Guest guest Posted February 20, 2000 Report Share Posted February 20, 2000 Dear Cassie, > You can just disagree. Rudeness is unacceptable to me. > You no longer exist to me. I don't like rudeness either. But it happens, so, let's try to make something positive out of it by understanding it. Why are people rude? It depends, I guess, but one reason is because they are unhappy. Maybe they feel criticized, so they criticize somebody else to pass the hurt on. Of course it doesn't really work, but then, most of our strategies for avoiding pain and pursuing pleasure don't work. When people are rude to me, I try to remember that they are doing it because they are unhappy. It has nothing to do with me. If I succeed in remembering that, I feel compassion for them instead of anger, and that makes me happy. Funny, isn't it, that the only person who can possibly be made happy by an act of rudeness is the person to whom it's directed? It never makes the rude person happy. If anything, he or she feels worse. Love, Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2000 Report Share Posted February 20, 2000 It didn't make me happy at all as what I practice isn't New Age. What I know about what I wrote about came from real experiences. It hurt to be dismissed by a total stranger as if I was some flake person parroting something I heard which is the way he used the term " New Ager " , when that could not be further from the truth. I speak about how I live everyday and the Spiritual experiences I keep having and growing from, as well as the personal knowledge of doing Out Of Body myself. It is Ancient knowledge that Souls leave one's bodies for the body to truly rest. I also have personal experience in this as well. Anyone who wakes up and feels like they didn't really sleep knows how it feels if they don't Out Of Body. I don't mind being disagreed with. I simply don't enjoy it when someone makes an incorrect assumption about me, makes a personal attack against me. How that may be considered fun, who knows. Cassie - " Laura Olshansky " <editor <Realization > Sunday, February 20, 2000 12:00 AM Re: Cassandra/Re: Rudeness > " Laura Olshansky " <editor > > Dear Cassie, > > > You can just disagree. Rudeness is unacceptable to me. > > You no longer exist to me. > > I don't like rudeness either. > > But it happens, so, let's try to make something positive out of > it by understanding it. > > Why are people rude? It depends, I guess, but one reason is > because they are unhappy. Maybe they feel criticized, so they > criticize somebody else to pass the hurt on. Of course it > doesn't really work, but then, most of our strategies for > avoiding pain and pursuing pleasure don't work. > > When people are rude to me, I try to remember that they are > doing it because they are unhappy. It has nothing to do with > me. > > If I succeed in remembering that, I feel compassion for them > instead of anger, and that makes me happy. > > Funny, isn't it, that the only person who can possibly be made > happy by an act of rudeness is the person to whom it's > directed? It never makes the rude person happy. If anything, > he or she feels worse. > > Love, > > Laura > > > > ------ > Shabang!com is the place to get your FREE eStore, Absolutely FREE > Forever. If you have any desires to sell your products or services > online, or you want to expand your customer base for FREE, Come check > out Shabang!com FREE eStores! > http://click./1/1299/5/_/_/_/951033203/ > ------ > > ..........INFORMATION ABOUT THIS LIST.......... > > Email addresses: > Post message: Realization > Un: Realization- > Our web address: http://www.realization.org > > By sending a message to this list, you are giving > permission to have it reproduced as a letter on > http://www.realization.org > ................................................ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2000 Report Share Posted February 20, 2000 Dear Cassie, > It didn't make me happy at all as what I practice isn't New Age. What I > know about what I wrote about came from real experiences. It hurt to be > dismissed by a total stranger as if I was some flake person parroting > something I heard which is the way he used the term " New Ager " , > when that could not be further from the truth. I know how this feels -- yuck. It has happened to me too. I'm sorry. > I speak about how I live everyday and > the Spiritual experiences I keep having and growing from, as well as the > personal knowledge of doing Out Of Body myself. It is Ancient knowledge > that Souls leave one's bodies for the body to truly rest. I also have > personal experience in this as well. I have a great respect for personal experience. In fact, of all the categories of article we publish on the website, I think accounts of people's personal experiences are most important. I would very much like to hear about your experiences in detail. I hope you still feel comfortable writing about them here. My main job as moderator is to maintain that comfort level for people. I'll do whatever is necessary to accomplish that. >I simply don't enjoy it when someone makes an incorrect assumption > about me, makes a personal attack against me. No, it's awful when it happens. But it shows that the attack *really* has nothing to do with you. > How that may be considered fun, who knows. Heh, you're right, the attack isn't fun. What I meant was, it's fun when you've reached a point on the path where an attack like that doesn't hurt you. You hear it, and understand it, but it doesn't hurt and you don't get angry. And if what you feel is compassion, that's super fun. Maybe it sounds like I'm talking about a superhuman saintly frame of mind. But really, I'm not. We all feel this way (sometimes) when the attack comes from a little kid. Sometimes small children get upset about something that's beyond anybody's control -- they want to be home *now* when home is 30 minutes away, or they don't want to wear their coat and don't want to be cold either, etc. etc. They lash out at the nearest adult in a raging temper tantrum. Sometimes of course kids *do* make us angry, but often when this happens you don't feel the least bit of anger back. You feel a mixture of humor (you have to restrain yourself from laughing) and compassion. Well, what I'm suggesting is, sometimes when adults get angry, if we really saw what's going on, we would react exactly the same way we do with the three-year-old. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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