Dealing with Youth Issues - Tension, Lack of Concentration

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Shree Hari

Ram Ram

 

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worldly situations, however please use this opportunity to redirect

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referring to Gita verses. Also please be brief and to the point.

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From Gita Talk Moderator

Ram Ram

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Good morning,

 

Every morning I do read Gita Talk. Today my mind is heavy and I do

need clarity. Please do advise to help me overcome this phase.

Its regarding our daughter. She is to write her 12th std. board

exam this march'09. My concern is that she is very much tensed from

within and does not want to share it. Because of this she is unable

to concentrate and even is unable to focus properly. With the

result most of the time she does not feel like studying and instead

want to either sleep or listen to songs. As for us , we feel

helpless as when we try to reach out to her, she does not like and

feels that we are over reacting. Please advise as it is December

mid, n in January beginning pre boards would start. If she is

unable to focus now, she may not be able to perform well and this

again could further demotivate her, which would affect her

boards/final exams. Please advise how this situation should be

handled in the most positive way.

 

Thanking you in advance for your kind attention.

 

Brgds/Indira menon

 

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related to Gitaji shlokas. Therefore, responses which further

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substantiate your response.

3. Kindly limit personal feelings, opinions, beliefs etc. to the

extent that they further help in understanding the Gita shlokas

4. Please be as concise and to the point as possible, respecting

sadhaka's time.

5. Kindly focus your writing to the subject at hand only.

6. Please do not include links to the other sites or other

organizations.

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8. Please do not address the response to a particular individual

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9. Due to the large readership, all responses may not be posted.

10. Moderator at his discretion, may modify the posting, if content

is unclear or not appropriate for distribution to the group.

11. Please respond taking into consideration the novices, youth,

westerners, non-sectarian audience. Kindly limit the use to Sanskrit

words only, rather provide the English word with Sanskrit bracketed

wherever possible.

 

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[Guest guest]

Shree Hari

Ram Ram

 

Even though questions may be more of a mundane nature / dealing with

worldly situations, however please use this opportunity to redirect

all answers keeping Gita teachings at the center and quoting /

referring to Gita verses. Also please be brief and to the point.

Please kindly limit personal feelings, beliefs etc. Let the focus

be, how would Sri Krishna respond in this situation? Please re-read

Gita Talk guidelines before responding. Thank you all.

From Gita Talk Moderator

Ram Ram

---------------------------

 

Good morning,

 

Every morning I do read Gita Talk. Today my mind is heavy and I do

need clarity. Please do advise to help me overcome this phase.

Its regarding our daughter. She is to write her 12th std. board

exam this march'09. My concern is that she is very much tensed from

within and does not want to share it. Because of this she is unable

to concentrate and even is unable to focus properly. With the

result most of the time she does not feel like studying and instead

want to either sleep or listen to songs. As for us , we feel

helpless as when we try to reach out to her, she does not like and

feels that we are over reacting. Please advise as it is December

mid, n in January beginning pre boards would start. If she is

unable to focus now, she may not be able to perform well and this

again could further demotivate her, which would affect her

boards/final exams. Please advise how this situation should be

handled in the most positive way.

 

Thanking you in advance for your kind attention.

 

Brgds/Indira menon

 

-----------------------------

Hari Om

 

Swamiji never believed that IQ of youngsters can be low.It is

sincerity and object fixation which is important.

 

From parent's side daily vigile and over attention is not ideal.

Students normally get tense and fearful due to self conceived under

preparedness . Quite frequently parents end up in increasing the

same. Tension is already visible. Hence Whenever you get an

opportunity tell her not to excessively worry about examinations .

Tell her she should take rest also. Tell her that for 5 minutes at

least in the morning she should remember Goddess Saraswati. Don't at

all complain. Keep giving love in abundance. Lesser you nag or

interfere, better shall be the result.

 

Ask her mother to find out if she has any other problems. She

already passed 10th std therefore for 12th standard also she will be

prepared. There can be other problem which only Mom with love and

affection can find out. Don't make study as some of a yard stick of

judgement. It is routine for her for 3/4 years already and shall

continue to be so for next 5/6 years. Think long term.

 

In the youth corner of recently launched web site by this Sadhak

Group there are advices by Swamiji. Read them and ensure indirectly

that your children adopt them.

 

Find out if you are more tense about her exams or she is more tense.

To begin with at least for one week neither you nor her mom should

enquire or appear to be worried about her studies. Instead double

the love, care and affection. This temporary change will have more

positive impact on her than daily vigile.

 

Keep in touch. Don't worry. Don't count the days left for exam. She

is already counting.

