Guest guest Posted May 28, 2009 Report Share Posted May 28, 2009 FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS   Now we enter themost difficult part of our study the realms of mind where the ignited spark of feelings turn into the uncontrollable flames of emotions.   A flame steady and rising high is useful either to give light or cook food. But a flame which is scattered is of no use . It burns the things lying next to it.      Feelling must be like a steady flame. When they become scattered spreading flame. When they became scattered spreading and blazing in all directions, they turn into violent emotions .They consume you.    Learn to control your emotions.Anger,impatience and intolerance are some of the emotions that should be dealt with quickly.Do not allow them toswell up.       Observe your feelings closely. Watch your emotions care fully. This aspect comes under introspection which we studied in chapter 5. Bur here we deal with the subject of controlling our mind.  If you want to tackle any problem,go to root cause of that problem .Study it impartially as a third person .Discuss it .Analyze it .Find a solution.It may not to be your liking .This is the problem for most of our troubles .It’s not that we don’t know the solution to a problem, but the said solution is not to our liking-not the liking of our mind.So the mind rejects it . It doesn’t allow the aspect of intellect or discrimination in you to take reins and guide you. This is where we have to be careful .Not to let the mind control us . How can we do this ?      This is where the exercise ofobserving our thoughts given in chapter 7 helps us.Observe your thoughts .Not when you are emotionally upset.When you have calmed down,sit at your place of meditation andwatch your thoughts.  If you got angry, find the reason for it . Is your anger justified? Are you angry as some one has commented on your dress, behaviour ,speech etc.? If any comment has been made,how much truth is there in it ? If it istrue, why should you be angry? Are you not able toaccept criticism even when it is true ? Why are you not ready ? What is it troubling you and stopping you from accepting the truth in another person’s comments ? Is it your ego,fear of failure , of feeling of shame ? Why are you egoistic ? How are you different from others?What greatness is there in you ? What are you devoid of your family name, position,wealth and other contributing factors for your supposed greatness ? What have you achieved on your own? What do you feel that your achievements are so great ? If you feel you are hurt, what is it that has hurt you ? What is your part in what ever has happened? If a chance is given to replay that incident do you behave in adifferent way, in a proper way ?  If thecomments made against you are baseless , why can’t you simply dismiss them ?     Why don’t you forgive the person whomade those comments ?  Is it because you don,t like that person ?Or is there any other reason ? Even if the other person is bad, won’t it be noble on your part if you forgive him ?  If you have fear of failure, what is success and what is failure ?   How do you measure them ? Do you equate winning with success ?  Then what about statements such as losers being ‘winners’,   ‘graceful in defeat’,   ‘fought till the end’ etc . ? How do you explain a talented person losing and a not so talented one winning the match ? What is failure ?What is thequestion of failure when you have put in your hundred per cent effort ? Do you expect sympathy from others ? Why should any one sympathize with you ? If you have not performed well you wil lfail . If you haved failed that means you have not perfoemed well. Why are you afraid of facing the reality ? My friend , analyze , dig deeper and deeper .Answer in all sincerity .You will reach the root .You understand what it is that is disturbing you . Most of the time it is nothing but self- love,misplaced affections, craving for sympathy of recognition or a sense of inferiority that will be the answer ..Tackle it .     By trying to be dispassionate,by accepting the truth, by clearing your vision, and by allowing your discrimination to dominate your mind. To aid you in your effort , practice yoga and meditation.  Write a daiary. Record your feelings,emotions and reactions during theday. Write what corrective measures you want to adopt to overcome your emotions.Check whether you are adopting them or not .   ‘’Mankind are governed more by their feelings than by reason –Samuel Adams’’  ‘’Thought is deeper than all speech,feelings deeper than all thoughts—Christopher P Cranch’’  COURTESY-Dr.I.Srinivas [MIHIRA]  Regards Bharathi.A Explore your hobbies and interests. Go to http://in.promos./groups/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.