provoke

others), are not good ppl.

 

There is nothing wrong in a momenttary flare-up of anger, it is beautiful in a

way. It simply shows that you are still alive, not dead and you respond to

situations and respond authentically.

 

Depression is a contemporary phenomenon and it has come into being because now

there is no tomorrow.

 

If you are depressed, be depressed, don't do anything. What can you do ?

Whatever you do will be done out of depression, so it will create more

confusion. You can pray to God, but you will pray so depressingly .... but thats

ok !!

 

So try this :

 

Whatsoever your state of mind, accept it and wait for when the state changes

itself. You are not changing anything, you can feel the beauty that comes when

your state of mind changes by itself....

 

You can knowthat it is just like the sun rising in the morning and then setting

in the evening.... the states come and move and go...

[Guest guest]

Swami Ji! This article is confusing me.as we have been taught that we should

control our anger .We should learn to forgive people but you are saying that we

should flow it out as it is coming .........pls guide me..........

 

 

 

--- On Fri, 24/7/09, C. P. Kumar <cpkumar wrote:

 

C. P. Kumar <cpkumar

Anger and Sadness

Shambhavi

Friday, 24 July, 2009, 9:01 AM

 

Ordinarily, anger is not bad. Ordinarily, anger is part of natural life, it

comes and goes. But if yourepress it, then it become a problem. Then you go on

accumulating it. Then it is not a question of coming and going, it becomes your

very being. Then it is not that you are sometimes angry, you remain angry, you

remain in rage, and you just wait for somebody to provoke it. Or even a hint of

provocation, and you catch fire and you do things for which, later on, you will

say " I did it in spite of myself " .

 

Analyze ths expression, " in spite of myself " . How can you do anything in spite

of yourself ? But the expression is exactly right. Repressed anger becomes a

temporary madness. Something happens that is beyond your control. if you could

have controlled it you would have, but suddenly it was overflowing. Suddenly it

was beyond you, you couldnt do anything, you felt helpless, and it came out.

Such a person may not be angry, but he moves and lives in anger.

 

If you look at ppl... stand by the side of the road and just watch, and you will

find two types of ppl. Just go on watching their faces. The whole of humanity is

divided into two types of ppl.

 

One is the sad type, who will look very sad, dragging somehow. Another is the

angry type, just bubbling with madness, ready to explode at any excuse.

 

Anger is active sadness; sadness is inactive anger. They are not two things.

 

Ordinary Anger is nothing wrong in it. In fact, ppl who can become angry and

forget all about it in the next moment are really very good ppl. You will always

find them friendly, alive, loving and compassionate. But ppl who are always

holding onto their emotions, controlling and controlling (sometimes provoke

others), are not good ppl.

 

There is nothing wrong in a momenttary flare-up of anger, it is beautiful in a

way. It simply shows that you are still alive, not dead and you respond to

situations and respond authentically.

 

Depression is a contemporary phenomenon and it has come into being because now

there is no tomorrow.

 

If you are depressed, be depressed, don't do anything. What can you do ?

Whatever you do will be done out of depression, so it will create more

confusion. You can pray to God, but you will pray so depressingly .... but thats

ok !!

 

So try this :

 

Whatsoever your state of mind, accept it and wait for when the state changes

itself. You are not changing anything, you can feel the beauty that comes when

your state of mind changes by itself....

 

You can knowthat it is just like the sun rising in the morning and then setting

in the evening.... the states come and move and go...