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>Tim:

>What you mention below is of course a total and complete misunderstanding

>of " I am already enlightened. " Such misunderstandings may or may not arise

>(depending on a persons' understanding of what " enlightenment " is), but

>don't you think that it's worth the possibility of such misunderstandings

>to try and help bring someone to the deep understanding that all seeking

>(which is future) is really nothing but avoiding what is ever-presently

>Here and Now?

 

D: Wow - what an intriguing question. I can't answer with what would

be right for you - only my experience with helping...

 

It seems that what works for me is simply to express what I can

of who I am, and work on myself to allow such expression to

clarify, vibrate with less self-contructed impedence, and resonate

as full as possible with all apparent " others " who are no other

than who I am. As I do this, I find that " helping " seems to diminish

and dissolve as a motive. Helping seems to imply some kind of

imposition, a perception of " I know what is best for you, right

for you, etc. -- if you only saw what I see, or thought about this

the way I think, etc. " Thus, helping is a projection of the helper,

and as the helper " dissolves " there is only " working " -- which

is work on oneself. In other words, I am aware as I " help " that I

provide nothing to no one, and such " helping " is merely a way to

work on " me " , that is " work within awareness by awareness " .

( " Outwardly " , this might have the appearance of one person

" helping " another.)

 

The truth, as I see it, is that Aloneness is - there can be no

sharing of Aloneness with anyone. That's just the fact, as I

experience it. I have experienced resistance to the fullness

of Aloneness - and this resistance materializes as wanting to

help, make things better, fix something, etc., and sometimes more

directly as making things good for me, so I will feel calm and happy.

For me, helping has been a means to try to share with another,

to avoid through anxiety the awesome fullness of Aloneness.

What I mean is, the persistent tendency to avoid the fullness of

Aloneness, which resistance materializes as tension, anxiety, or

frustration. It appears to me that the " movement of what is "

to whatever extent it is " received " undermines the whole basis

for any identification with a fixed perceptual reality located

in time and space - thus the whole perception of helping around

" this one associated with this body will help that one associated

with that body " is undermined. This doesn't mean " helping " is

impossible - there can be " helping " that is simply the spontaneous

movement of " what is " into what is always itself. As I see this,

I move from " helping " to " pure simple acceptance/surrender/being " .

 

>I don't know what your opinion on it is, but mine is that it's more than

>worth the " risk " of such misunderstandings... for the reason that " seeking

>enlightenment " is a futile and ridiculous endeavor likely to result only in

>despair. Of course, such despair may itself finally create the

>understanding of the futility of the search, but perhaps after years and

>years and years wasted, years of suffering trying to " reach the horizon " by

>running toward it.

>

>Someone " seeking enlightenment " with the intent of finding it in the future

>would do better dropping the whole idea and indulging their cravings and

>desires, as far as I'm concerned.

>

>Please note that " my teaching " (the heart of it) is to *express* what we

>already are through continued sadhana. If I had stopped at " just realize

>you're already enlightened, " the whole thing falls apart, and the

>misunderstandings you detail below are likely to arise in profusion. But I

>also gave an idea of " what to do next, " and the importance of it.

 

D: O.K. Good luck with it! Blessings!!

 

Love,

Dan

 

>At 01:21 PM 2/12/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>> " Dan Berkow, PhD " <berkowd

>>

>>> [snip]...In my opinion even though theoretically there

>>>is nothing to be done to become enlightened since you are

>>>already there, it may take a lot of bumbling about till one

>>>comes to this recognition.

>>>

>>>Love,

>>>

>>>Victor

>>

>>D: Indeed! Include under " bumbling around " :

>> *taking the idea of " already enlightened "

>> as a means to continue the status quo

>> of preception, but with a great new idea

>> *claiming to be already enlightened but

>> treating others as if they are not

>> *believing one is already enlightened,

>> but caring about maintaining a self-image,

>> manipulating others to get things from them,

>> being afraid of getting hurt, trying to

>> avoid losses, etc., etc.

>>

>> The words are essentially meaningless, it's

>> only lived experiential truth that is reality.

