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Is kindness the antidote to cruelty? :

 

 

 

Is it possible that our kindness can heal the cruelty of another and

enrich both of us? If it is, why are we conditioned to react with an

eye for an eye?

 

 

 

 

We are cruel when we are in anguish or hatred. We are in anguish or

hatred for a variety of reasons. Yet, the fundamental misconception

is that the cause of our anguish or hatred is outside ourselves. We

are in circumstances that we don't like and cannot change. In this

anguish,we hold another responsible for our plight. We blame the

system, we blame politicians, we blame a certain religion, we blame

the sun for shining too brightly, we blame the birds for chirping too

loud. In all these, what causes our own anguish is the hatred within

our own mind.

 

 

 

Our minds are merely a maze of learnt notions and expectations. They

have all the error and limitation of finite experience. In life, we

constantly encounter the unknown. Every moment, life unfolds in

various ways, many of which we cannot foresee. In this encounter with

the unknown, we face the resistance of our own crystallized notions.

The experience is infinite, the instrument that should enable the

experience is finite. Its like a 60 watt bulb being given a power of

200 watts. We just cant cope. The result is anger, anguish and

hatred. We are, in our moments of anguish and hatred, simply out of

our minds. We are actually on our knees , crying for help. We are

pulling out our own hair in frustration and pain. This enormous

frustration and helplessness is often the root of cruelty and hatred.

 

 

 

 

We have been conditioned to act, to be courageous. The force of

societal pressure calls us to conform , to appear heroic, to write

history. In the hysterical hype and rhetoric that can consume entire

nations, sanity and free opinion is the first casualty. An

independent thinker may be called a unpatriotic or anti national.

Such is the enormous pressure of our societal conditioning, the

undercurrents of blind forces at work. In this scenario, men are

often caught and compelled to act in a fatal attraction. Like the

moth rushes into the flame to ensure its own destruction, we are

often drawn to hatred, to violence, to anger and to cruelty. In this,

eventually, we are planting the seeds of our own destruction.

 

 

 

 

Life is often paradoxical. The ironies are striking. We seek to be

different and walk beaten tracks. We act in haste, in confusion, in

anguish, in anger, in compliance with mass hysteria, in our need for

social acceptance and approval. We act to avoid ridicule, to avoid

rejection, to avoid a moment of humiliation. Yet, our thought and

action perpetuate the pattern that has created them. They are wolves

in sheep's clothing. We only succeed in planting more and more hatred

in ourselves and others. In seeking to correct fools, we become one

ourselves.

 

 

 

 

A flame is not extinguished by pouring oil into it. Similarly,

cruelty can never be overcome by pouring more cruelty on it. Whether

we have sinned or have been sinned against, only kindness and love

can heal the scars of anger, hatred and cruelty within us. It matters

little whether I am the aggressor or the victim. In either case, I am

a victim of hatred, cruelty, anguish and anger. As a victim, the only

antidote to my own pain is love.

 

 

 

 

We are often conditioned to respond with an eye for an eye. We fight

to protect our image. Are images real? Do we need to fight to defend

mere notions? Are we victims of our own delusions? Are we caught in a

net of our own making? Are we trapped in the very hatred that we seek

to remove? Like a man sinking in quicksand, is my every effort only

driving me deeper?

These are the questions that need to be asked and answered. Not in

board rooms and conference halls but deeply, within our own minds.

 

 

 

 

Has our cruelty been transformed by receiving hatred? Or, have we

become more ruthless, more cunning, more mercenary in our cruelty?

How then can we hope to transform another by cruelty and hatred? How

can we transform another by force? Having led the horse to the water,

how can we make it drink? In our inflated notions of our own

importance, in the rigidity of dead notions, we are imprisoned and

burdened. We are caught in a web of self inflicted cruelty.

 

 

 

The only way out is to feel our pain completely. The only way to heal

our pain is by love. With a greater and greater love for ourselves

and each other. In loving with an intensity that overlooks all

differences, our pain is healed and transformed. In this

transformation, is the light of timeless awareness and eternal

victory.

 

 

 

Ashok Gollerkeri.

 

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Dan

 

Kindness is the answer to your cruelty....... When you become God realized...

then and only then !, ....will you understand all this wisdom being sent your

way with kindness and patience from the beings on this site..... your

rudeness makes me have more compassion for you..... why don't you surrender

that spirit that nothing can be known..... and start beginning to know.......

 

------------------ Jerrio --------------------------

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Dan

You can play your game as you wish..... but the others reading should know

instinctively by your vibes... that your real intention is to disrupt others

with pedantic talk about nothing that goes nowhere in the direction of the

one truth........................even my grandma used to say.... If you don't

have anything good to say............ Shut Up !........

 

Jerrio

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ASHOK GOLLERKERI

Realization

Monday, October 07, 2002 2:24 AM

Is kindness the antidote to cruelty?

