[Guruvayur/Guruvayoor] Six Principles of Authentic Living

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Dear Soumya, It is very nice of you to send this email. Once I read this email, I intend to read this once in a week and improve my way of thinking/living. It is not that i am not good to others, but felt that reading once in a week atleast I am brought back to my normalcy of being calm and cool in this existing hypocricy world. Thanks. Geetha Nair. Soumya Vinod <soumya0406 wrote: January - February 2005 Six Principles of Authentic LivingBy Robert Rabbin A few years ago, I was invited to give a commencement speech to a group of students at a California high school. That honor remains one of my favorite speaking experiences. I believe what I said then and there is pertinent to all of us, even today. As we set sail from 2004 to 2005, I'd like to offer it as my New Year blessing of good wishes. Mahatma Gandhi was approached one day by a woman and her young son. She asked, "Mahatma, can you please tell my son to stop eating

sugar. It's not good for him, and he won't listen to me. He respects you, and I know he will listen to you." The Mahatma said, "Fine. Come back in a week." A week later, the woman and her son came back. The Mahatma said, "I'm not quite ready. Please come back in another week." Another week went by, and the woman came back with her son. The Mahatma was ready, and he said, "Son, you should stop eating sugar. It is not good for you." The woman was pleased, but also a bit confused. She said, "Why did it take you so long to say such a simple thing." The Mahatma replied, "When you first came to me, I had not stopped eating sugar myself." The moral of the story is clear: Don't tell people to do things you haven't done yourself. So, I don't want to write about things I haven't tried and tested myself, and I don't want to tell you a bunch of nonsense I don't believe in. What I can do, though,

is to share what I've learned about life, in the hope I will say something that will be useful to you. I'm going to write briefly about six principles that represent what I've learned over the past thirty years since I graduated high school, based purely on my own experiments in living. I try to practice these six principles every day, and I like to think these principles are a tree whose fruits are an honorable life, which is what I wish for you. The first principle: Live your own life. It would be a shame to get to the end of your life--and who knows when that time will come--only to discover in the last moment that you did not live your life, but the life that someone else wanted you to live. It takes a lot of strength and courage to live your own life, because so many people want you to live their idea of what your life should be. But they are not you, and their values and goals and dreams are theirs, not yours. Only you are

you, so find out who you are and how you want to live and what you want to do. Take as much time as you need to do this. Don't be afraid of changing your mind or of making mistakes, because these are part of the journey of living your own life. Explore different paths, keep learning and growing, and don't be afraid of wandering off into the unknown, because that wilderness is where great people are born. My older brother and I took different paths after high school. He went to college, got married, had two kids, went to law school and became a lawyer. Following my heart, I traveled around the world and lived in Europe, the Middle East, and India. I had a lot of adventures, most of which were X- rated, while he had a lot of adventures that were more PG-rated. To this day, I am not a lawyer and I am not married and I don't have two kids. I don't even have a dog. Come to think of it, I don't even have a house plant. Never mind: different strokes for different

folks. However, my brother and I are friends, and we share what we have each learned and thus we enrich each other's lives. My brother was not wrong, and neither was I. We each followed the true path of our own life. Though our paths and lives are different, we enjoy and share the same passion for authentic living. In a word, we are each happy, which is what I hope you will be. And remember: houses, cars, boats and big bank accounts are not who you are; they are just things you own. Who you are has more to do with character and integrity, and how you treat people, and whether or not you love what you do. The second principle: Be persistent. Don't give up. Keep building your dream, whatever it is. Imagine how many difficulties Noah must have had when he started to build his ark. I'm sure he maxed out his credit cards and borrowed even more money from anyone who would lend him some. He had to work weekends, and

vacations were definitely out. People laughed and thought he was crazy. Still, he stuck with it, and history tells us that Noah had the last laugh. Thomas Edison racked up over 10,000 failed experiments before he invented the light bulb. Be persistent, but also be flexible. Flexibility allows us to learn from our mistakes and to learn from others. Persistence means to just keep at it, and flexibility means to embrace change when necessary. The third principle: Respect other people, especially those people you don't like or who are so different from you that you are sure they come from another galaxy. A Buddhist version of this principle might be: do no harm. The Buddha used to say this all the time: do no harm. Instead of saying "Hi" or "How are you?" he would say "Do no harm." Respecting other people invites them to respect you. If you do no harm to others, and others do no harm to you, can you imagine

