There is No Benefit in Selfishness (regarding doubt)

[Guest guest]

Hari Om,

Well I think that when we find some one having bad habits or we

want to change some one, we should just try to see our inner self and we'll

realize that we too have some bad habits to change. So this way we can

concentrate more on ourself and then we will not get so moved by other people's

bad habits.

I think we should only focus and see ourselves first and once we attain kindness

and people can't point bad things in us, then they

themselves will ask us the right path for themselves. Just like we look upto

our Gurus like Sri. Ramsukh Dasji (now his teachings have

become a path for us) or others, because none can point out any

negative traits in them.

I sincerely apologize if I have said anything wrong.

Best Regards

Aseem Saxena

 

, " shree kabra "

<shree.learnings wrote:

>

> Jai Shri Krishna,

>

> I have a related doubt ....

> i also believe in changing my surrounding for the better my making

myself

> better...

> but there is one question which always lingers on my mind...

> if i see someone has a bad habit or someone whom i see is going in

the wrong

> direction..

> should i suggest him or advice him on the correct way.?

> often in the past it happened that whenever i advice someone

> even to people close to me, they have replied back saying curtly

and rudely

> at times..

> that kindly mind your own business...i dont need advice ..i know

what i am

> doing.....

>

> what should i do in such a scenaio..

> should i ignore it and focus on improving myself only by learning

what i

> shouldnt do myself?

> or should i suggest it to the person once...with the hope that

maybe he will

> listen

> coz the worst case would bet that i would receive a rude reply

which really

> hurts at times.

> but on the other hand there is the chance of making both you and

the other

> person happy by helping him out.

>

> Kindly suggest as to what should be done in such scenarios...?

>

> Thanks and Regards,

> Shreevardhan Kabra

>

> On 11/14/06, Gopi Krishna Paritala <paritalagopikrishna wrote:

> >

> > shree hari VARIOUS RESPONSES CONSOLIDATED

> >

> > paritalagopikrishna Dear Fellow Travellers,

> >

> > Love and Love alone.....

> >

> > To expand it a little more of what Dear Sadhaka has written, one

has to

> > introspect to bring about coordination and synchronisation and

learn from

> > the lessons that the life bestows on us. Every minute is a new

lesson for

> > those, who are open to receive and accept what is in store.

Surrender to the

> > will of God is not only important but also essential. Look

within and

> > correct that which is of no help to realise the Ultimate. On

having great

> > conviction, dedication and devotion to align our will to the

will of God,

> > thereafter there is no looking back.

> > --------------------------------

----------------------------

> >

> > FROM: mohan_manikkam Om Sai Krishna! The only way you can

> > change others is to pray for them sincerely! Mohan

> > --------------------------------

----------------------------

> >

> > avadhuta raya

> > Ram Ram It was written in an earlier response - Do not

understand anyone

> > as evil (bad) which includes thinking of them as selfish --

According to the

> > Gita where Krishna himself makes distinction between saintly and

demoniac

> > people in the 16th chapter. Moreover, according to the Srimad

Bhagavatam one

> > should avoid demoniac, tamasic people; Preach to the Innocent

and associate

> > with devotees of Krishna. One may ask and what about equal

vision of all

> > living entities? Equal vision means to see them all as spirit

Souls and

> > Paramatma as Super Soul. In the Bhagavad-gita 5.18 it is

said: " The humble

> > sages, by virtue of true knowledge, see with equal vision a

learned and

> > gentle brahmana, a cow, an elephant, a dog and a dog-eater

[outcaste].

> > Successfully helping conditioned souls to proactively turn their

worldly

> > mentality towards Krishna's service is the best service, mercy,

selflessness

> > and worship of Krishna. This is confirmed by Krishna in the

Bhagavad-gita

> > 18.68-69: " One who preaches the message of Bhagavad-gita to My

devotees is

> > most dear to Me. No one can excel him in satisfying Me by

worship. " Hare

> > Krishna ard

> > --------------------------------

----------------------------

> > On 11/10/06, ananth lakshmanan <ananth_venky wrote:

> > >

> > > Krishnaya Namaha,

> > >

> > > Wow, I have same question to ask, any one can answer

> > > our question? Thanks!

> > >

> > > Regards,

> > > Ananth

> > >

> > > Response from Swamiji's Messages -

> > > Shree Hari

> > >

> > > Swamiji emphasized the following points -

> > > 1. Firstly, do not understand anyone as evil (bad) which

includes

> > > thinking of them as selfish, 2) do not wish evil (bad) of

anyone, including

> > > these individuals who are behaving selfishly and 3) do not do

evil (bad) to

> > > anyone. By this simple act their behavior towards your loved

ones will

> > > change over time.

> > >

> > > Swamiji also said that we are hurt when things do not happen

according

> > > to our desires, to our wishes, our way. Even wanting someone

else to behave

> > > differently to us (not wanting them to be selfish), is the

same as wanting

> > > something from them and this too will make us dependent on

them for our

> > > happiness. In this case we wish that they behave differently

(not selfishly)

> > > with our loved ones. Let us not be hurt and give them this

power over us.

> > >

> > > Pujya Swamiji placed great emphasis on our own bhava (attitude,

> > > intentions, expression), since we cannot control or influence

someone else's

> > > selfishness or behavior. One thing we could possibly do is by

having the

> > > bhava - " Let no one receive any sorrow. Let all be happy. " The

feeling of

> > > well being and betterment of all.

> > >

> > > Just few thoughts that Swamiji has expressed in discourses.

> > > A Sadhak

> > > Ram Ram

> > >

> > >

> > > --- " Nambudiri, Suraj (S.K.) " < snambudi <snambudi%

40ford.com>>

> > > wrote:

> > >

> > > >

> > > > How should you deal with or act with someone who

> > > > acts out of selfishness and hurts ones you love, but not

directly

> > > yourself?

> > > >

> > > > How can you heal someone else's selfishness when all

> > > > they care about is their welfare but not yours?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > > ________

> > >

> > > Everyone is raving about the all-new Mail beta.

> > > http://new.mail.

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> > --

> > Paritala Gopi Krishna

> >

> >

> >

>