 

Jai Shree Krishna

 

Vyas N B

-----------------------------

Shree Hari

Ram Ram

 

Thank you Vyasji for reminding us. Those of you who are not on the

Sadhaka may not be aware that recently an English

website of Shraddhey Swami Ramsukhdasji (who has been the

inspiration behind Gita Talk group) has been launched from the books

and lectures of Swamiji. Please kindly visit the YOUTH SECTION

which has few articles providing guidance to Youth.

 

http://www.swamiramsukhdasji.net/eBooks/youth_books.html

 

This site will be updated with new content on a regular basis

therefore please bookmark it / add to favorites.

 

From Gita Talk Moderators

Ram Ram

--------------------------

 

Permit me to share my experience as father of 3 who have gone

through that experience.

It's natural for children to be tensed before examination. Children

have high expectation of themselves, they have to deal with parental

expectation and societal expactions.

Give your daughter the space she needs as she is utilising part of

that space to listen to music which lowers her pressure. Let her set

aside quallity time to spend with a friend - not too much of it

could be a distraction. You should spend quality time with her - use

that quality time to listen, for there is a reason we have 2 ears

and 1 mouth and that is to listen more than we speak. Create the

atmosphere for communication and bonding with her.

I HAVE ALWAYS USED THE KARMIC PHILOSOPHY - ie what you did yesterday

will affect today, and what you do today will impact tomorrow.

This applies to all aspects of one's lie - hygiene, health, studies,

relationships, career etc.

Hope this helps and good luck.

 

Mangal Deolal

--------------------------

 

GITA TALK GROUP GUIDELINES:

1. Purpose of the group is to help Sadhakas clarify their doubts

related to Gitaji shlokas. Therefore, responses which further

clarify the understanding of Gitaji, will only be posted.

2. Wherever possible, please quote Gitaji or other scriptures to

substantiate your response.

3. Kindly limit personal feelings, opinions, beliefs etc. to the

extent that they further help in understanding the Gita shlokas

4. Please be as concise and to the point as possible, respecting

sadhaka's time.

5. Kindly focus your writing to the subject at hand only.

6. Please do not include links to the other sites or other

organizations.

7. Kindly do not include your personal information such as phone

number, address etc.

8. Please do not address the response to a particular individual

since the message is going to the entire group.

9. Due to the large readership, all responses may not be posted.

10. Moderator at his discretion, may modify the posting, if content

is unclear or not appropriate for distribution to the group.

11. Please respond taking into consideration the novices, youth,

westerners, non-sectarian audience. Kindly limit the use to Sanskrit

words only, rather provide the English word with Sanskrit bracketed

wherever possible.

 

MODERATOR

Ram Ram

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[Guest guest]

Shree Hari

Ram Ram

 

Even though questions may be more of a mundane nature / dealing with

worldly situations, however please use this opportunity to redirect

all answers keeping Gita teachings at the center and quoting /

referring to Gita verses. Also please be brief and to the point.

Please kindly limit personal feelings, beliefs etc. Let the focus

be, how would Sri Krishna respond in this situation? Please re-read

Gita Talk guidelines before responding. Thank you all.

From Gita Talk Moderator

Ram Ram

---------------------------

NEW POSTING

 

Priy Sadhak

I would suggst U to do following

1. Pray from your inner conscience to God that she is not ur but

God's child therefore impart her courage to face exams

2. Always give her positive attitude & confidence in U that whatever

the result may be she will always be your lovable daughter.

3. If she can take give her verses from gitaji Ch. 4 KARMANYA

VADHIKARSTE MA FALESHU KADACHAN

4. Pl. Pl. take one Sadhak Sanjivani from Gita Press & learn &

explain her that shloka (verse) as I told earlier.

 

Do it and see the outcome.

Meanwhile I also will pray prabhu shri Ramji to give her all she

needs.

Thanx

Raja Gurdasani

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It is not unusual for your daughter to feel all the " pressure "

supported by a society that demands good grades- have you told her

that it does not matter to you whatever her grade- that you love her

just the same? That will ease her tension and then she can just

focus on her studies.

 

Meditation and Sudarshan Kriya have proven to be very effective.

All the very best to her for her forthcoming exams and I know she

will do just fine!

 

Jai Gurudev,

Meenakshi

--------------------------------

 

PRIOR POSTING

Good morning,

 

Every morning I do read Gita Talk. Today my mind is heavy and I do

need clarity. Please do advise to help me overcome this phase.