what a lovely planet this would be? The fourth principle: Express gratitude and appreciation to everyone every day. This is a hard one for me, because I tend to be self-absorbed, and I forget to acknowledge other people. But for anyone reading this who has experienced the sudden loss of a loved one, you know what I mean. The first thing that comes to our mind is: "I never said 'I love you.'" Expressing gratitude and appreciation is a form of saying "I love you," which is a form of respect. It only takes a moment, but it makes all the difference in the world. This is how we create heaven on earth. For example, around you are the teachers who have given their very best effort, day after day, year after year, to help you, to teach you, to care for you. You may never see them again. Wouldn't it be fun to go to each one and say, "Thank you for all you have done and tried to do to make me a better person. I love you." I

know you would have friends for life, and you would feel great. You could also say this to your parents as you leave home for college, or wherever else you may be heading. I know they would be deeply appreciative. The fifth principle: Now is the only time there is. Make now count. It's fine to plan ahead, to set goals, and to wonder about where you want to be in five or ten years. But life is unpredictable, and in five years you might be worm food. I hope not, but you never know. Even as you look ahead and plan ahead, make sure your feet, head, and heart are planted firmly in now, this minute, because that is all we have. There are no guarantees about tomorrow. This moment is where we live our unique life, where we demonstrate who we are. Be your very best in this moment. Face your fears in this moment. Speak the truth of your heart in this moment. Live from the depths of your soul in this moment. If you do, tomorrow

and the day after will exceed your wildest dreams. The sixth principle: Don't become cynical and selfish. I know there are a lot of things wrong in our world, and that we all face an uncertain future. It may seem that we can't change things, or that the world is not our business. But the world is our business, and we can change things. Don't cop out. Stay involved, be heard. Stand up for righteousness and justice for all. Take care of yourself and your families, but also make a contribution to others. Find a way to be of service to your community and to the world in which we live. We should all pitch in and make this Earth a better place for our children and for their children and for theirs. Keep a positive outlook, be optimistic and help those less fortunate than you. And, of course, always, always be kind to children. Robert Rabbin is a San Francisco-based writer and speaker. Robert

is the author of numerous books and articles and the founder of Radical Sages: an evolution of spiritual action. For more more information, please visit www.radicalsages.com.©Robert Rabbin, , 2004. Reprinted by permission. Geetha Nair

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> January - February 2005

> <http://www.yogachicago.com/jan05.shtml>

>

> Six Principles of Authentic Living

> *By Robert Rabbin*

>

> [image: Robert Rabbin]A few years ago, I was invited

> to give a commencement

> speech to a group of students at a California high

> school. That honor

> remains one of my favorite speaking experiences. I

> believe what I said then

> and there is pertinent to all of us, even today. As

> we set sail from 2004 to

> 2005, I'd like to offer it as my New Year blessing

> of good wishes.

>

> Mahatma Gandhi was approached one day by a woman and

> her young son. She

> asked, " Mahatma, can you please tell my son to stop

> eating sugar. It's not

> good for him, and he won't listen to me. He respects

> you, and I know he will

> listen to you. "

>

> The Mahatma said, " Fine. Come back in a week. "

>

> A week later, the woman and her son came back. The

> Mahatma said, " I'm not

> quite ready. Please come back in another week. "

>

> Another week went by, and the woman came back with

> her son. The Mahatma was

> ready, and he said, " Son, you should stop eating

> sugar. It is not good for

> you. "

>

> The woman was pleased, but also a bit confused. She

> said, " Why did it take

> you so long to say such a simple thing. "

>

> The Mahatma replied, " When you first came to me, I

> had not stopped eating

> sugar myself. "

>

> The moral of the story is clear: Don't tell people

> to do things you haven't

> done yourself. So, I don't want to write about

> things I haven't tried and

> tested myself, and I don't want to tell you a bunch

> of nonsense I don't

> believe in.