 

The only way out is to feel our pain completely. The only way to heal our pain is by love. With a greater and greater love for ourselves and each other.

 

 

***** You're deluded my friend! There is no "way out". Nonsense!

You're just playing with your-self and calling it "love". "Self" serving nonsense my friend.

Take a look at that why don't you?

 

 

 

Happy Days,Judi

 

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To Judi and Dan ( who are probably one and the same )

 

I knew I could bring out your TRUE COLORS....... now maybe the Universe can

help you change...in spite of yourself... you've been exposed as an isness of

life..... just like excretion is an isness of life...... but excretion serves

a higher purpose... what's your purpose ?......whether you agree or not......

you will have to evolve to a higher kinder awareness of all..... if not this

life, well in your case it may take thousands of more lives till you get it

!...... I care for you as a being , but I'm no fool.... even a poison bug

needs to be gotten rid of for the greater good....... You come on like one of

those bugs ! ............ Jerrio .........

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> ***** You're deluded my friend! There is no " way out " .

Nonsense!

> You're just playing with your-self and calling

it " love " . " Self " serving nonsense my friend.

> Take a look at that why don't you?

>

>

> Happy Days,

> Judi

 

Hi Judi --

 

I can't afford to look at that,

because then I'll lose all

the spiritual self-esteem I managed

to pump myself up with my enlightened

messages to myself.

 

Happy Ways,

Dan

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Realization, " dan330033 " <dan330033> wrote:

> > ***** You're deluded my friend! There is no " way out " .

> Nonsense!

> > You're just playing with your-self and calling

> it " love " . " Self " serving nonsense my friend.

> > Take a look at that why don't you?

> >

> >

> > Happy Days,

> > Judi

>

> Hi Judi --

>

> I can't afford to look at that,

> because then I'll lose all

> the spiritual self-esteem I managed

> to pump myself up with my enlightened

> messages to myself.

>

> Happy Ways,

> Dan

 

******* Yep, this guy reeks of it! Pompeisity everywhere is in need

of a good pummelling!

 

Judi

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Jerrio --

 

One who is looking at " nothing to know "

with a mind full of concepts,

is unwilling to drop the mind of

knowledge, thus keeping self

from " totality " ...

 

Unable to recognize true kindness

when it is offered.

 

Believing self to be kind and realized,

one is thus stuck with the self-belief

of being kind and realized.

 

How tragic!

 

Yet, of course, anything that disturbs the

sleep in conceptuality and belief is labelled as

" rudeness " ...

 

-- Dan

 

Realization, QJproductions@a... wrote:

> Dan

>

> Kindness is the answer to your cruelty....... When you become God

realized...

> then and only then !, ....will you understand all this wisdom being

sent your

> way with kindness and patience from the beings on this site.....

your

> rudeness makes me have more compassion for you..... why don't you

surrender

> that spirit that nothing can be known..... and start beginning to

know.......

>

> ------------------ Jerrio --------------------------

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Kindness and cruelty are truths in this reality, and as such vary from

person to person, and situation to situation.

An iced drink to someone in the desert is a kindness, and to someone in the

Polar Regions a cruelty.

Each individual must define and act out of the knowledge of their own path.

Gelf

 

I am diagonally parked in a parallel universe.

 

 

dan330033 [dan330033]

Monday, October 07, 2002 11:57 AM

Realization

Re: Is kindness the antidote to cruelty?

 

Jerrio --

 

One who is looking at " nothing to know "

with a mind full of concepts,

is unwilling to drop the mind of

knowledge, thus keeping self

from " totality " ...

 

Unable to recognize true kindness

when it is offered.

 

Believing self to be kind and realized,

one is thus stuck with the self-belief

of being kind and realized.

 

How tragic!

 

Yet, of course, anything that disturbs the

sleep in conceptuality and belief is labelled as

" rudeness " ...

 

-- Dan

 

Realization, QJproductions@a... wrote:

> Dan

>

> Kindness is the answer to your cruelty....... When you become God

realized...

> then and only then !, ....will you understand all this wisdom being

sent your

> way with kindness and patience from the beings on this site.....

your

> rudeness makes me have more compassion for you..... why don't you

surrender

> that spirit that nothing can be known..... and start beginning to

know.......

>

> ------------------ Jerrio --------------------------

 

 

 

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Realization, QJproductions@a... wrote:

> Dan

> You can play your game as you wish..... but the others reading

should know

> instinctively by your vibes... that your real intention is to

disrupt others

> with pedantic talk about nothing that goes nowhere in the

direction of the

> one truth........................even my grandma used to say.... If

you don't

> have anything good to say............ Shut Up !........

>

> Jerrio

 

***** You were called on your little cutsie *spiritual* game and you

don't like it. So why not just fess up and take it like a man! And

btw, what kind of a little faggot name is Jerrio, sounds like

your " grandma " gave you that name alright!

