Guest guest Posted October 21, 2008 Report Share Posted October 21, 2008 question - i am a complete positive thinker in every situation of life. I always think that these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life. But in recent days the more i think positive about the happenings of situations, the more it turns negative. I am completely blank. Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. Plz guide me. R M (Anonymous) -- GUIDELINES FOR POSTING A RESPONSE: 1. PLEASE BE CONCISE AND TO THE POINT, ADDRESSING ON THE SUBJECT AT HAND, thus respecting sadhaka's time. Please limit response to half a book page (3-4 paragraphs). 2. The group is focused on the Holy Gitaji, therefore, responses which further clarify the understanding of Gitaji, will be the area of focus. 3. Making reference of Gitaji shloka is highly encouraged. Wherever possible, please quote Gitaji or other scriptures. 4. Kindly limit personal feelings, opinions, beliefs etc. to the extent that they further help in understanding the Gita shlokas 5. Please do not include links to the other sites or other organizations (we do not have the bandwidth to review links to determine if content is appropriate for distribution). 6. Complete reproduction of texts from any book is strongly discouraged, however partial cut - paste is acceptable and references may be made of the book or author(but not links to sites). 7. Kindly do not include personal information - phone #, address etc. 8. Please use appropriate judgement and only address the response to a particular individual, where it makes sense to do so. 9. Due to the large readership, only those responses will be posted which are in line with the general philosophy of taking Shrimad Bhagavad Gita as the reference. 10. Moderator will reject any content that does not meet guidelines. However, for expediency, moderator at his discretion, may modify / delete portions of the posting deemed irrelevant to the core discussion (e.g. personal information, opinions / feelings etc.) 11. Please respond taking into consideration the novices, youth, westerners, non-sectarian audience. Kindly limit the use of only Sanskrit words, rather provide the English word with Sanskrit bracketed wherever possible. 12. Any personal remarks over the knowledge of any sadhak or about the stage at which any sadhak is standing in his quest / sadhna / spiritual journey - must not be included in your posting. Also, there should not be any sarcasm towards fellow sadhaks in this spiritual learning and sharing. GITA TALK MODERATOR Ram Ram ---------------------------- Post message: Subscribe: - Un: - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2008 Report Share Posted October 22, 2008 question - i am a complete positive thinker in every situation of life. I always think that these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life. But in recent days the more i think positive about the happenings of situations, the more it turns negative. I am completely blank. Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. Plz guide me. R M (Anonymous) -- Hari Om That is what is " felt " quite often. But tell me, once you stated that you try not to see results while doing karmas, then how the very distinction of negative or positive arose? I understand your agony ! One turns towards God mostly when he finds himself clueless ! I too did feel the same way and I have reasons to believe that I or you are not alone or rare ! In fact, I have so strong reasons to believe that I can easily say, that entire humanity with no exception, encounters once at least what you are encountering now ! Good enough reason for you to be happy? The fault is in " assessing " the " results " and in believing that " I am the doer " and thus relating the " doership " with the " results " !. Leave that forever ! ! The moment you do that, you shall have peace and bliss flowing into you - INSTANTLY. Believe this statement. Try it . Please !! Nothing more need to be done ! Please believe in the justice or injustice, appropriateness or otherwise, goodness or evilness, kindness or cruelty, presence or absence, of ONLY ONLY God and God ONLY ! Do it ! Tell Him - as YOUR father/son/friend/husband /wife/mother/mistress/ master/brother/sister/servant/driver/enemy/competitor/lover/beloved/ Guru/ Disciple/student , etc, etc (Choose freely and unhesitantly ANY relationship with Him-best is of friend)- Tell Him - " Come On, I have not erred in my approach, my duties , as I understood, but still I am not happy-you have to be ashamed of that, not me " ! Establish mineness / any relationship with Him. CONNECT WITH HIM IN WHATEVER WAY AND HOWSOEVER ! Say thereafter what ever you like to say to Him but only to Him and to no body else ! He would listen to you !! He won't be able to disown you !! It is beyond His control or powers to disown you ! Fire Him, shout at Him, nag Him, criticise Him, praise Him, love Him, hate Him, fight with Him, surrender to Him, give to Him, expect from Him, take from Him, but Him only and no body else ! Blame only Him! Cry only before Him !. Hate Him only ! Love Him only ! Request to Him only ! Demand only from Him! Renounce only to Him! Accept only from Him! Complain only to Him! Rejoice only before Him! Act only for Him! Do only for Him! Do not only for Him! Eat only for Him! Live only for Him ! Work only for Him ! Conduct on His behalf only ! Care for His children only! Live in His home only ! Eat His prasad only ! Serve His creation only ! Serve by things and body given by Him only ! Bathe His body only ! Earn for His cause only ! Spend for His creation only ! Save for Him only ! Write for Him only! Read for Him only! Play roles on His behalf only ! Fight for Him only! Speak for Him only! Be silent for Him only! Live for Him only ! Die for Him only! Believe Him only and no one else ! Trust Him only and no one else ! Only He is yours and no one else ! What is difficulty in doing that ? It is one of the easiest tasks to do ! Come back should you feel it is difficult! Do it ! Decide to do it! Every thing gets over in a fraction of second, the moment you decide to do that ! Mere decision ! Your question thus gets answered for ever ! Without any doubt ! Forever means forever ! Once you do that where is the duality of negative/positive, happiness/sorrow, good/bad etc etc ?? Where is pain? Where is dilemma? Where is any question ? So easy ! So simple! So quick! So practical ! So lovely ! So soothing ! So astonishing! So kind ! So beautiful ! So sudden ! So independent ! So hassle free ! Jai Shree Krishna Vyas N B -- Jai Hanuman Namaste Anonymous Bhaiyya/Bahenji Worry not Jee! In the life of good people the kind of circumstances you mentioned arrive at more frequently ! Why ? Because Krishna has taken over the charge !! But you can be certain that no situation/state is permanent. That day is not far when even if you do something negative, inadvertently, the result will be positive. ( Feeling wise). RAAT BHAR KA HAI MEHMAA ANDHERA KISKE ROKE RUKA HAI SAVERAA ! The darkness is the guest only for a night. Who could ever succeed in stopping Sun from rising ? RAAT JITNI BHI SANGEEN HOGI, SUBAHA UTNI HI RANGEEN HOGI ! GAM NA KAR GAR HAI BAADAL GHANERA !! The more brutal and frightening is night, the more lovely and beautiful shall be the day! Don't worry if the clouds are dense and dark. AA KOI MIL KE TADBEER SOCHE, SUKH KE SAPANO KI TABEER SOCHE ! JO TERA HAI WAHI GHAM HAI MERA !! Come O Dear ! Let us (Sadhaks) get united and find a way out (of this misery of worldly life) and way of achieving Peace and Bliss. What is your pain is mine too!! YOONHI DUNIYA MAI AAKAR NA JAANA , SIRF AANSOO BAHAKAR NA JAANA ! MUKURAHAT PE BHI HAQ HAI TERA !! ( O Sahaj Sukhraasi ) No ! You are not supposed to come into this world and shed tears and depart ! You are entitled for smiles and happiness !! Keep reading. You have reached at right forum. Jee Jee Shashikala -------------------------------- Friend Please look into your assumptions:- 1. that " these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life " 2.I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. A)As per verse 14 of 5th Chapter ,God or Bhagwan Krishna does not do ,or motivate us to do or create coincidences for anything.Every event occurs in one's life according to his nature (swabhaw). In other place In Gita ,Bhagwan has said that Human beings act or are forced to act according to their Sattwik,Rajsik or Tamasik nature. Situations are created by us only according to our past actions or karmas.God will never create any unpleasent situation for anyone but he has made some laws/rules/priciples which are consistently applied to everyone without exception. That requires us to look into our Karmas or actions. B)Gita says " do your karma without expectation of result.The focus is on doing Karma and not thinking/expecting/aiming for fruit.Only Sattwik nature people are able to do this type of action. In business/profession/service we certainly will expect income/profit or salary.But in helping unknown persons we may not expect or get any fruit.So please look into " what fruitless actions are being taken by you. C)Somewhere deep inside, expectation of positive happenings or situations is there whereas the actual happenings or situations are negative. To change the tide , through understanding of past actions/plan/strategy and change in the same is required. But your two assumptions will not allow you to do the same. Make it a daily practice to study Gita (at least two pages in the morning and two pages in the evening) and do some meditation ( as per verse 27 & 28 of 5th chapter) for 10 minutes in morning and 10 minutes in evening. While it is easy to provide advise I feel your problem and send you my best wishes. regards Ashok Jain ------------------------------- Dear Sadhakas, Namste! Dear Anonymouseji you say you are positive thinker in all situations of life, that means even if they are negative, right? You also say that you know God is making you stronger to face the life by these seemingly negative situations. You seem to also know the great Gita's teaching " do your karmas without aiming for fruits " . If this is your true conviction, then there should not be any problem arising from apparantly negative situations. Since it is not the case, there may/must be some lingering doubts. See that the situations are neither positive or negatives, they just are what they are! Our perceptions, however, of them are " good for me or not good for me " . It is because we think always from " me/mine " point of view, which we are not. It is very important to see this clearly. God doesn't create anything personal. Doing karmas selflessly means we do aim/plan for results, and appropriate actions, then doing it without being personal doer, and with the best of ability(Yogeshu karma kaushalam). When result is obtained, accept, rather, welcome whatever it is. This is because God knows what is best for all involved including doer, in situation, nothing personal! Namaskaras........ Pratap Bhatt ------------------------------- Nothing in this world can make you happy. It is because of this that our Gurus renounced the world from childhood and became bal- brahmacharis. Look at it this way. Everything in this world is an illusion. So don't let anything pull you down. Do your karmas and keep your positive attitude no matter what. Meditate and soon things will change for the better. What we undergo are a result of past karmas. By good karmas, we can escape the painful cycle of birth and death. Hari Shanker Deo -------------------------------- Dear sadak, When you thinking was positive and succeeded, your stars were favourable in giving results over your past Karma. When you got you quota of goodness done, next your quota of bad karmas come in. How it acts?. You could have shifted to new house or shifting in your house. You could have abused a sanyasin or a good man. Your Karma will give thoughts that you think right but it will be wrong. Only way out is Visit Puniya Chetras, do namasankeerthan, certain slokas like " Vasu devam Sutam devam---- " removes Koti jalma Papas. Besides it is important that your mind set is made that equally calm about the past and present has no differances and these are Maya. When things went right you were happy, so when things go wrong your are unhappy. Mind should not rejoice over happiness and the mind should not get distrubed over sorrow. But mind can be calm in self luminious. This is your words-- " Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. " You did your Karmas in the past and enjoyed the fruits without your knowledge. If you would not have enjoyed those fruits, you will be not knowing the differances of the past and present. B.Sathyanarayan ------------------------------ -- GUIDELINES FOR POSTING A RESPONSE: 1. PLEASE BE CONCISE AND TO THE POINT, ADDRESSING ON THE SUBJECT AT HAND, thus respecting sadhaka's time. Please limit response to half a book page (3-4 paragraphs). 2. The group is focused on the Holy Gitaji, therefore, responses which further clarify the understanding of Gitaji, will be the area of focus. 3. Making reference of Gitaji shloka is highly encouraged. Wherever possible, please quote Gitaji or other scriptures. 4. Kindly limit personal feelings, opinions, beliefs etc. to the extent that they further help in understanding the Gita shlokas 5. Please do not include links to the other sites or other organizations (we do not have the bandwidth to review links to determine if content is appropriate for distribution). 6. Complete reproduction of texts from any book is strongly discouraged, however partial cut - paste is acceptable and references may be made of the book or author(but not links to sites). 7. Kindly do not include personal information - phone #, address etc. 8. Please use appropriate judgement and only address the response to a particular individual, where it makes sense to do so. 9. Due to the large readership, only those responses will be posted which are in line with the general philosophy of taking Shrimad Bhagavad Gita as the reference. 10. Moderator will reject any content that does not meet guidelines. However, for expediency, moderator at his discretion, may modify / delete portions of the posting deemed irrelevant to the core discussion (e.g. personal information, opinions / feelings etc.) 11. Please respond taking into consideration the novices, youth, westerners, non-sectarian audience. Kindly limit the use of only Sanskrit words, rather provide the English word with Sanskrit bracketed wherever possible. 12. Any personal remarks over the knowledge of any sadhak or about the stage at which any sadhak is standing in his quest / sadhna / spiritual journey - must not be included in your posting. Also, there should not be any sarcasm towards fellow sadhaks in this spiritual learning and sharing. GITA TALK MODERATOR Ram Ram ---------------------------- Post message: Subscribe: - Un: - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2008 Report Share Posted October 24, 2008 Re: How to Cope when Continuously Positivity Turns to Negative question - i am a complete positive thinker in every situation of life. I always think that these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life. But in recent days the more i think positive about the happenings of situations, the more it turns negative. I am completely blank. Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. Plz guide me. R M (Anonymous) -- Hare Krishna If the situations are turning out negative, don't worry !!! Lord Krishna's words will pacify you " O son of Kunti, bodily sense-objects, which give rise to the feelings of heat and cold, pleasure and pain etc. are transitory and fleeting, therefore, Arjuna bear these patiently viz., remain unaffected by them or ignore them. " (Gita 2.14) You are absolutely correct in stating that God wants to make you stronger. He wants you to endure these so that you can rise above them and experience immortality. He continues " O the best of men, a person to whom pain and pleasure are alike, and who is not tormented by these sense-objects, becomes eligible, for immortality. " (Gita 2.15) There are 2 benefits of unfavourable circumstances, 1. Sins committed to get pleasure are getting destroyed and this thought is a kind of repentance for the sins committed. 2. It is a fore-warning to us that we shall have to face adverse consequences if we commit sins again. So, consider yourself very lucky that God has given you unfavourable circunstances. Kunti knew this secret . She prayed to Lord Krishna that " O Lord, please give me unfavourable circumstances. In these situations, I never forget you. " Hanumanji also said " Kaha Hanumant Bipati Prabhu Soi. Jab Tab Sumiran Bhajan Nahi Hoi " " O Lord, that situation is unfavourable when one does not worship and remember you. " Guru Nanakji said " Dukh mein Simran Sab Koi Kare, Sukh Mein Kare Na Koi Jo Sukh Mein Simran Kare To Dukh Kahe Ko Hoye " " Everyone remembers Lord in unfavourable situation. No one remembers him in pleasant situations. Those who remember Him in favourable circumstances, why would they feel sorrowful " If many children are playing and one mother has got some sweets then she will give it to every child. But if all the children are creating havoc then she will not scold each and everyone, but only her own child. Why ? Because that child is her very own. Similarly, God sends unfavourable circumstance to those whom He considers as his very own. A mother does not like to see a mucked up child, she cleanses her but the child cries that why are you giving me so much pain!!! " Arre. why are you crying, your mother is cleaning you. " .... But can he understand the heart of that mother? Similarly, God does not like our impurities. To clean it He sends such circumstances. But we start crying !!! This mother is only of one life but God is mother of our billions of life. Mother cleans the child so that she can take him in her lap. After taking in her lap she will look at her, caress her. Similarly God also wants to take us in His lap. He wants to play with us. He wants to hear from us 'I am yours'. God is craving for us. That is why He says " Hear, again, to My supremely profound words, the esoteric of all truths; as you are extremely dear to Me. Therefore, I shall give you this salutary advice for your own good. Fix your mind to Me, be devoted to Me, worship Me and prostrate yourself before Me. By doing this, you will come to Me alone. I promise you, for you are exceptionally dear to Me. Abandoning dependence on all duties (dharma), take refuge in Me, alone. I shall liberate you from all your sins; therefore grieve not. " (Gita 18.64 - 66) But we never look at Him. We are busy playing with these toys - mind, body and senses. (Gita 15.7) Even after playing with these these toys, we don't feel complete. Why? Because we are imperishable and the perishable can never satiate the imperishable. And the biggest blunder is even after knowing this we still don't turn our face towards God. You said " .......i think positive about the happenings of situations...... " . Why are you thinking about any situation? God has already taken this onus on His head. You just need to bother about whatever you are doing is in accordance with scriptures or not. (Gita 16.24) Occurrence of any situation is a fruit of your karmas. So expecting a situation to turn out in a particular manner, is a desire. If you would have done your karma without any desire of a fruit, then you wouldn't have been so