>

> What I can do, though, is to share what I've learned

> about life, in the hope

> I will say something that will be useful to you. I'm

> going to write briefly

> about six principles that represent what I've

> learned over the past thirty

> years since I graduated high school, based purely on

> my own experiments in

> living. I try to practice these six principles every

> day, and I like to

> think these principles are a tree whose fruits are

> an honorable life, which

> is what I wish for you.

>

> *The first principle: *Live your own life. It would

> be a shame to get to the

> end of your life--and who knows when that time will

> come--only to discover

> in the last moment that you did not live your life,

> but the life that

> someone else wanted you to live. It takes a lot of

> strength and courage to

> live your own life, because so many people want you

> to live their idea of

> what your life should be.

>

> But they are not you, and their values and goals and

> dreams are theirs, not

> yours. Only you are you, so find out who you are and

> how you want to live

> and what you want to do. Take as much time as you

> need to do this. Don't be

> afraid of changing your mind or of making mistakes,

> because these are part

> of the journey of living your own life. Explore

> different paths, keep

> learning and growing, and don't be afraid of

> wandering off into the unknown,

> because that wilderness is where great people are

> born.

>

> My older brother and I took different paths after

> high school. He went to

> college, got married, had two kids, went to law

> school and became a lawyer.

> Following my heart, I traveled around the world and

> lived in Europe, the

> Middle East, and India. I had a lot of adventures,

> most of which were X-

> rated, while he had a lot of adventures that were

> more PG-rated. To this

> day, I am not a lawyer and I am not married and I

> don't have two kids. I

> don't even have a dog. Come to think of it, I don't

> even have a house plant.

> Never mind: different strokes for different folks.

>

> However, my brother and I are friends, and we share

> what we have each

> learned and thus we enrich each other's lives. My

> brother was not wrong, and

> neither was I. We each followed the true path of our

> own life. Though our

> paths and lives are different, we enjoy and share

> the same passion for

> authentic living. In a word, we are each happy,

> which is what I hope you

> will be.

>

> And remember: houses, cars, boats and big bank

> accounts are not who you are;

> they are just things you own. Who you are has more

> to do with character and

> integrity, and how you treat people, and whether or

> not you love what you

> do.

>

> *The second principle: *Be persistent. Don't give

> up. Keep building your

> dream, whatever it is. Imagine how many difficulties

> Noah must have had when

> he started to build his ark. I'm sure he maxed out

> his credit cards and

> borrowed even more money from anyone who would lend

> him some. He had to work

> weekends, and vacations were definitely out. People

> laughed and thought he

> was crazy. Still, he stuck with it, and history

> tells us that Noah had the

> last laugh.

>

> Thomas Edison racked up over 10,000 failed

> experiments before he invented

> the light bulb. Be persistent, but also be flexible.

> Flexibility allows us

> to learn from our mistakes and to learn from others.

>

> Persistence means to just keep at it, and

> flexibility means to embrace

> change when necessary.

>

> *The third principle: *Respect other people,

> especially those people you

> don't like or who are so different from you that you

> are sure they come from

> another galaxy. A Buddhist version of this principle

> might be: do no harm.

> The Buddha used to say this all the time: do no

> harm. Instead of saying " Hi "

> or " How are you? " he would say " Do no harm. "

>

> Respecting other people invites them to respect you.

> If you do no harm to

> others, and others do no harm to you, can you

> imagine what a lovely planet

> this would be?

>

> *The fourth principle: *Express gratitude and

> appreciation to everyone every

> day. This is a hard one for me, because I tend to be

> self-absorbed, and I

> forget to acknowledge other people. But for anyone

> reading this who has

> experienced the sudden loss of a loved one, you know

> what I mean. The first

> thing that comes to our mind is: " I never said 'I

> love you.' "

>

> Expressing gratitude and appreciation is a form of

> saying " I love you, "

> which is a form of respect. It only takes a moment,

> but it makes all the

> difference in the world. This is how we create

> heaven on earth.

>

> For example, around you are the teachers who have

> given their very best

> effort, day after day, year after year, to help you,

> to teach you, to care

> for you. You may never see them again. Wouldn't it

> be fun to go to each one

> and say, " Thank you for all you have done and tried

> to do to make me a

> better person. I love you. " I know you would have

> friends for life, and you

> would feel great.

>

> You could also say this to your parents as you leave

> home

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