>>

>> Love,

>> Dan

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Dan Berkow, PhD wrote:

>

> " Dan Berkow, PhD " <berkowd

>

> >Tim:

> >What you mention below is of course a total and complete misunderstanding

> >of " I am already enlightened. " Such misunderstandings may or may not arise

> >(depending on a persons' understanding of what " enlightenment " is), but

> >don't you think that it's worth the possibility of such misunderstandings

> >to try and help bring someone to the deep understanding that all seeking

> >(which is future) is really nothing but avoiding what is ever-presently

> >Here and Now?

>

> D: Wow - what an intriguing question. I can't answer with what would

> be right for you - only my experience with helping...

>

> It seems that what works for me is simply to express what I can

> of who I am, and work on myself to allow such expression to

> clarify, vibrate with less self-contructed impedence, and resonate

> as full as possible with all apparent " others " who are no other

> than who I am. As I do this, I find that " helping " seems to diminish

> and dissolve as a motive. Helping seems to imply some kind of

> imposition, a perception of " I know what is best for you, right

> for you, etc. -- if you only saw what I see, or thought about this

> the way I think, etc. " Thus, helping is a projection of the helper,

> and as the helper " dissolves " there is only " working " -- which

> is work on oneself. In other words, I am aware as I " help " that I

> provide nothing to no one, and such " helping " is merely a way to

> work on " me " , that is " work within awareness by awareness " .

> ( " Outwardly " , this might have the appearance of one person

> " helping " another.)

>

> The truth, as I see it, is that Aloneness is - there can be no

> sharing of Aloneness with anyone. That's just the fact, as I

> experience it. I have experienced resistance to the fullness

> of Aloneness - and this resistance materializes as wanting to

> help, make things better, fix something, etc., and sometimes more

> directly as making things good for me, so I will feel calm and happy.

> For me, helping has been a means to try to share with another,

> to avoid through anxiety the awesome fullness of Aloneness.

> What I mean is, the persistent tendency to avoid the fullness of

> Aloneness, which resistance materializes as tension, anxiety, or

> frustration. It appears to me that the " movement of what is "

> to whatever extent it is " received " undermines the whole basis

> for any identification with a fixed perceptual reality located

> in time and space - thus the whole perception of helping around

> " this one associated with this body will help that one associated

> with that body " is undermined. This doesn't mean " helping " is

> impossible - there can be " helping " that is simply the spontaneous

> movement of " what is " into what is always itself. As I see this,

> I move from " helping " to " pure simple acceptance/surrender/being " .

>

> >I don't know what your opinion on it is, but mine is that it's more than

> >worth the " risk " of such misunderstandings... for the reason that " seeking

> >enlightenment " is a futile and ridiculous endeavor likely to result only in

> >despair. Of course, such despair may itself finally create the

> >understanding of the futility of the search, but perhaps after years and

> >years and years wasted, years of suffering trying to " reach the horizon " by

> >running toward it.

> >

> >Someone " seeking enlightenment " with the intent of finding it in the future

> >would do better dropping the whole idea and indulging their cravings and

> >desires, as far as I'm concerned.

> >

> >Please note that " my teaching " (the heart of it) is to *express* what we

> >already are through continued sadhana. If I had stopped at " just realize

> >you're already enlightened, " the whole thing falls apart, and the

> >misunderstandings you detail below are likely to arise in profusion. But I

> >also gave an idea of " what to do next, " and the importance of it.

>

> D: O.K. Good luck with it! Blessings!!

>

> Love,

> Dan

>

> >At 01:21 PM 2/12/2000 -0500, you wrote:

> >> " Dan Berkow, PhD " <berkowd

> >>

> >>> [snip]...In my opinion even though theoretically there

> >>>is nothing to be done to become enlightened since you are

> >>>already there, it may take a lot of bumbling about till one

> >>>comes to this recognition.

> >>>

> >>>Love,

> >>>

> >>>Victor

> >>

> >>D: Indeed! Include under " bumbling around " :

> >> *taking the idea of " already enlightened "

> >> as a means to continue the status quo

> >> of preception, but with a great new idea

> >> *claiming to be already enlightened but

> >> treating others as if they are not

> >> *believing one is already enlightened,

> >> but caring about maintaining a self-image,

> >> manipulating others to get things from them,

> >> being afraid of getting hurt, trying to

> >> avoid losses, etc., etc.

> >>

> >> The words are essentially meaningless, it's

> >> only lived experiential truth that is reality.

> >>

> >> Love,

> >> Dan

>

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