Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Respected all i'm a house wife residing in salem.i lost my father on may17thwhich was a very great blow for we 3 sisters.My father was a great businessman,and now he has left we 3 sisters a share in his business.But the problem is my brother who is eldest to all of us does not like the idea and he constantly kept on torturing my father.My father also has given him a very good portion of his property to my brother.now the problem is my brother is giving all the wrong information to my mother and she is believing him though in her mind she knows fully about her son.so our relation with our mother is not very good and the relation with brother is very worse.we are able to ignore our brother but with mother not possible.so please give us some precious advise to make our relation with our mother good. thanks for all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Stand firm, you are three of you against one. Do not tolerate injustice. Reason with your mother and calmly explain the sitution. You have to fight for your rights. Don't be bullied. Read what Bhagvan Sree Krishna says in Geeta, Second Teaching, verses 31-37 ( 2-31/37) Jai shree Krishna ! guruvayur , minisanthosh444 <no_reply wrote: > > Respected all > i'm a house wife residing in salem.i lost my father on > may17thwhich was a very great blow for we 3 sisters.My father was a > great businessman,and now he has left we 3 sisters a share in his > business.But the problem is my brother who is eldest to all of us does > not like the idea and he constantly kept on torturing my father.My > father also has given him a very good portion of his property to my > brother.now the problem is my brother is giving all the wrong > information to my mother and she is believing him though in her mind > she knows fully about her son.so our relation with our mother is not > very good and the relation with brother is very worse.we are able to > ignore our brother but with mother not possible.so please give us some > precious advise to make our relation with our mother good. > thanks for all. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2008 Report Share Posted September 6, 2008 HARI AUM In LIFE one gets not what one wants but what he thinks and expects. Hence begin a constant speaking of settlement and see and believe it happening. Aggression is the last resort. Remember Krishna himself went to Kauravas as 'shantidoot' in his last bid to save troubles. Prayers for a change in mind of Brother and Mother is a safer bet. Prayers to 'him' do not go unanswered. Regards Balagopal NARAYANA NARAYANA NARAYANA --- On Sat, 6/9/08, chirattapuram <anair1101 wrote: chirattapuram <anair1101 [Guruvayur] Re: need prayers guruvayur Saturday, 6 September, 2008, 12:51 AM Stand firm, you are three of you against one. Do not tolerate injustice. Reason with your mother and calmly explain the sitution. You have to fight for your rights. Don't be bullied. Read what Bhagvan Sree Krishna says in Geeta, Second Teaching, verses 31-37 ( 2-31/37) Jai shree Krishna ! guruvayur@grou ps.com, minisanthosh444 <no_reply@.. .> wrote: > > Respected all > i'm a house wife residing in salem.i lost my father on > may17thwhich was a very great blow for we 3 sisters.My father was a > great businessman, and now he has left we 3 sisters a share in his > business.But the problem is my brother who is eldest to all of us does > not like the idea and he constantly kept on torturing my father.My > father also has given him a very good portion of his property to my > brother.now the problem is my brother is giving all the wrong > information to my mother and she is believing him though in her mind > she knows fully about her son.so our relation with our mother is not > very good and the relation with brother is very worse.we are able to > ignore our brother but with mother not possible.so please give us some > precious advise to make our relation with our mother good. > thanks for all. > Unlimited freedom, unlimited storage. Get it now, on http://help./l/in//mail/mail/tools/tools-08.html/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Dear Mini, I am very sorry to hear about your menal agony.. All of us get into these difficult situations some time in our lives. Poverty, disease and mental torture are siad to be the root of all the problems in one's life Mental Agony is the worst when it is the relationship with the dearest person on earth ,your mother. Praying to God gives you,the solace you need. Time will solve everything. Till then, May Guruvayurappan give you the strength to go through this period of your life. Do participate in the kotinamajapam. It will give you peace of mind and Lord will find a solution.May God bless you and your family to solve the problem peacefully. with prayers, Sreedvi menon Om NAMO NARAYANAYA --- On Fri, 9/5/08, minisanthosh444 <no_reply > wrote: minisanthosh444 <no_reply >[Guruvayur] need prayersguruvayur Date: Friday, September 5, 2008, 2:05 AM Respected all i'm a house wife residing in salem.i lost my father onmay17thwhich was a very great blow for we 3 sisters.My father was agreat businessman, and now he has left we 3 sisters a share in hisbusiness.But the problem is my brother who is eldest to all of us doesnot like the idea and he constantly kept on torturing my father.Myfather also has given him a very good portion of his property to mybrother.now the problem is my brother is giving all the wronginformation to my mother and she is believing him though in her mindshe knows fully about her son.so our relation with our mother is notvery good and the relation with brother is very worse.we are able toignore our brother but with mother not possible.so please give us someprecious advise to make our relation with our mother good. thanks for all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Radhe krishna! It is money which makes relationships and estrangements. If the father had no property and had left nothing behind, there would have been no differences of opinion, no quarrels, no hatred. And love would have reigned supreme! "KANAKAM MOOLAM KAAMINI MOOLAM KALAHAM PALAVIDHAM ULAKIL SULABHAM!" Your mother's love and your love and care towards your mother are more important than anything else. Hence I suggest you sisters to forget the desire for the property, (if you are okay otherwise), get your mother with you and all the three sisters keep her by turns and make her happy. The love and respect for your mother will pave the way for a change in attitude in your brother and love will take roots in him. Remove from your minds, the hatred towards your brother, and pray to the Lord to change his mind. When the right time comes, he will himself realise his mistakes and make amends. It is a family matter, and has to be ultimately settled within yourselves. Mine is just a humble suggestion to find a simple solution for a difficult problem, and I hope it will work. God be with you! Regards KVG. NVP Menon wrote: Dear Mini, I am very sorry to hear about your menal agony.. All of us get into these difficult situations some time in our lives. Poverty, disease and mental torture are siad to be the root of all the problems in one's life Mental Agony is the worst when it is the relationship with the dearest person on earth ,your mother. Praying to God gives