Guest guest Posted May 3, 2009 Report Share Posted May 3, 2009 A friend of 37 years has written me an angry letter basically attacking me because of a one sentence opinion I expressed. It seems she apparently can't tolerate any opinions other than her own. I realize that this has been coming on over the last year or two, where everyone has to " walk on eggs " with her. In this case I felt moved to venture my opinion even though she may not like it, because I felt a possible health issue should be at least be brought to her attention. After chanting " lokah samastha sukhino bhavantu " quite a few times I have decided that " no response " is the best and most loving option. I don't have time, energy, nor any desire to fight with her, prove myself right, or invite more abuse. I have compassion for her and hope she feels better soon. However, understanding her need to lash out due to an imbalance in her energy system is not helping me to deal with my feeling of loss, since the friendship is probably over ~ I'm really not into egg-walking, and that seems to be the only terms available. Can anyone suggest some sadhana for me? Jai Ma-a-a-a!! Her little sheep Nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2009 Report Share Posted May 3, 2009 As they say in Swahili here in tanzania " Amna Shida " no problems. Just offer a hand full of water to whatever problems she has when u bathe. Lets see what happens. Also for YOU I suggest that you get the Walt disny's " LION KING " . See that for 3 days in one week every alternate day. Listen carefully to the conversation and songs and imbibe the spirit therein. (I am dead serious and I am NOT making fun of you) --- On Sun, 5/3/09, RemoteVwr <RemoteVwr wrote: RemoteVwr <RemoteVwr Forgiveness? Sunday, May 3, 2009, 6:31 PM A friend of 37 years has written me an angry letter basically attacking me because of a one sentence opinion I expressed. It seems she apparently can't tolerate any opinions other than her own. I realize that this has been coming on over the last year or two, where everyone has to " walk on eggs " with her. In this case I felt moved to venture my opinion even though she may not like it, because I felt a possible health issue should be at least be brought to her attention. After chanting " lokah samastha sukhino bhavantu " quite a few times I have decided that " no response " is the best and most loving option. I don't have time, energy, nor any desire to fight with her, prove myself right, or invite more abuse. I have compassion for her and hope she feels better soon. However, understanding her need to lash out due to an imbalance in her energy system is not helping me to deal with my feeling of loss, since the friendship is probably over ~ I'm really not into egg-walking, and that seems to be the only terms available. Can anyone suggest some sadhana for me? Jai Ma-a-a-a!! Her little sheep Nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2009 Report Share Posted May 3, 2009 Years ago a minister said to me, " If you find you're not ready to forgive, you can pray for the willingness to forgive. " It's been helpful for me; sometimes it takes me a long time to let go of an issue. It also helps me to use a mantra when I find I'm mentally rehashing the situation. If you don't think " willingness to forgive " is an exact fit for where you are, you could rephrase it as " willingness to let go " or whatever is appropriate. Best wishes. , RemoteVwr wrote: > > A friend of 37 years has written me an angry letter basically attacking me > because of a one sentence opinion I expressed. > [....] not > helping me to deal with my feeling of loss, since the friendship is > probably over [....] > > Can anyone suggest some sadhana for me? > > Jai Ma-a-a-a!! > > Her little sheep > > Nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2009 Report Share Posted May 3, 2009 When it comes to anger and lashing out, I find that mantras to MahaKali are helpful. She seems to quell the anger to get to the real problem somehow. I recently had a similar situation, and I prayed to Mahakali. It was better almost instantly and with some wisdom the next day on the subject. Jai Maa!! Enquire: 'Who am I?' and you will find the answer. Look at a tree: from one seed arises a huge tree; from it comes numerous seeds, each one of which in its turn grows into a tree. No two fruits are alike. Yet it is one life that throbs in every particle of the tree. So, it is the same Atman everywhere. --Sri Anandamayi Ma http://shankarikali.wordpress.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 4, 2009 Report Share Posted May 4, 2009 Forgive and forget....and move on. , RemoteVwr wrote: > > A friend of 37 years has written me an angry letter basically attacking me > because of a one sentence opinion I expressed. It seems she apparently > can't tolerate any opinions other than her own. I realize that this has been > coming on over the last year or two, where everyone has to " walk on eggs " > with her. In this case I felt moved to venture my opinion even though she may > not like it, because I felt a possible health issue should be at least be > brought to her attention. > > After chanting " lokah samastha sukhino bhavantu " quite a few times I have > decided that " no response " is the best and most loving option. I don't have > time, energy, nor any desire to fight with her, prove myself right, or > invite more abuse. > > I have compassion for her and hope she feels better soon. However, > understanding her need to lash out due to an imbalance in her energy system is not > helping me to deal with my feeling of loss, since the friendship is > probably over ~ I'm really not into egg-walking, and that seems to be the only > terms available. > > Can anyone suggest some sadhana for me? > > Jai Ma-a-a-a!! > > Her little sheep > > Nancy > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2009 Report Share Posted May 7, 2009 I would like to thank everyone who offered help for my issue with my friend of 37 years. I followed all the suggestions given along with crying for Mother's help (Who gifted me with a waft or two of Her lovely ojas), and as I was doing that, letters started coming from a contrite heart. I ignored everything until I felt I was clear spiritually, and then wrote that I had surrounded her with pink Celestial Fire and placed her, along with the whole matter, in Mother's lap for comfort, suggesting that she call to Mother in meditation and notice that Mother comes when needed. I got an immediate loving response saying that I was her truest friend. Jai Ma-a-a-a!! Her little sheep Nancy >^..^< Great minds like a think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2009 Report Share Posted May 9, 2009 Dear Friends: Forgiveness is the hardest thing to do and yet if we keep this ideal before us and move towards it, it is the greatest gift we give to others and our self. Forgiveness is the greatest healer. Ahimsa is the first yogic principle. Those who pray and are devoted to the Goddess spontaneously and naturally develop the quality of caring for all Her manifestations. On them the Goddess bestows Her grace and smile. Love to all Harsha , RemoteVwr wrote: > > I would like to thank everyone who offered help for my issue with my friend > of 37 years. I followed all the suggestions given [....] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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