Guest guest Posted July 6, 2007 Report Share Posted July 6, 2007 - Respected Saroja Madam, your reply was as if coming from a mother to a child. It is applicable to all.we, your desciples go a step futher in spirituality with these kind of kind advices.Thanks and Pranams vijaya venkatesh -- In guruvayur , Saroja Ramanujam <sarojram18 wrote: > > > Dear Jayasree, > > I am sorry to hear about your mother's demise and words fail me to comfort you but i am reproducing below my answer to a question from my webpage on questions and answers which applies to your case.You say that your son too was affected.It is your responsibility to be a tower of strength for him and make him get over it because he has his whole life before him and has to emerge strong ans firm. Death is also a sure happening in life as much as the birth. You must bear in mind that a loved one never dies but only that you cannot see them or talk to them anymore. as they are moved to a land where there is no communication of any sort.Bhagavatgita is the only source of solace to man t any juncture and I have referred to it in my reply. > > > Question > How to tell the bereaved to be detached and happy.? > Answer > > I will try to answer the question ' > I said I will try because detachment from matters of life can be understood somehow but it is difficult to explain detachment when it relates to death. First of all we must discuss what is meant by death. > Death is nothing to be afraid of. Jaathasya hi dhruvo mrthyuh, says Gita. > Death is sure for one who is born and it is like casting off old clothes and > wearing new ones, to quote the Gita. In fact the first sign of > spiritual progress is the freedom from the fear of death. If we take > our whole existence from the time of creation a single life is an > infinitesimal part of it. > The people we live with are like the friends we make while travelling. We often become very much attached to those who travel with us for a short time but we do not pine for them when they get off at their destination. I do not say that we > should say bye-bye to those who leave from this world with out any > emotion. Of course the sadness will be there but armed with this > philosophy you will be able to regain your balance quickly. > Even our own death should not be frightening and neither it is to be accepted > stoically but it should be faced with a healthy expectation and > curiosity as when you die it is only the body that dies and not the > real 'You' which is simply changing residence. > When we shift house we do not feel sorry and similarly when we shift to a new abode of physical existence we should not worry. > To go back to Gita again Krishna says > 'avayakthaadheena bhoothaani vyaktha madhyaani Bhaaratha > avyakthanidhanaanyeve thathra kaa paridevanaa, > The beginning of beings is unmanifest, their middle state is only perceived and their > end is again unmanifest. So why lament about the small portion which > is only visible?. That is to say , we do not > know where we came from and whither we go but we are only aware of > where we are at present So why worry about it. > Dhehino asmin yathaa dhehe koumaaram youvanam jaraa thathaa dhehaanthara praapthih, says Krishna. When we lose our childhood or youth and change to old age > we do not grieve over it similar is the change over to another body > There is one who knows us from the time of creation till our final > emancipation and that person is God. So trust Him to lead us through. > Now coming to the question as to how can you tell someone to be happy when the have had a bereavement, the answer is 'Don't tell them so.' But if you are armed with detachment and discrimination you will be able to comfort them to come out of it. You may ask whether a detached person will never have any feeling when someone near and dear to him dies. Sure he does but not in the way that a worldly man does. He knows the realities of life and has discrimination as to which is permanent and which is not. His sadness is due to parting as he knows it is not a loss of life but a continuation. So not only he regains his mental equipoise quickly but also becomes the pillar of strength to those around. > > saroja Ramanujam > > > > > Dr. Saroja Ramanujam, M.A., Ph.D, Siromani in sanskrit. > web address: http://www.geocities.com/sarojram18 > http://freewebs.com/gitaclass > > > > > > > Choose the right car based on your needs. Check out Autos new Car Finder tool. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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