you,the solace you need. Time will solve everything. Till then, May Guruvayurappan give you the strength to go through this period of your life. Do participate in the kotinamajapam. It will give you peace of mind and Lord will find a solution.May God bless you and your family to solve the problem peacefully. with prayers, Sreedvi menon Om NAMO NARAYANAYA --- On Fri, 9/5/08, minisanthosh444 <no_reply > wrote: minisanthosh444 <no_reply > [Guruvayur] need prayers guruvayur Friday, September 5, 2008, 2:05 AM Respected all i'm a house wife residing in salem.i lost my father on may17thwhich was a very great blow for we 3 sisters.My father was a great businessman, and now he has left we 3 sisters a share in his business.But the problem is my brother who is eldest to all of us does not like the idea and he constantly kept on torturing my father.My father also has given him a very good portion of his property to my brother.now the problem is my brother is giving all the wrong information to my mother and she is believing him though in her mind she knows fully about her son.so our relation with our mother is not very good and the relation with brother is very worse.we are able to ignore our brother but with mother not possible.so please give us some precious advise to make our relation with our mother good. thanks for all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Om Namo Narayanaya Following is a story (may be true one) but worth reading in this context Quote A long time ago in China a girl named Li-Li got married & went to livewith her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found thatshe couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalitieswere very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law'shabits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stoppedarguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that,according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to hermother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in thehouse was causing Li-Li's poor husband! d great distress.Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-! law's bad temper anddictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it! Li-Liwent to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She toldhim the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that shecould solve the problem once and for all.Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, 'Li-Li, I will help you to solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.'Li-Li said, 'Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do. 'Mr.Huangwent into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package ofherbs. He told Li-Li, 'You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid ofyour mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspiciousTherefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build uppoison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put alittle of these herbs in her serving.Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you, when she dies, you mustbe very careful to act very friendly towards her. 'Don't argue with her,obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.' Li-Li was so happy. Shethanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering hermother-in-law. Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Liserved the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered whatMr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper!obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li hadpracticed controlling her temper so much that she found that she almostnever got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law insix months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to loveLi-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives thatLi-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and hermother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening. One day, Li-Licame to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again She said, 'Dear Mr.Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law.She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.'Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. 'Li-Li, there's nothing to worryabout. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins toimprove her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitudetoward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave toher.'HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treatyou? There is a wise Chinese saying: 'The person who loves others will alsobe loved in return.' God might be trying to work in another person's lifethrough you. Send this to your friends and spread the POWER OF LOVE.'A candle loses nothing if it is used to light another one' Unquote Om Namo Narayanaya Chandrasekharan K.V Gopalakrishna <gopalakrishna.kvguruvayur Sent: Sunday, September 7, 2008 6:41:21 AMRe: [Guruvayur] need prayers Radhe krishna!It is money which makes relationships and estrangements. If the father had no property and had left nothing behind, there would have been no differences of opinion, no quarrels, no hatred. And love would have reigned supreme! "KANAKAM MOOLAM KAAMINI MOOLAM KALAHAM PALAVIDHAM ULAKIL SULABHAM!" Your mother's love and your love and care towards your mother are more important than anything else. Hence I suggest you sisters to forget the desire for the property, (if you are okay otherwise), get your mother with you and all the three sisters keep her by turns and make her happy. The love and respect for your mother will pave the way for a change in attitude in your brother and love will take roots in him. Remove from your minds, the hatred towards your brother, and pray to the Lord to change his mind. When the right time comes, he will himself realise his mistakes and make amends.It is a family matter, and has to be ultimately settled within yourselves. Mine is just a humble suggestion to find a simple solution for a difficult problem, and I hope it will work.God be with you!RegardsKVG.NVP Menon wrote: Dear Mini, I am very sorry to hear about your menal agony.. All of us get into these difficult situations some time in our lives. Poverty, disease and mental torture are siad to be the root of all the problems in one's life Mental Agony is the worst when it is the relationship with the dearest person on earth ,your mother. Praying to God gives you,the solace you need. Time will solve everything. Till then, May Guruvayurappan give you the strength to go through this period of your life. Do participate in the kotinamajapam. It will give you peace of mind and Lord will find a solution.May God bless you and your family to solve the problem peacefully. with prayers, Sreedvi menon Om NAMO NARAYANAYA --- On Fri, 9/5/08, minisanthosh444 <no_reply@ s.com> wrote: minisanthosh444 <no_reply@ s.com>[Guruvayur] need prayersguruvayur@grou ps.comFriday, September 5, 2008, 2:05 AM Respected all i'm a house wife residing in salem.i lost my father onmay17thwhich was a very great blow for we 3 sisters.My father was agreat businessman, and now he has left we 3 sisters a share in hisbusiness.But the problem is my brother who is eldest to all of us doesnot like the idea and he constantly kept on torturing my father.Myfather also has given him a very good portion of his property to mybrother.now the problem is my brother is giving all the wronginformation to my mother and she is believing him though in her mindshe knows fully about her son.so our relation with our mother is notvery good and the relation with brother is very worse.we are able toignore our brother but with mother not possible.so please give us someprecious advise to make our relation with our mother good. thanks for all. 