dejected. Thanks, Hare Krishna Varun P. Paprunia -- well...firs of all thanks for bringing this topic. It is so obvious a case in today's scenario if you just open up the newspaper. Or so was it with me. But then i found a solution to that - i read letters from readers which tell me there is a good conscience still around. Most of the bad things go away if you remove money from your mind and focus on inner good, that is what i experience. I never posed this as a framed question, but now i do, now that you have asked specifically. Then i wondered what answer would i give. And here it came: - go back in past. Say preindependence era. It must be really depressing. Then i think about great Rev Tilak. how that good dealt with so much bad around. And per Khalil Gibran, I look at Mr Tialk as a plain person, not with awe or anything. then i get most of my answers! atul kumthekar -- PRIOR POSTING Hari Om That is what is " felt " quite often. But tell me, once you stated that you try not to see results while doing karmas, then how the very distinction of negative or positive arose? I understand your agony ! One turns towards God mostly when he finds himself clueless ! I too did feel the same way and I have reasons to believe that I or you are not alone or rare ! In fact, I have so strong reasons to believe that I can easily say, that entire humanity with no exception, encounters once at least what you are encountering now ! Good enough reason for you to be happy? The fault is in " assessing " the " results " and in believing that " I am the doer " and thus relating the " doership " with the " results " !. Leave that forever ! ! The moment you do that, you shall have peace and bliss flowing into you - INSTANTLY. Believe this statement. Try it . Please !! Nothing more need to be done ! Please believe in the justice or injustice, appropriateness or otherwise, goodness or evilness, kindness or cruelty, presence or absence, of ONLY ONLY God and God ONLY ! Do it ! Tell Him - as YOUR father/son/friend/husband /wife/mother/mistress/ master/brother/sister/servant/driver/enemy/competitor/lover/beloved/ Guru/ Disciple/student , etc, etc (Choose freely and unhesitantly ANY relationship with Him-best is of friend)- Tell Him - " Come On, I have not erred in my approach, my duties , as I understood, but still I am not happy-you have to be ashamed of that, not me " ! Establish mineness / any relationship with Him. CONNECT WITH HIM IN WHATEVER WAY AND HOWSOEVER ! Say thereafter what ever you like to say to Him but only to Him and to no body else ! He would listen to you !! He won't be able to disown you !! It is beyond His control or powers to disown you ! Fire Him, shout at Him, nag Him, criticise Him, praise Him, love Him, hate Him, fight with Him, surrender to Him, give to Him, expect from Him, take from Him, but Him only and no body else ! Blame only Him! Cry only before Him !. Hate Him only ! Love Him only ! Request to Him only ! Demand only from Him! Renounce only to Him! Accept only from Him! Complain only to Him! Rejoice only before Him! Act only for Him! Do only for Him! Do not only for Him! Eat only for Him! Live only for Him ! Work only for Him ! Conduct on His behalf only ! Care for His children only! Live in His home only ! Eat His prasad only ! Serve His creation only ! Serve by things and body given by Him only ! Bathe His body only ! Earn for His cause only ! Spend for His creation only ! Save for Him only ! Write for Him only! Read for Him only! Play roles on His behalf only ! Fight for Him only! Speak for Him only! Be silent for Him only! Live for Him only ! Die for Him only! Believe Him only and no one else ! Trust Him only and no one else ! Only He is yours and no one else ! What is difficulty in doing that ? It is one of the easiest tasks to do ! Come back should you feel it is difficult! Do it ! Decide to do it! Every thing gets over in a fraction of second, the moment you decide to do that ! Mere decision ! Your question thus gets answered for ever ! Without any doubt ! Forever means forever ! Once you do that where is the duality of negative/positive, happiness/sorrow, good/bad etc etc ?? Where is pain? Where is dilemma? Where is any question ? So easy ! So simple! So quick! So practical ! So lovely ! So soothing ! So astonishing! So kind ! So beautiful ! So sudden ! So independent ! So hassle free ! Jai Shree Krishna Vyas N B -- Jai Hanuman Namaste Anonymous Bhaiyya/Bahenji Worry not Jee! In the life of good people the kind of circumstances you mentioned arrive at more frequently ! Why ? Because Krishna has taken over the charge !! But you can be certain that no situation/state is permanent. That day is not far when even if you do something negative, inadvertently, the result will be positive. ( Feeling wise). RAAT BHAR KA HAI MEHMAA ANDHERA KISKE ROKE RUKA HAI SAVERAA ! The darkness is the guest only for a night. Who could ever succeed in stopping Sun from rising ? RAAT JITNI BHI SANGEEN HOGI, SUBAHA UTNI HI RANGEEN HOGI ! GAM NA KAR GAR HAI BAADAL GHANERA !! The more brutal and frightening is night, the more lovely and beautiful shall be the day! Don't worry if the clouds are dense and dark. AA KOI MIL KE TADBEER SOCHE, SUKH KE SAPANO KI TABEER SOCHE ! JO TERA HAI WAHI GHAM HAI MERA !! Come O Dear ! Let us (Sadhaks) get united and find a way out (of this misery of worldly life) and way of achieving Peace and Bliss. What is your pain is mine too!! YOONHI DUNIYA MAI AAKAR NA JAANA , SIRF AANSOO BAHAKAR NA JAANA ! MUKURAHAT PE BHI HAQ HAI TERA !! ( O Sahaj Sukhraasi ) No ! You are not supposed to come into this world and shed tears and depart ! You are entitled for smiles and happiness !! Keep reading. You have reached at right forum. Jee Jee Shashikala -------------------------------- Friend Please look into your assumptions:- 1. that " these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life " 2.I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. A)As per verse 14 of 5th Chapter ,God or Bhagwan Krishna does not do ,or motivate us to do or create coincidences for anything.Every event occurs in one's life according to his nature (swabhaw). In other place In Gita ,Bhagwan has said that Human beings act or are forced to act according to their Sattwik,Rajsik or Tamasik nature. Situations are created by us only according to our past actions or karmas.God will never create any unpleasent situation for anyone but he has made some laws/rules/priciples which are consistently applied to everyone without exception. That requires us to look into our Karmas or actions. B)Gita says " do your karma without expectation of result.The focus is on doing Karma and not thinking/expecting/aiming for fruit.Only Sattwik nature people are able to do this type of action. In business/profession/service we certainly will expect income/profit or salary.But in helping unknown persons we may not expect or get any fruit.So please look into " what fruitless actions are being taken by you. C)Somewhere deep inside, expectation of positive happenings or situations is there whereas the actual happenings or situations are negative. To change the tide , through understanding of past actions/plan/strategy and change in the same is required. But your two assumptions will not allow you to do the same. Make it a daily practice to study Gita (at least two pages in the morning and two pages in the evening) and do some meditation ( as per verse 27 & 28 of 5th chapter) for 10 minutes in morning and 10 minutes in evening. While it is easy to provide advise I feel your problem and send you my best wishes. regards Ashok Jain ------------------------------- Dear Sadhakas, Namste! Dear Anonymouseji you say you are positive thinker in all situations of life, that means even if they are negative, right? You also say that you know God is making you stronger to face the life by these seemingly negative situations. You seem to also know the great Gita's teaching " do your karmas without aiming for fruits " . If this is your true conviction, then there should not be any problem arising from apparantly negative situations. Since it is not the case, there may/must be some lingering doubts. See that the situations are neither positive or negatives, they just are what they are! Our perceptions, however, of them are " good for me or not good for me " . It is because we think always from " me/mine " point of view, which we are not. It is very important to see this clearly. God doesn't create anything personal. Doing karmas selflessly means we do aim/plan for results, and appropriate actions, then doing it without being personal doer, and with the best of ability(Yogeshu karma kaushalam). When result is obtained, accept, rather, welcome whatever it is. This is because God knows what is best for all involved including doer, in situation, nothing personal! Namaskaras........ Pratap Bhatt ------------------------------- Nothing in this world can make you happy. It is because of this that our Gurus renounced the world from childhood and became bal- brahmacharis. Look at it this way. Everything in this world is an illusion. So don't let anything pull you down. Do your karmas and keep your positive attitude no matter what. Meditate and soon things will change for the better. What we undergo are a result of past karmas. By good karmas, we can escape the painful cycle of birth and death. Hari Shanker Deo -------------------------------- Dear sadak, When you thinking was positive and succeeded, your stars were favourable in giving results over your past Karma. When you got you quota of goodness done, next your quota of bad karmas come in. How it acts?. You could have shifted to new house or shifting in your house. You could have abused a sanyasin or a good man. Your Karma will give thoughts that you think right but it will be wrong. Only way out is Visit Puniya Chetras, do namasankeerthan, certain slokas like " Vasu devam Sutam devam---- " removes Koti jalma Papas. Besides it is important that your mind set is made that equally calm about the past and present has no differances and these are Maya. When things went right you were happy, so when things go wrong your are unhappy. Mind should not rejoice over happiness and the mind should not get distrubed over sorrow. But mind can be calm in self luminious. This is your words-- " Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. " You did your Karmas in the past and enjoyed the fruits without your knowledge. If you would not have enjoyed those fruits, you will be not knowing the differances of the past and present. B.Sathyanarayan ------------------------------ -- GUIDELINES FOR POSTING A RESPONSE: 1. PLEASE BE CONCISE AND TO THE POINT, ADDRESSING ON THE SUBJECT AT HAND, thus respecting sadhaka's time. Please limit response to half a book page (3-4 paragraphs). 2. The group is focused on the Holy Gitaji, therefore, responses which further clarify the understanding of Gitaji, will be the area of focus. 3. Making reference of Gitaji shloka is highly encouraged. Wherever possible, please quote Gitaji or other scriptures. 4. Kindly limit personal feelings, opinions, beliefs etc. to the extent that they further help in understanding the Gita shlokas 5. Please do not include links to the other sites or other organizations (we do not have the bandwidth to review links to determine if content is appropriate for distribution). 6. Complete reproduction of texts from any book is strongly discouraged, however partial cut - paste is acceptable and references may be made of the book or author(but not links to sites). 7. Kindly do not include personal information - phone #, address etc. 8. Please use appropriate judgement and only address the response to a particular individual, where it makes sense to do so. 9. Due to the large readership, only those responses will be posted which are in line with the general philosophy of taking Shrimad Bhagavad Gita as the reference. 10. Moderator will reject any content that does not meet guidelines. However, for expediency, moderator at his discretion, may modify / delete portions of the posting deemed irrelevant to the core discussion (e.g. personal information, opinions / feelings etc.) 11. Please respond taking into consideration the novices, youth, westerners, non-sectarian audience. Kindly limit the use of only Sanskrit words, rather provide the English word with Sanskrit bracketed wherever possible. 12. Any personal remarks over the knowledge of any sadhak or about the stage at which any sadhak is standing in his quest / sadhna / spiritual journey - must not be included in your posting. Also, there should not be any sarcasm towards fellow sadhaks in this spiritual learning and sharing. GITA TALK MODERATOR Ram Ram ---------------------------- Post message: Subscribe: - Un: - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 29, 2008 Report Share Posted October 29, 2008 Re: How to Cope when Continuously Positivity Turns to Negative question - i am a complete positive thinker in every situation of life. I always think that these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life. But in recent days the more i think positive about the happenings of situations, the more it turns negative. I am completely blank. Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. Plz guide me. R M (Anonymous) -- NEW POSTING -Shre Hari- Dear, Anon. (May you find divine comfort) I wonder if you can understand that agony can be turned into joy. And the greatest agony is the agony of the soul, (spiritual agony). I have been touched by both. During that very 'Dark Time', when all my senses were reeling, a truly beautiful soul said to me, " Mike, God will only give you what you can take " . How right she was. As Vyasji pointed out, we are just part of a legion of those who know agony. It is so hard to understand, but I do pray that you will. Then pain will not be wasted, then you will be at one with all of mankind.(No separation). Je Je Shashikalaji, comments brought to mind my favorite lines from 'Dark Night of The Soul' 5. O guiding night! O night more lovely than the dawn! When I think of those agonies, I have tears in my eyes, tears of love for 'The Beloved'. With Respect and Divine Love, Mike Keenor - Dear Sadhak/Sadhika, According to me yr situations are pointing you towards one direction only-Could you see that ? They are telling you that " Donot THINK anything-neither positive, nor negative. " Get rid of yr thinking MIND and accept every moment AS IT IS. " Sarva Dharmanparitjya, Mamekam sharanam Vrija " Gita Ch18. Pray to Krishna and tell Him " Ab main nachyo bahut Gopala... " ( I had enough now, please take me into yr refuse) Leave all yr thoughts, and surrender to Him completely & unconditionally. With lots of love, A sadhika Sadhna Karigar -- PRIOR POSTING Hare Krishna If the situations are turning out negative, don't worry !!! Lord Krishna's words will pacify you " O son of Kunti, bodily sense-objects, which give rise to the feelings of heat and cold, pleasure and pain etc. are transitory and fleeting, therefore, Arjuna bear these patiently viz., remain unaffected by them or ignore them. " (Gita 2.14) You are absolutely correct in stating that God wants to make you stronger. He wants you to endure these so that you can rise above them and experience immortality. He continues " O the best of men, a person to whom pain and pleasure are alike, and who is not tormented by these sense-objects, becomes eligible, for immortality. " (Gita 2.15) There are 2 benefits of unfavourable circumstances, 1. Sins committed to get pleasure are getting destroyed and this thought is a kind of repentance for the sins committed. 2. It is a fore-warning to us that we shall have to face adverse consequences if we commit sins again. So, consider yourself very lucky that God has given you unfavourable circunstances. Kunti knew this secret . She prayed to Lord Krishna that " O Lord, please give me unfavourable circumstances. In these situations, I never forget you. " Hanumanji also said " Kaha Hanumant Bipati Prabhu Soi. Jab Tab Sumiran Bhajan Nahi Hoi " " O Lord, that situation is unfavourable when one does not worship and remember you. " Guru Nanakji said " Dukh mein Simran Sab Koi Kare, Sukh Mein Kare Na Koi Jo Sukh Mein Simran Kare To Dukh Kahe Ko Hoye " " Everyone remembers Lord in unfavourable situation. No one remembers him in pleasant situations. Those who remember Him in favourable circumstances, why would they feel sorrowful " If many children are playing and one mother has got some sweets then she will give it to every child. But if all the children are creating havoc then she will not scold each and everyone, but only her own child. Why ? Because that child is her very own. Similarly, God sends unfavourable circumstance to those whom He considers as his very own. A mother does not like to see a mucked up child, she cleanses her but the child cries that why are you giving me so much pain!!! " Arre. why are you crying, your mother is cleaning you. " .... But can he understand the heart of that mother? Similarly, God does not like our impurities. To clean it He sends such circumstances. But we start crying !!! This mother is only of one life but God is mother of our billions of life. Mother cleans the child so that she can take him in her lap. After taking in her lap she will look at her, caress her. Similarly God also wants to take us in His lap. He wants to play with us. He wants to hear from us 'I am yours'. God is craving for us. That is why He says " Hear, again, to My supremely profound words, the esoteric of all truths; as you are extremely dear to Me. Therefore, I shall give you this salutary advice for your own good. Fix your mind to Me, be devoted to Me, worship Me and prostrate yourself before Me. By doing this, you will come to Me alone. I promise you, for you are exceptionally dear to Me. Abandoning dependence on all duties (dharma), take refuge in Me, alone. I shall liberate you from all your sins; therefore grieve not. " (Gita 18.64 - 66) But we never look at Him. We are busy playing with these toys - mind, body and senses. (Gita 15.7) Even after playing with these these toys, we don't feel complete. Why? Because we are imperishable and the perishable can never satiate the imperishable. And the biggest blunder is even after knowing this we still don't turn our face towards God. You said " .......i think positive about the happenings of situations...... " . Why are you thinking about any situation? God has already taken this onus on His head. You just need to bother about whatever you are doing is in accordance with scriptures or not. (Gita 16.24) Occurrence of any situation is a fruit of your karmas. So expecting a situation to turn out in a particular manner, is a desire. If you would have done your karma without any desire of a fruit, then you wouldn't have been so dejected. Thanks, Hare Krishna Varun P. Paprunia -- well...firs of all thanks for bringing this topic. It is so obvious a case in today's scenario if you just open up the newspaper. Or so was it with me. But then i found a solution to that - i read letters from readers which tell me there is a good conscience still around. Most of the bad things go away if you remove money from your mind and focus on inner good, that is what i experience. I never posed this as a framed question, but now i do, now that you have asked specifically. Then i wondered what answer would i give. And here it came: - go back in past. Say preindependence era. It must be really depressing. Then i think about great Rev Tilak. how that good dealt with so