Six Reasons To Forgive

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No one can change the past, but you do have the power to upgrade how you feel

about it, and that makes all the difference. You can take your power back from

all those painful memories, and make peace with your past. Forgiveness heals the

guilt and the hurt, and does this quietly, privately, and thoroughly.

Forgiveness does not mean that you let anyone off the hook, it means that your

present happiness is more important than your past suffering. Forgiveness does

not mean that you condone the hurtful things done to you, it means that you

reclaim your right to run your own life.

 

Right now those hurtful things are running your life, and how is that working

for you? The people who hurt you may have ruined your yesterdays, but only you

are in charge of your tomorrows. And if you feel guilt over people that you have

hurt, forgiving yourself will heal you and allow you to move forward with a

happier attitude and a healthier body.

 

So here are the top six reasons to forgive..

 

1 You will feel better and laugh more. Resolving all that negative spin from

your past allows you to enjoy yourself and have the daily fun you really want.

Your buttons will stop being pushed because they will be gone. You see, guilt

and hatred resolve nothing, they just sustain the negativity that continues to

stop you from reaching your personal and professional goals. Forgiveness, on the

other hand, undoes the stickiness that binds you to all those unhappy

yesterdays, and this returns your personal energy to your present life, and you

get more done. Forgiveness is excellent for improved prosperity and success in

every area of your life.

 

2 You will be healthier. Carrying negativity appears to cause many physical

ills. The body and the mind are the same thing. Just as ice and steam are still

basically water, your body and your mind are simply different manifestations of

your spirit. Relieve your mental stress and your body will be happier too..

Nothing relieves mental stress like forgiveness. Forgiveness heals.

 

3 People will like you better.You will be a more enjoyable person to be around,

and will attract more positive people to your life. Humans are imperfect, and we

all make mistakes. One trait of positive people is that they take life less

personally, and readily forgive mistakes as they happen. On the other hand,

perfectionists are often miserable people, having standards way too high to be

reached. Would you settle for mere excellence? Then do so, and your relations

with others will improve immediately. Perfectionists are all about judgement,

whereas happy people are all about smiles. Sure, there are fights worth

fighting, but if you live is one long series of fights with other people, the

exhaustion must be terrible for you. Forgive and life improves. It really is

that simple.

 

4 You will stop the constant suffering. Forgive others exactly because what

happened was not your fault. Ask yourself: What was done to me? How long ago did

all that happen? Are those hurtful people still in my life? Why should I keep

suffering for what someone else did? Since it was not my fault, why am I still

paying for it? Of course you have suffered way too long and way too much

already. And those hurtful people have probably been gone from your life for

years. So let the suffering stop right now. Forgive them.

 

And it may be that complete, one hundred percent may not be possible for you at

first, and that is fine. Not to worry, because you can start with a small

percentage of forgiveness and work up. How about forgiving them ten percent?

Twenty? Eighty? Even five percent forgiveness is an excellent step in the right

direction. The more you forgive, the better you will feel.

 

5 You have punished yourself long enough. Self forgiveness stops the

overwhelming feelings of guilt that obstruct your happiness. Ask yourself: What

was my crime? How long ago did that happen? Am I still doing stuff like that? If

I had been imprisoned for it, would I be out by now? You have likely already

punished yourself way too much, and it is time to grant yourself a full pardon.

Forgive does not mean forget, it means accepting responsibility, and moving on

with your life in positive ways, having learned your lessons. You can stop

spinning over how you used to be and get on with creating the good life you have

always deserved. So forgive yourself. Today. Right now. Since you cannot undo

what you did, you must do the next best thing, and that is to face what

happened, and then let the blame go.

 

6 No one needs to know. Forgiveness happens privately, between you and God, or

between you and your higher self. You do not need to call anyone up or write any

letters. Forgiveness is an internal healing, and it is all about you. Other

people will have to forgive themselves for what they did. Your concern is you.

You evolve all the time anyway, so why not evolve for the better?

 

And here is how do forgiveness. As you remember past events and the people

involved, feel forgiveness flow from your heart out to them and back to

yourself. Visualize what happened and who was there, forgiving everything and

everyone involved. If you are not particularly visual, that is not a problem at

all, since you can just sense and feel what happened, and process from there.

Sensing and feeling work just as well as visualizing.

 

If anger arises when you think of some people, then in the privacy of your own

thoughts, confront them. Tell them how you feel about what happened, and spend

all of that anger you feel toward them. Tell them all the things you would never

say to their face, but need to express. And then forgive them.

 

You may need to feel forgiven by your higher power. Please know that God

forgives you the first time you ask, so only ask once. If you have to ask twice,

then it is you who is not forgiving you. Forgive yourself fully knowing that God

never needs to be asked twice.