Fwd: When You see Other's Defects, You have Forgotten Your Duty

November 17, 2007

Hare Krsna. Those who do as you wish, make you full of pride, which is a demoniac trait. "Dambho darpobhimaanacshr krodhah:" (Gita 16:4) Therefore those who do not obey you are doing you service, because they are helping in removing the demoniac traits from you and bringing forth divine virtues in you. Now the question arises that people will become rude and impertinent if they don't obey you. There are two view points - if they disobey you, they become impertinent, but if they obey you, you become proud. Think over both these situations. If you don't behave with pride and authority, and instead behave politely with them, they will be influenced by your good behavior, and at the same time they will not be pertinent. Therefore we should advice them politely. But if they don't accept your advice, do not lose your temper and patience, because if they become impertinent, they themselves

suffer and their suffering will warn them and then their impertinence will go away. But if you behave with pride and authority, your influence on them may be momentary only. Therefore the method to remove their impertinence, is to do away with your pride. You have to live with the members of the family. Therefore learn the art of living in the family. The art is that you should perform your duty to your wife, parents, sons, brothers, and other relatives. You should not expect them to perform their duty, because as soon as, you see their defects and their duty, it means that you have forgotten your duty.

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