much bad around. And per Khalil Gibran, I look at Mr Tialk as a plain person, not with awe or anything. then i get most of my answers! atul kumthekar -- PRIOR POSTING Hari Om That is what is " felt " quite often. But tell me, once you stated that you try not to see results while doing karmas, then how the very distinction of negative or positive arose? I understand your agony ! One turns towards God mostly when he finds himself clueless ! I too did feel the same way and I have reasons to believe that I or you are not alone or rare ! In fact, I have so strong reasons to believe that I can easily say, that entire humanity with no exception, encounters once at least what you are encountering now ! Good enough reason for you to be happy? The fault is in " assessing " the " results " and in believing that " I am the doer " and thus relating the " doership " with the " results " !. Leave that forever ! ! The moment you do that, you shall have peace and bliss flowing into you - INSTANTLY. Believe this statement. Try it . Please !! Nothing more need to be done ! Please believe in the justice or injustice, appropriateness or otherwise, goodness or evilness, kindness or cruelty, presence or absence, of ONLY ONLY God and God ONLY ! Do it ! Tell Him - as YOUR father/son/friend/husband /wife/mother/mistress/ master/brother/sister/servant/driver/enemy/competitor/lover/beloved/ Guru/ Disciple/student , etc, etc (Choose freely and unhesitantly ANY relationship with Him-best is of friend)- Tell Him - " Come On, I have not erred in my approach, my duties , as I understood, but still I am not happy-you have to be ashamed of that, not me " ! Establish mineness / any relationship with Him. CONNECT WITH HIM IN WHATEVER WAY AND HOWSOEVER ! Say thereafter what ever you like to say to Him but only to Him and to no body else ! He would listen to you !! He won't be able to disown you !! It is beyond His control or powers to disown you ! Fire Him, shout at Him, nag Him, criticise Him, praise Him, love Him, hate Him, fight with Him, surrender to Him, give to Him, expect from Him, take from Him, but Him only and no body else ! Blame only Him! Cry only before Him !. Hate Him only ! Love Him only ! Request to Him only ! Demand only from Him! Renounce only to Him! Accept only from Him! Complain only to Him! Rejoice only before Him! Act only for Him! Do only for Him! Do not only for Him! Eat only for Him! Live only for Him ! Work only for Him ! Conduct on His behalf only ! Care for His children only! Live in His home only ! Eat His prasad only ! Serve His creation only ! Serve by things and body given by Him only ! Bathe His body only ! Earn for His cause only ! Spend for His creation only ! Save for Him only ! Write for Him only! Read for Him only! Play roles on His behalf only ! Fight for Him only! Speak for Him only! Be silent for Him only! Live for Him only ! Die for Him only! Believe Him only and no one else ! Trust Him only and no one else ! Only He is yours and no one else ! What is difficulty in doing that ? It is one of the easiest tasks to do ! Come back should you feel it is difficult! Do it ! Decide to do it! Every thing gets over in a fraction of second, the moment you decide to do that ! Mere decision ! Your question thus gets answered for ever ! Without any doubt ! Forever means forever ! Once you do that where is the duality of negative/positive, happiness/sorrow, good/bad etc etc ?? Where is pain? Where is dilemma? Where is any question ? So easy ! So simple! So quick! So practical ! So lovely ! So soothing ! So astonishing! So kind ! So beautiful ! So sudden ! So independent ! So hassle free ! Jai Shree Krishna Vyas N B -- Jai Hanuman Namaste Anonymous Bhaiyya/Bahenji Worry not Jee! In the life of good people the kind of circumstances you mentioned arrive at more frequently ! Why ? Because Krishna has taken over the charge !! But you can be certain that no situation/state is permanent. That day is not far when even if you do something negative, inadvertently, the result will be positive. ( Feeling wise). RAAT BHAR KA HAI MEHMAA ANDHERA KISKE ROKE RUKA HAI SAVERAA ! The darkness is the guest only for a night. Who could ever succeed in stopping Sun from rising ? RAAT JITNI BHI SANGEEN HOGI, SUBAHA UTNI HI RANGEEN HOGI ! GAM NA KAR GAR HAI BAADAL GHANERA !! The more brutal and frightening is night, the more lovely and beautiful shall be the day! Don't worry if the clouds are dense and dark. AA KOI MIL KE TADBEER SOCHE, SUKH KE SAPANO KI TABEER SOCHE ! JO TERA HAI WAHI GHAM HAI MERA !! Come O Dear ! Let us (Sadhaks) get united and find a way out (of this misery of worldly life) and way of achieving Peace and Bliss. What is your pain is mine too!! YOONHI DUNIYA MAI AAKAR NA JAANA , SIRF AANSOO BAHAKAR NA JAANA ! MUKURAHAT PE BHI HAQ HAI TERA !! ( O Sahaj Sukhraasi ) No ! You are not supposed to come into this world and shed tears and depart ! You are entitled for smiles and happiness !! Keep reading. You have reached at right forum. Jee Jee Shashikala -------------------------------- Friend Please look into your assumptions:- 1. that " these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life " 2.I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. A)As per verse 14 of 5th Chapter ,God or Bhagwan Krishna does not do ,or motivate us to do or create coincidences for anything.Every event occurs in one's life according to his nature (swabhaw). In other place In Gita ,Bhagwan has said that Human beings act or are forced to act according to their Sattwik,Rajsik or Tamasik nature. Situations are created by us only according to our past actions or karmas.God will never create any unpleasent situation for anyone but he has made some laws/rules/priciples which are consistently applied to everyone without exception. That requires us to look into our Karmas or actions. B)Gita says " do your karma without expectation of result.The focus is on doing Karma and not thinking/expecting/aiming for fruit.Only Sattwik nature people are able to do this type of action. In business/profession/service we certainly will expect income/profit or salary.But in helping unknown persons we may not expect or get any fruit.So please look into " what fruitless actions are being taken by you. C)Somewhere deep inside, expectation of positive happenings or situations is there whereas the actual happenings or situations are negative. To change the tide , through understanding of past actions/plan/strategy and change in the same is required. But your two assumptions will not allow you to do the same. Make it a daily practice to study Gita (at least two pages in the morning and two pages in the evening) and do some meditation ( as per verse 27 & 28 of 5th chapter) for 10 minutes in morning and 10 minutes in evening. While it is easy to provide advise I feel your problem and send you my best wishes. regards Ashok Jain ------------------------------- Dear Sadhakas, Namste! Dear Anonymouseji you say you are positive thinker in all situations of life, that means even if they are negative, right? You also say that you know God is making you stronger to face the life by these seemingly negative situations. You seem to also know the great Gita's teaching " do your karmas without aiming for fruits " . If this is your true conviction, then there should not be any problem arising from apparantly negative situations. Since it is not the case, there may/must be some lingering doubts. See that the situations are neither positive or negatives, they just are what they are! Our perceptions, however, of them are " good for me or not good for me " . It is because we think always from " me/mine " point of view, which we are not. It is very important to see this clearly. God doesn't create anything personal. Doing karmas selflessly means we do aim/plan for results, and appropriate actions, then doing it without being personal doer, and with the best of ability(Yogeshu karma kaushalam). When result is obtained, accept, rather, welcome whatever it is. This is because God knows what is best for all involved including doer, in situation, nothing personal! Namaskaras........ Pratap Bhatt ------------------------------- Nothing in this world can make you happy. It is because of this that our Gurus renounced the world from childhood and became bal- brahmacharis. Look at it this way. Everything in this world is an illusion. So don't let anything pull you down. Do your karmas and keep your positive attitude no matter what. Meditate and soon things will change for the better. What we undergo are a result of past karmas. By good karmas, we can escape the painful cycle of birth and death. Hari Shanker Deo -------------------------------- Dear sadak, When you thinking was positive and succeeded, your stars were favourable in giving results over your past Karma. When you got you quota of goodness done, next your quota of bad karmas come in. How it acts?. You could have shifted to new house or shifting in your house. You could have abused a sanyasin or a good man. Your Karma will give thoughts that you think right but it will be wrong. Only way out is Visit Puniya Chetras, do namasankeerthan, certain slokas like " Vasu devam Sutam devam---- " removes Koti jalma Papas. Besides it is important that your mind set is made that equally calm about the past and present has no differances and these are Maya. When things went right you were happy, so when things go wrong your are unhappy. Mind should not rejoice over happiness and the mind should not get distrubed over sorrow. But mind can be calm in self luminious. This is your words-- " Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. " You did your Karmas in the past and enjoyed the fruits without your knowledge. If you would not have enjoyed those fruits, you will be not knowing the differances of the past and present. B.Sathyanarayan ------------------------------ -- GUIDELINES FOR POSTING A RESPONSE: 1. PLEASE BE CONCISE AND TO THE POINT, ADDRESSING ON THE SUBJECT AT HAND, thus respecting sadhaka's time. Please limit response to half a book page (3-4 paragraphs). 