Dan/helping

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Dear Dan,

 

At 11:13 AM 2/13/2000 -0500, you wrote:

> " Dan Berkow, PhD " <berkowd

 

> It seems that what works for me is simply to express what I can

> of who I am,

 

Is that not precisely what is occurring on " my " website?

 

> and work on myself to allow such expression to

> clarify, vibrate with less self-contructed impedence, and resonate

> as full as possible with all apparent " others " who are no other

> than who I am. As I do this, I find that " helping " seems to diminish

> and dissolve as a motive.

 

Motive? Who ever mentioned a motive?

 

Here's one straight from the heart: Who ever said that " I " have any choice

in the matter as far as constructing a website and populating it with

certain words? Do you think " I choose " to do this? Perhaps you haven't

considered that " I " have absolutely *no* choice in the matter, but that

those words and actions just arise out of choiceless love?

 

> Helping seems to imply some kind of

> imposition, a perception of " I know what is best for you, right

> for you, etc. -- if you only saw what I see, or thought about this

> the way I think, etc. "

 

You took my term " helping " too literally, blew it all out of proportion,

and have made an issue out of it. Why, and for whom?

 

> Thus, helping is a projection of the helper,

> and as the helper " dissolves " there is only " working " -- which

> is work on oneself.

 

" The world " is myself... thus, " helping " the world is work on " myself. "

And work on " myself " is work on " the world. " These separations between

" oneself " and " the world " do no justice to Awareness, which makes no such

distinctions.

 

> In other words, I am aware as I " help " that I

> provide nothing to no one, and such " helping " is merely a way to

> work on " me "

 

That awareness (which is purely mental) isn't necessary... whether aware of

it or not, it " works " that way, nyet?

 

> The truth, as I see it, is that Aloneness is - there can be no

> sharing of Aloneness with anyone.

 

" It " can be " pointed " to using words. How could " it " not, as words are not

separate from " it? "

 

> That's just the fact, as I

> experience it. I have experienced resistance to the fullness

> of Aloneness - and this resistance materializes as wanting to

> help, make things better, fix something, etc., and sometimes more

> directly as making things good for me, so I will feel calm and happy.

> For me, helping has been a means to try to share with another,

> to avoid through anxiety the awesome fullness of Aloneness.

 

Hopefully, you do not assume that to be the case with " me! "

 

> What I mean is, the persistent tendency to avoid the fullness of

> Aloneness, which resistance materializes as tension, anxiety, or

> frustration. It appears to me that the " movement of what is "

> to whatever extent it is " received " undermines the whole basis

> for any identification with a fixed perceptual reality located

> in time and space - thus the whole perception of helping around

> " this one associated with this body will help that one associated

> with that body " is undermined. This doesn't mean " helping " is

> impossible - there can be " helping " that is simply the spontaneous

> movement of " what is " into what is always itself. As I see this,

> I move from " helping " to " pure simple acceptance/surrender/being " .

 

Is there impure acceptance/surrender/being? And again, is a teaching

offered with no motive not a movement of/within Awareness?

 

With Love,

 

Tim

 

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