Its regarding our daughter. She is to write her 12th std. board

exam this march'09. My concern is that she is very much tensed from

within and does not want to share it. Because of this she is unable

to concentrate and even is unable to focus properly. With the

result most of the time she does not feel like studying and instead

want to either sleep or listen to songs. As for us , we feel

helpless as when we try to reach out to her, she does not like and

feels that we are over reacting. Please advise as it is December

mid, n in January beginning pre boards would start. If she is

unable to focus now, she may not be able to perform well and this

again could further demotivate her, which would affect her

boards/final exams. Please advise how this situation should be

handled in the most positive way.

 

Thanking you in advance for your kind attention.

 

Brgds/Indira menon

 

-----------------------------

Hari Om

 

Swamiji never believed that IQ of youngsters can be low.It is

sincerity and object fixation which is important.

 

From parent's side daily vigile and over attention is not ideal.

Students normally get tense and fearful due to self conceived under

preparedness . Quite frequently parents end up in increasing the

same. Tension is already visible. Hence Whenever you get an

opportunity tell her not to excessively worry about examinations .

Tell her she should take rest also. Tell her that for 5 minutes at

least in the morning she should remember Goddess Saraswati. Don't at

all complain. Keep giving love in abundance. Lesser you nag or

interfere, better shall be the result.

 

Ask her mother to find out if she has any other problems. She

already passed 10th std therefore for 12th standard also she will be

prepared. There can be other problem which only Mom with love and

affection can find out. Don't make study as some of a yard stick of

judgement. It is routine for her for 3/4 years already and shall

continue to be so for next 5/6 years. Think long term.

 

In the youth corner of recently launched web site by this Sadhak

Group there are advices by Swamiji. Read them and ensure indirectly

that your children adopt them.

 

Find out if you are more tense about her exams or she is more tense.

To begin with at least for one week neither you nor her mom should

enquire or appear to be worried about her studies. Instead double

the love, care and affection. This temporary change will have more

positive impact on her than daily vigile.

 

Keep in touch. Don't worry. Don't count the days left for exam. She

is already counting.

 

Jai Shree Krishna

 

Vyas N B

-----------------------------

Shree Hari

Ram Ram

 

Thank you Vyasji for reminding us. Those of you who are not on the

Sadhaka may not be aware that recently an English

website of Shraddhey Swami Ramsukhdasji (who has been the

inspiration behind Gita Talk group) has been launched from the books

and lectures of Swamiji. Please kindly visit the YOUTH SECTION

which has few articles providing guidance to Youth.

 

http://www.swamiramsukhdasji.net/eBooks/youth_books.html

 

This site will be updated with new content on a regular basis

therefore please bookmark it / add to favorites.

 

From Gita Talk Moderators

Ram Ram

--------------------------

 

Permit me to share my experience as father of 3 who have gone

through that experience.

It's natural for children to be tensed before examination. Children

have high expectation of themselves, they have to deal with parental

expectation and societal expactions.

Give your daughter the space she needs as she is utilising part of

that space to listen to music which lowers her pressure. Let her set

aside quallity time to spend with a friend - not too much of it

could be a distraction. You should spend quality time with her - use

that quality time to listen, for there is a reason we have 2 ears

and 1 mouth and that is to listen more than we speak. Create the

atmosphere for communication and bonding with her.

I HAVE ALWAYS USED THE KARMIC PHILOSOPHY - ie what you did yesterday

will affect today, and what you do today will impact tomorrow.

This applies to all aspects of one's lie - hygiene, health, studies,

relationships, career etc.

Hope this helps and good luck.

 

Mangal Deolal

--------------------------

 

GITA TALK GROUP GUIDELINES:

1. Purpose of the group is to help Sadhakas clarify their doubts

related to Gitaji shlokas. Therefore, responses which further

clarify the understanding of Gitaji, will only be posted.

2. Wherever possible, please quote Gitaji or other scriptures to

substantiate your response.

3. Kindly limit personal feelings, opinions, beliefs etc. to the

extent that they further help in understanding the Gita shlokas

4. Please be as concise and to the point as possible, respecting

sadhaka's time.

5. Kindly focus your writing to the subject at hand only.

6. Please do not include links to the other sites or other

organizations.

7. Kindly do not include your personal information such as phone

number, address etc.

8. Please do not address the response to a particular individual

since the message is going to the entire group.

9. Due to the large readership, all responses may not be posted.

10. Moderator at his discretion, may modify the posting, if content

is unclear or not appropriate for distribution to the group.

11. Please respond taking into consideration the novices, youth,

westerners, non-sectarian audience. Kindly limit the use to Sanskrit

words only, rather provide the English word with Sanskrit bracketed

wherever possible.

 

MODERATOR

Ram Ram

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