2. The group is focused on the Holy Gitaji, therefore, responses which further clarify the understanding of Gitaji, will be the area of focus. 3. Making reference of Gitaji shloka is highly encouraged. Wherever possible, please quote Gitaji or other scriptures. 4. Kindly limit personal feelings, opinions, beliefs etc. to the extent that they further help in understanding the Gita shlokas 5. 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Guest guest Posted October 29, 2008 Report Share Posted October 29, 2008 Re: How to Cope when Continuously Positivity Turns to Negative question - i am a complete positive thinker in every situation of life. I always think that these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life. But in recent days the more i think positive about the happenings of situations, the more it turns negative. I am completely blank. Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. Plz guide me. R M (Anonymous) -- NEW POSTING NEW POSTING Jai Hanuman Namaste Jee! I totally agree with Sadhanaji. Anonji - simply ignore the thinking mind. You can do that. Either keep that in deep freezer or throw in a dust bin or laugh it out ! Are you aware, Anonji, that the root cause of all sorrows is mind ? This Fellow travels only in non existence- either in past or in future !! Big Cipher !! It changes too - Anonji- it never remains static !! Believe me on that Jee !! Anonji- read what Mike Bhaiyya told. You are not alone. Certainly you are not alone! 'Agony of the soul' - so common , so usual, so automatic - when mind is driver !! TU JAANE MERE SANG BEETI, EK EK BAAR SABHI SANG BEETI You say it has happened only with you ! But the fact is that it ( adversity) happens with everybody - AT LEAST (minimum) once !! No exceptions Jee! Lord washes our eyes with tears till they are clean enough to behold the reality! What is reality - nothing is permanent, except " YOU - your SELF " and " GOD " ! How can negativity be permanent, when the very perceiver of that negativity, the very mind changes every fraction of a second ?? How can positive remain in oblivion when you are , by very your nature, " Sahaj sukh raasi " ( naturally blissful) ? Jee Jee Shashikala -------------------------- How to Cope when Continuously Positivity Turns to Negative? Digestion of desires (positivity) excrete the fears (negativity) and the injestion of fears churn out the desires. Recycling the living beings between the desires and fears is the fundamental program embedded in every living being's survival cycle. As we feel empty within, as we feel thirsty and hungry, the world around reveals the food to fill ourselves, our bowls. As we engross ourselves in filling our bowls, the world within steals it away for its own sustenance digesting the essence of the precious food and excreting the toxic waste forcing one to empty oneself again. The empty one waits like a Chataka bird to fill one's bowl again and again … only to empty it again and again. The emptyness within pushes oneself to look out for positivity around to grace oneself with food to fill-in the emptiness within. But, the negativity hidden in the very positive food is revealed as the bowl, as it is being filled, is being emptied by the ever-hungry world within. Well, that is what we call life that we think we cherish. We cherish the bowl filling fiction … but, we never realize how we perish with the bowl clearing reality. We never realize that the hunger is the only hope for our very perception of the positivity as such. We never realize that the world around can never apear positive unless the bowl is empty within. We never remember the fact that we can never even look at the food – whatsoever delicacy it could be – if we are really full within. On the other hand we also believe that our positivity is embedded in experiencing the delicacy – the more hungry we are the more delicious the food becomes! We hate the pangs of hunger and at the same time we love the satisfaction it brings through the food we cherish. We never acknowledge the fact that the so-called positivity is established only within the so-called negativity within. On the other hand, we never notice the same hunger around hunting us perpetually that turns into the unknown haunts within. We never understand that our attempt of extracting the positivity from around is perceived as the negativity by the world around. We never realize that the very negativity created around thanks to our hunt for positivity is the very culprit that keeps emptying our bowls irrespective of our perpetual effort to keep it full. The world around and the world within keep befooling us between the two polarities of positivity and negativity, tossing us between the apparently opposite beliefs of existence, and tearing us between their apparently hostile but mutually conducive fearsome jaws. We believe that the two perceptions negativity and positivity are each others foes … but we never understand their pact behind the screen to nurture each other at our cost … we never realize that we are the ones who are chewed away by these jaws perpetually as we delude ourselves to be chewing on them. The root cause for this self-generated hide-and-seek game between the fears and desires is the hunger and thirst within. Till we learn how to quench this hunger and thirst within, we cannot escape from the jaws of the death – fatigue and ageing. Untill then, the fear drives us to chase the desires … till then, we wander aimlessly like a headless chicken not knowing what is fear and what is dear, not understanding what is positive and what is negative … but running away from fears and chasing the desires perpetually. We do not understand who is causing this conflict and hence conveniently blame the environment around. We never realize that the root cause for all such conflicts could be within since we cannot perceive that. We have to suffer till we learn to perceive within in clarity. The death hunts us down and its fear haunts us ever till we learn to dive into the abyss within to experience it in its absolute form where in both desires and fears dissolve away to the oblivion. The very ABYSS reveals our True Self as we seek not to hallucinate the possibilities of negativities and positivities anymore as ITSELF. Being one with that ABYSS, one could see the same around leaving no room for either positivity or negativity around and within. Then … where is the question of this recycling – positivity turning into negativity and vice versa?! Till we learn to dive into the abyss within to learn experiencing everything as is … we are lured by the negativity turning into positivity which in turn haunts us back with positivity turning into negativity. Till then … we are helpless but to recycle ourselves … Respects. Naga Narayana. -- PRIOR POSTINGNEW POSTING Jai Hanuman Namaste Jee! I totally agree with Sadhanaji. Anonji - simply ignore the thinking mind. You can do that. Either keep that in deep freezer or throw in a dust bin or laugh it out ! Are you aware, Anonji, that the root cause of all sorrows is mind ? This Fellow travels only in non existence- either in past or in future !! Big Cipher !! It changes too - Anonji- it never remains static !! Believe me on that Jee !! Anonji- read what Mike Bhaiyya told. You are not alone. Certainly you are not alone! 'Agony of the soul' - so common , so usual, so automatic - when mind is driver !! TU JAANE MERE SANG BEETI, EK EK BAAR SABHI SANG BEETI You say it has happened only with you ! But the fact is that it ( adversity) happens with everybody - AT LEAST (minimum) once !! No exceptions Jee! Lord washes our eyes with tears till they are clean enough to behold the reality! What is reality - nothing is permanent, except " YOU - your SELF " and " GOD " ! How can negativity be permanent, when the very perceiver of that negativity, the very mind changes every fraction of a second ?? How can positive remain in oblivion when you are , by very your nature, " Sahaj sukh raasi " ( naturally blissful) ? Jee Jee Shashikala -------------------------- How to Cope when Continuously Positivity Turns to Negative? Digestion of desires (positivity) excrete the fears (negativity) and the injestion of fears churn out the desires. Recycling the living beings between the desires and fears is the fundamental program embedded in every living being's survival cycle. As we feel empty within, as we feel thirsty and hungry, the world around reveals the food to fill ourselves, our bowls. As we engross ourselves in filling our bowls, the world within steals it away for its own sustenance digesting the essence of the precious food and excreting the toxic waste forcing one to empty oneself again. The empty one waits like a Chataka bird to fill one's bowl again and again … only to empty it again and again. The emptyness within pushes oneself to look out for positivity around to grace oneself with food to fill-in the emptiness within. But, the negativity hidden in the very positive food is revealed as the bowl, as it is being filled, is being emptied by the ever-hungry world within. Well, that is what we call life that we think we cherish. We cherish the bowl filling fiction … but, we never realize how we perish with the bowl clearing reality. We never realize that the hunger is the only hope for our very perception of the positivity as such. We never realize that the world around can never apear positive unless the bowl is empty within. We never remember the fact that we can never even look at the