 

Judi

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Realization, " judirhodes " <judirhodes@z...> wrote:

> Realization, QJproductions@a... wrote:

> > Dan

> > You can play your game as you wish..... but the others reading

> should know

> > instinctively by your vibes... that your real intention is to

> disrupt others

> > with pedantic talk about nothing that goes nowhere in the

> direction of the

> > one truth........................even my grandma used to say....

If

> you don't

> > have anything good to say............ Shut Up !........

> >

> > Jerrio

>

> ***** You were called on your little cutsie *spiritual* game and

you

> don't like it. So why not just fess up and take it like a man! And

> btw, what kind of a little faggot name is Jerrio, sounds like

> your " grandma " gave you that name alright!

>

> Judi

 

*** Youth and exuberance are no match for age and treachery! :-)

 

Rev. Helen Hiwater, D.D., " Straighten up and bow down, there's noooo

way around it! "

 

Judi

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Realization, QJproductions@a... wrote:

> To Judi and Dan ( who are probably one and the same )

>

> I knew I could bring out your TRUE COLORS....... now maybe the

Universe can

> help you change...in spite of yourself... you've been exposed as an

isness of

> life..... just like excretion is an isness of life...... but

excretion serves

> a higher purpose... what's your purpose ?

 

 

***** To piss you off, what else? :-)

 

 

 

.......whether you agree or not......

> you will have to evolve to a higher kinder awareness of all..... if

not this

> life, well in your case it may take thousands of more lives till

you get it

> !...... I care for you as a being , but I'm no fool.... even a

poison bug

> needs to be gotten rid of for the greater good....... You come on

like one of

> those bugs ! ............

 

******* Run for your life! :-)

 

Judi

 

 

 

Jerrio .........

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Ladies and gentlemen,

 

I'd appreciate it if people would stop posting

insults, nasty remarks, condescending personal

advice, etc.

 

Most mail lists have rules against this sort of

thing. If messages of this sort keep appearing

here I will have to ferret out the screen on

where my powers as moderator

are exercised and figure out some action to be

taken such as deleting messages. Given my

tremendous laziness I would really prefer not

to have to bother, so please, give me a break,

give everybody a break, and follow the normal

conventions. Thanks a bunch.

 

-- Rob (wearing his moderator mask)

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Jerrio --

 

The projected other, which seems like the root of

all difficulties, is actually necessary

to keep the self-image continuing.

 

The self which identifies with kindness

and spirituality needs the other which

it identifies as rude and ignorant.

 

Placing the self in contention with the other

maintains the self-image of spirituality

and knowledge.

 

Where no other is, no contention is

perceived, and no self-image can be

maintained.

 

" To set good against evil is the sickness

of the mind " S'eng S'an.

 

-- Dan

 

 

Realization, QJproductions@a... wrote:

> Dan

> You can play your game as you wish..... but the others reading

should know

> instinctively by your vibes... that your real intention is to

disrupt others

> with pedantic talk about nothing that goes nowhere in the

direction of the

> one truth........................even my grandma used to say.... If

you don't

> have anything good to say............ Shut Up !........

>

> Jerrio

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Hi Jerrio --

 

No, I'm not Judi -- she speaks for herself.

 

You lost me at the point that you

said that while you believe in universal

love you see others as excretions,

who need to be gotten rid of like poison bugs.

 

That kind of comment must be a reflection

of where you're at in what you

believe is your spiritual journey over

lifetimes.

 

I wish you well with it -- but it will certainly

need to involve a look into self at some point.

 

-- Dan

 

 

 

Realization, QJproductions@a... wrote:

> To Judi and Dan ( who are probably one and the same )

>

> I knew I could bring out your TRUE COLORS....... now maybe the

Universe can

> help you change...in spite of yourself... you've been exposed as an

isness of

> life..... just like excretion is an isness of life...... but

excretion serves

> a higher purpose... what's your purpose ?......whether you agree or

not......

> you will have to evolve to a higher kinder awareness of all..... if

not this

> life, well in your case it may take thousands of more lives till

you get it

> !...... I care for you as a being , but I'm no fool.... even a

poison bug

> needs to be gotten rid of for the greater good....... You come on

like one of

> those bugs ! ............ Jerrio .........

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Hi Rob --

 

Agreed.

 

-- Dan

 

 

Realization, " Rob Sacks " <editor@r...> wrote:

> Ladies and gentlemen,

>

> I'd appreciate it if people would stop posting

> insults, nasty remarks, condescending personal

> advice, etc.

>

> Most mail lists have rules against this sort of

> thing. If messages of this sort keep appearing

> here I will have to ferret out the screen on

> where my powers as moderator

> are exercised and figure out some action to be

> taken such as deleting messages. Given my

> tremendous laziness I would really prefer not

> to have to bother, so please, give me a break,

> give everybody a break, and follow the normal

> conventions. Thanks a bunch.

>

> -- Rob (wearing his moderator mask)

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