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Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 Respected All, thanks so much for giving me a morale booster.I will sincerely try to follow everyone's advise;rest i'm leaving to The Almighty Lord. thanks for care and sincerity Mini. > she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities > were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's > habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly. > > Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped > arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, > according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her > mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the > house was causing Li-Li's poor husband! d great distress. > > Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-! law's bad temper and > dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it! Li-Li > went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told > him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she > could solve the problem once and for all. > > Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, 'Li-Li, I will help you to > solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.' > > Li-Li said, 'Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do. 'Mr.Huang > went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of > herbs. He told Li-Li, 'You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of > your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious > Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up > poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a > little of these herbs in her serving. > > Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you, when she dies, you must > be very careful to act very friendly towards her. 'Don't argue with her, > obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.' Li-Li was so happy. She > thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her > mother-in-law. Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li > served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what > Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper! > obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. > > After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had > practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost > never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in > six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with. > > The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love > Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that > Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her > mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. > Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening. One day, Li-Li > came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again She said, 'Dear Mr. > Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law. > She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. > I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.' > > Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. 'Li-Li, there's nothing to worry > about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to > improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude > toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to > her.' > > HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat > you? There is a wise Chinese saying: 'The person who loves others will also > be loved in return.' God might be trying to work in another person's life > through you. Send this to your friends and spread the POWER OF LOVE. > > 'A candle loses nothing if it is used to light another one' > Unquote > Om Namo Narayanaya > Chandrasekharan > > > > > > K.V Gopalakrishna <gopalakrishna.kv > guruvayur > Sunday, September 7, 2008 6:41:21 AM > Re: [Guruvayur] need prayers > > > Radhe krishna! > It is money which makes relationships and estrangements. If the father had no property and had left nothing behind, there would have been no differences of opinion, no quarrels, no hatred. And love would have reigned supreme! " KANAKAM MOOLAM KAAMINI MOOLAM KALAHAM PALAVIDHAM ULAKIL SULABHAM! " > > Your mother's love and your love and care towards your mother are more important than anything else. Hence I suggest you sisters to forget the desire for the property, (if you are okay otherwise), get your mother with you and all the three sisters keep her by turns and make her happy. The love and respect for your mother will pave the way for a change in attitude in your brother and love will take roots in him. Remove from your minds, the hatred towards your brother, and pray to the Lord to change his mind. When the right time comes, he will himself realise his mistakes and make amends. > > It is a family matter, and has to be ultimately settled within yourselves. Mine is just a humble suggestion to find a simple solution for a difficult problem, and I hope it will work. > > God be with you! > Regards > KVG. > > > NVP Menon wrote: > Dear Mini, > I am very sorry to hear about your menal agony.. All of us get into these difficult situations > some time in our lives. Poverty, disease and mental torture are siad to be the root of all the problems in one's life Mental Agony is the worst when it is the relationship with the dearest person on earth ,your mother. Praying to God gives you,the solace you need. Time will solve everything. Till then, May Guruvayurappan give you the strength to go through this period of your life. Do participate in the kotinamajapam. It will give you peace of mind and Lord will find a solution.May God bless you and your family to solve the problem peacefully. > with prayers, > Sreedvi menon > Om NAMO NARAYANAYA > > > > > > --- On Fri, 9/5/08, minisanthosh444 <no_reply@ s.com> wrote: > > minisanthosh444 <no_reply@ s.com> > [Guruvayur] need prayers > guruvayur@grou ps.com > Friday, September 5, 2008, 2:05 AM > > > Respected all > i'm a house wife residing in salem.i lost my father on > may17thwhich was a very great blow for we 3 sisters.My father was a > great businessman, and now he has left we 3 sisters a share in his > business.But the problem is my brother who is eldest to all of us does > not like the idea and he constantly kept on torturing my father.My > father also has given him a very good portion of his property to my > brother.now the problem is my brother is giving all the wrong > information to my mother and she is believing him though in her mind > she knows fully about her son.so our relation with our mother is not > very good and the relation with brother is very worse.we are able to > ignore our brother but with mother not possible.so please give us some > precious advise to make our relation with our mother good. > thanks for all. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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