food – whatsoever delicacy it could be – if we are really full within. On the other hand we also believe that our positivity is embedded in experiencing the delicacy – the more hungry we are the more delicious the food becomes! We hate the pangs of hunger and at the same time we love the satisfaction it brings through the food we cherish. We never acknowledge the fact that the so-called positivity is established only within the so-called negativity within. On the other hand, we never notice the same hunger around hunting us perpetually that turns into the unknown haunts within. We never understand that our attempt of extracting the positivity from around is perceived as the negativity by the world around. We never realize that the very negativity created around thanks to our hunt for positivity is the very culprit that keeps emptying our bowls irrespective of our perpetual effort to keep it full. The world around and the world within keep befooling us between the two polarities of positivity and negativity, tossing us between the apparently opposite beliefs of existence, and tearing us between their apparently hostile but mutually conducive fearsome jaws. We believe that the two perceptions negativity and positivity are each others foes … but we never understand their pact behind the screen to nurture each other at our cost … we never realize that we are the ones who are chewed away by these jaws perpetually as we delude ourselves to be chewing on them. The root cause for this self-generated hide-and-seek game between the fears and desires is the hunger and thirst within. Till we learn how to quench this hunger and thirst within, we cannot escape from the jaws of the death – fatigue and ageing. Untill then, the fear drives us to chase the desires … till then, we wander aimlessly like a headless chicken not knowing what is fear and what is dear, not understanding what is positive and what is negative … but running away from fears and chasing the desires perpetually. We do not understand who is causing this conflict and hence conveniently blame the environment around. We never realize that the root cause for all such conflicts could be within since we cannot perceive that. We have to suffer till we learn to perceive within in clarity. The death hunts us down and its fear haunts us ever till we learn to dive into the abyss within to experience it in its absolute form where in both desires and fears dissolve away to the oblivion. The very ABYSS reveals our True Self as we seek not to hallucinate the possibilities of negativities and positivities anymore as ITSELF. Being one with that ABYSS, one could see the same around leaving no room for either positivity or negativity around and within. Then … where is the question of this recycling – positivity turning into negativity and vice versa?! Till we learn to dive into the abyss within to learn experiencing everything as is … we are lured by the negativity turning into positivity which in turn haunts us back with positivity turning into negativity. Till then … we are helpless but to recycle ourselves … Respects. Naga Narayana. -- PRIOR POSTING -Shre Hari- Dear, Anon. (May you find divine comfort) I wonder if you can understand that agony can be turned into joy. And the greatest agony is the agony of the soul, (spiritual agony). I have been touched by both. During that very 'Dark Time', when all my senses were reeling, a truly beautiful soul said to me, " Mike, God will only give you what you can take " . How right she was. As Vyasji pointed out, we are just part of a legion of those who know agony. It is so hard to understand, but I do pray that you will. Then pain will not be wasted, then you will be at one with all of mankind.(No separation). Je Je Shashikalaji, comments brought to mind my favorite lines from 'Dark Night of The Soul' 5. O guiding night! O night more lovely than the dawn! When I think of those agonies, I have tears in my eyes, tears of love for 'The Beloved'. With Respect and Divine Love, Mike Keenor - Dear Sadhak/Sadhika, According to me yr situations are pointing you towards one direction only-Could you see that ? They are telling you that " Donot THINK anything-neither positive, nor negative. " Get rid of yr thinking MIND and accept every moment AS IT IS. " Sarva Dharmanparitjya, Mamekam sharanam Vrija " Gita Ch18. Pray to Krishna and tell Him " Ab main nachyo bahut Gopala... " ( I had enough now, please take me into yr refuse) Leave all yr thoughts, and surrender to Him completely & unconditionally. With lots of love, A sadhika Sadhna Karigar -- PRIOR POSTING Hare Krishna If the situations are turning out negative, don't worry !!! Lord Krishna's words will pacify you " O son of Kunti, bodily sense-objects, which give rise to the feelings of heat and cold, pleasure and pain etc. are transitory and fleeting, therefore, Arjuna bear these patiently viz., remain unaffected by them or ignore them. " (Gita 2.14) You are absolutely correct in stating that God wants to make you stronger. He wants you to endure these so that you can rise above them and experience immortality. He continues " O the best of men, a person to whom pain and pleasure are alike, and who is not tormented by these sense-objects, becomes eligible, for immortality. " (Gita 2.15) There are 2 benefits of unfavourable circumstances, 1. Sins committed to get pleasure are getting destroyed and this thought is a kind of repentance for the sins committed. 2. It is a fore-warning to us that we shall have to face adverse consequences if we commit sins again. So, consider yourself very lucky that God has given you unfavourable circunstances. Kunti knew this secret . She prayed to Lord Krishna that " O Lord, please give me unfavourable circumstances. In these situations, I never forget you. " Hanumanji also said " Kaha Hanumant Bipati Prabhu Soi. Jab Tab Sumiran Bhajan Nahi Hoi " " O Lord, that situation is unfavourable when one does not worship and remember you. " Guru Nanakji said " Dukh mein Simran Sab Koi Kare, Sukh Mein Kare Na Koi Jo Sukh Mein Simran Kare To Dukh Kahe Ko Hoye " " Everyone remembers Lord in unfavourable situation. No one remembers him in pleasant situations. Those who remember Him in favourable circumstances, why would they feel sorrowful " If many children are playing and one mother has got some sweets then she will give it to every child. But if all the children are creating havoc then she will not scold each and everyone, but only her own child. Why ? Because that child is her very own. Similarly, God sends unfavourable circumstance to those whom He considers as his very own. A mother does not like to see a mucked up child, she cleanses her but the child cries that why are you giving me so much pain!!! " Arre. why are you crying, your mother is cleaning you. " .... But can he understand the heart of that mother? Similarly, God does not like our impurities. To clean it He sends such circumstances. But we start crying !!! This mother is only of one life but God is mother of our billions of life. Mother cleans the child so that she can take him in her lap. After taking in her lap she will look at her, caress her. Similarly God also wants to take us in His lap. He wants to play with us. He wants to hear from us 'I am yours'. God is craving for us. That is why He says " Hear, again, to My supremely profound words, the esoteric of all truths; as you are extremely dear to Me. Therefore, I shall give you this salutary advice for your own good. Fix your mind to Me, be devoted to Me, worship Me and prostrate yourself before Me. By doing this, you will come to Me alone. I promise you, for you are exceptionally dear to Me. Abandoning dependence on all duties (dharma), take refuge in Me, alone. I shall liberate you from all your sins; therefore grieve not. " (Gita 18.64 - 66) But we never look at Him. We are busy playing with these toys - mind, body and senses. (Gita 15.7) Even after playing with these these toys, we don't feel complete. Why? Because we are imperishable and the perishable can never satiate the imperishable. And the biggest blunder is even after knowing this we still don't turn our face towards God. You said " .......i think positive about the happenings of situations...... " . Why are you thinking about any situation? God has already taken this onus on His head. You just need to bother about whatever you are doing is in accordance with scriptures or not. (Gita 16.24) Occurrence of any situation is a fruit of your karmas. So expecting a situation to turn out in a particular manner, is a desire. If you would have done your karma without any desire of a fruit, then you wouldn't have been so dejected. Thanks, Hare Krishna Varun P. Paprunia -- well...firs of all thanks for bringing this topic. It is so obvious a case in today's scenario if you just open up the newspaper. Or so was it with me. But then i found a solution to that - i read letters from readers which tell me there is a good conscience still around. Most of the bad things go away if you remove money from your mind and focus on inner good, that is what i experience. I never posed this as a framed question, but now i do, now that you have asked specifically. Then i wondered what answer would i give. And here it came: - go back in past. Say preindependence era. It must be really depressing. Then i think about great Rev Tilak. how that good dealt with so much bad around. And per Khalil Gibran, I look at Mr Tialk as a plain person, not with awe or anything. then i get most of my answers! atul kumthekar -- PRIOR POSTING Hari Om That is what is " felt " quite often. But tell me, once you stated that you try not to see results while doing karmas, then how the very distinction of negative or positive arose? I understand your agony ! One turns towards God mostly when he finds himself clueless ! I too did feel the same way and I have reasons to believe that I or you are not alone or rare ! In fact, I have so strong reasons to believe that I can easily say, that entire humanity with no exception, encounters once at least what you are encountering now ! Good enough reason for you to be happy? The fault is in " assessing " the " results " and in believing that " I am the doer " and thus relating the " doership " with the " results " !. Leave that forever ! ! The moment you do that, you shall have peace and bliss flowing into you - INSTANTLY. Believe this statement. Try it . Please !! Nothing more need to be done ! Please believe in the justice or injustice, appropriateness or otherwise, goodness or evilness, kindness or cruelty, presence or absence, of ONLY ONLY God and God ONLY ! Do it ! Tell Him - as YOUR father/son/friend/husband /wife/mother/mistress/ master/brother/sister/servant/driver/enemy/competitor/lover/beloved/ Guru/ Disciple/student , etc, etc (Choose freely and unhesitantly ANY relationship with Him-best is of friend)- Tell Him - " Come On, I have not erred in my approach, my duties , as I understood, but still I am not happy-you have to be ashamed of that, not me " ! Establish mineness / any relationship with Him. CONNECT WITH HIM IN WHATEVER WAY AND HOWSOEVER ! Say thereafter what ever you like to say to Him but only to Him and to no body else ! He would listen to you !! He won't be able to disown you !! It is beyond His control or powers to disown you ! Fire Him, shout at Him, nag Him, criticise Him, praise Him, love Him, hate Him, fight with Him, surrender to Him, give to Him, expect from Him, take from Him, but Him only and no body else ! Blame only Him! Cry only before Him !. Hate Him only ! Love Him only ! Request to Him only ! Demand only from Him! Renounce only to Him! Accept only from Him! Complain only to Him! Rejoice only before Him! Act only for Him! Do only for Him! Do not only for Him! Eat only for Him! Live only for Him ! Work only for Him ! Conduct on His behalf only ! Care for His children only! Live in His home only ! Eat His prasad only ! Serve His creation only ! Serve by things and body given by Him only ! Bathe His body only ! Earn for His cause only ! Spend for His creation only ! Save for Him only ! Write for Him only! Read for Him only! Play roles on His behalf only ! Fight for Him only! Speak for Him only! Be silent for Him only! Live for Him only ! Die for Him only! Believe Him only and no one else ! Trust Him only and no one else ! Only He is yours and no one else ! What is difficulty in doing that ? It is one of the easiest tasks to do ! Come back should you feel it is difficult! Do it ! Decide to do it! Every thing gets over in a fraction of second, the moment you decide to do that ! Mere decision ! Your question thus gets answered for ever ! Without any doubt ! Forever means forever ! Once you do that where is the duality of negative/positive, happiness/sorrow, good/bad etc etc ?? Where is pain? Where is dilemma? Where is any question ? So easy ! So simple! So quick! So practical ! So lovely ! So soothing ! So astonishing! So kind ! So beautiful ! So sudden ! So independent ! So hassle free ! Jai Shree Krishna Vyas N B -- Jai Hanuman Namaste Anonymous Bhaiyya/Bahenji Worry not Jee! In the life of good people the kind of circumstances you mentioned arrive at more frequently ! Why ? Because Krishna has taken over the charge !! But you can be certain that no situation/state is permanent. That day is not far when even if you do something negative, inadvertently, the result will be positive. ( Feeling wise). RAAT BHAR KA HAI MEHMAA ANDHERA KISKE ROKE RUKA HAI SAVERAA ! The darkness is the guest only for a night. Who could ever succeed in stopping Sun from rising ? RAAT JITNI BHI SANGEEN HOGI, SUBAHA UTNI HI RANGEEN HOGI ! GAM NA KAR GAR HAI BAADAL GHANERA !! The more brutal and frightening is night, the more lovely and beautiful shall be the day! Don't worry if the clouds are dense and dark. AA KOI MIL KE TADBEER SOCHE, SUKH KE SAPANO KI TABEER SOCHE ! JO TERA HAI WAHI GHAM HAI MERA !! Come O Dear ! Let us (Sadhaks) get united and find a way out (of this misery of worldly life) and way of achieving Peace and Bliss. What is your pain is mine too!! YOONHI DUNIYA MAI AAKAR NA JAANA , SIRF AANSOO BAHAKAR NA JAANA ! MUKURAHAT PE BHI HAQ HAI TERA !! ( O Sahaj Sukhraasi ) No ! You are not supposed to come into this world and shed tears and depart ! You are entitled for smiles and happiness !! Keep reading. You have reached at right forum. Jee Jee Shashikala -------------------------------- Friend Please look into your assumptions:- 1. that " these situations are created by god for me to make me more stronger to face life " 2.I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. A)As per verse 14 of 5th Chapter ,God or Bhagwan Krishna does not do ,or motivate us to do or create coincidences for anything.Every event occurs in one's life according to his nature (swabhaw). In other place In Gita ,Bhagwan has said that Human beings act or are forced to act according to their Sattwik,Rajsik or Tamasik nature. Situations are created by us only according to our past actions or karmas.God will never create any unpleasent situation for anyone but he has made some laws/rules/priciples which are consistently applied to everyone without exception. That requires us to look into our Karmas or actions. B)Gita says " do your karma without expectation of result.The focus is on doing Karma and not thinking/expecting/aiming for fruit.Only Sattwik nature people are able to do this type of action. In business/profession/service we certainly will expect income/profit or salary.But in helping unknown persons we may not expect or get any fruit.So please look into " what fruitless actions are being taken by you. C)Somewhere deep inside, expectation of positive happenings or situations is there whereas the actual happenings or situations are negative. To change the tide , through understanding of past actions/plan/strategy and change in the same is required. But your two assumptions will not allow you to do the same. Make it a daily practice to study Gita (at least two pages in the morning and two pages in the evening) and do some meditation ( as per verse 27 & 28 of 5th chapter) for 10 minutes in morning and 10 minutes in evening. While it is easy to provide advise I feel your problem and send you my best wishes. regards Ashok Jain ------------------------------- Dear Sadhakas, Namste! Dear Anonymouseji you say you are positive thinker in all situations of life, that means even if they are negative, right? You also say that you know God is making you stronger to face the life by these seemingly negative situations. You seem to also know the great Gita's teaching " do your karmas without aiming for fruits " . If this is your true conviction, then there should not be any problem arising from apparantly negative situations. Since it is not the case, there may/must be some lingering doubts. See that the situations are neither positive or negatives, they just are what they are! Our perceptions, however, of them are " good for me or not good for me " . It is because we think always from " me/mine " point of view, which we are not. It is very important to see this clearly. God doesn't create anything personal. Doing karmas selflessly means we do aim/plan for results, and appropriate actions, then doing it without being personal doer, and with the best of ability(Yogeshu karma kaushalam). When result is obtained, accept, rather, welcome whatever it is. This is because God knows what is best for all involved including doer, in situation, nothing personal! Namaskaras........ Pratap Bhatt ------------------------------- Nothing in this world can make you happy. It is because of this that our Gurus renounced the world from childhood and became bal- brahmacharis. Look at it this way. Everything in this world is an illusion. So don't let anything pull you down. Do your karmas and keep your positive attitude no matter what. Meditate and soon things will change for the better. What we undergo are a result of past karmas. By good karmas, we can escape the painful cycle of birth and death. Hari Shanker Deo -------------------------------- Dear sadak, When you thinking was positive and succeeded, your stars were favourable in giving results over your past Karma. When you got you quota of goodness done, next your quota of bad karmas come in. How it acts?. You could have shifted to new house or shifting in your house. You could have abused a sanyasin or a good man. Your Karma will give thoughts that you think right but it will be wrong. Only way out is Visit Puniya Chetras, do namasankeerthan, certain slokas like " Vasu devam Sutam devam---- " removes Koti jalma Papas. Besides it is important that your mind set is made that equally calm about the past and present has no differances and these are Maya. When things went right you were happy, so when things go wrong your are unhappy. Mind should not rejoice over happiness and the mind should not get distrubed over sorrow. But mind can be calm in self luminious. This is your words-- " Though I know the great teaching of lord Krishna - Do your karma without aiming for fruit. " You did your Karmas in the past and enjoyed the fruits without your knowledge. If you would not have enjoyed those fruits, you will be not knowing the differances of the past and present. B.Sathyanarayan ------------------------------ -- GUIDELINES FOR POSTING A RESPONSE: 1. PLEASE BE CONCISE AND TO THE POINT, ADDRESSING ON THE SUBJECT AT HAND, thus respecting sadhaka's time. Please limit response to half a book page (3-4 paragraphs). 2. 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