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Nisargadatta, Xan <xanma@e...> wrote:

>

> ~ Sighhhhhhhhh

 

 

Not so long ago I happened across a couple of very

good articles describing double binding behaviour,

and prescriptions for freeing oneself from the

schizophrenic effects of it.

 

I understand this may seem off-topic for such

a mailing list, and apologize in advance if

it is seen as inappropriate discussion.

 

But from these ears, Xan just demonstrated

classic examples of this type of behaviour

in which dominance or control is sought

under the mantle of wisdom, caring, and virtue.

 

 

Xan's final " ~ Sighhhhhhhh " may have been sculpted

to convey a sincere sense of disappointment or

frustration at Melody's 'lack of progress' in

consciousness; but what it does quite forcefully

is re-exert Xan's superior position (in consciousness)

- which is the goal of double-binders, unconscious

though it can be. In that sense, Xan just hit a

home-run.

 

For those interested in reading more about

the practice of " double binding " , I recommend

the following URLs:

 

http://www3.ns.sympatico.ca/umbada/1100gp.htm

 

http://www.well.com/user/bbear/double_bind.html

 

Ed

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Hi Paul,

 

What do you mean when you say

 

" Karma does seem to answer up to our searching,

but when Love takes root there is nothing that

can be done to stop it " ?

 

When Love takes root in what?

 

>The process of

>categorization is performed wonderfully well by the ego but

>ultimately, the effort expended in separation becomes a moot point.

 

Can we take this a little further here? This seems a good

opportunity to look a little deeper at our 'knowns'....

 

If the effort expended in separation is moot,

 

are other actions initiated wonderfully well by the

ego - such as larceny, slander, slovenliness, rudeness,

adultery....even murder, ultimately moot points as well?

Do we draw a line in our sense of abiding? If so, who draws

the line, and why?

 

Melody

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> Egoic actions come back to haunt us. In the search for release all

> sorts of further actions are undertaken. The search becomes never

> ending and self-fullfilling. If Love is allowed to roost in the

place

> of these actions then the karmically driven 'spritual progress'

ceases

> to rule the day.

>

> Do these ramblings reach you?

 

 

I'm working on it, Paul. It seems in order

for me to really 'hear' what you're saying,

I'd have to understand what your definition

of Love is.

 

The question that arises for me (assuming

your definition of Love is similar to mine) is:

 

what exists *apart* from Love....that

Love would need to root in?

 

Referring back to Nisargadatta's words

offered earlier today,

 

" Suffering is primarily a call for attention, which itself

is a movement of love " ,

 

Nisargadatta seems to be suggesting, is he not,

that suffering (which is within the realm of 'ego')

is a *movement* of love.

 

In other words, Love is already 'rooted' in

suffering, whether we recognize it or not?

 

 

>

>

> >>The process of

> >>categorization is performed wonderfully well by the ego but

> >>ultimately, the effort expended in separation becomes a moot

point.

> >

> >Can we take this a little further here? This seems a good

> >opportunity to look a little deeper at our 'knowns'....

>

> Perhaps I should clarify my postion, so to speak. I know nothing.

The

> words you read stem from my mind, which of course 'knows'

everything.

 

 

Clarified. :-)

 

And ditto for 'me'.

 

 

> All I do is to relay the thoughts, images and concepts that appear

> from there - and usually in a very poor manner!

>

> How is it with you?

 

Pretty much the same. Sometimes I seem to

communicate my thoughts effectively. Other

times not. But the clarity of transmission

relies as much on the clarity of the listener as

it does the communcator.

 

 

>

> >If the effort expended in separation is moot,

> >

> >are other actions initiated wonderfully well by the

> >ego - such as larceny, slander, slovenliness, rudeness,

> >adultery....even murder, ultimately moot points as well?

>

> Yes, these other points are moot as well, but not in a karmic sense.

 

 

I'm not sure I follow you here. How are these not

'moot' in the same sense?

 

 

>

>

> >Do we draw a line in our sense of abiding? If so, who draws

> >the line, and why?

>

> Yes.

> The ego.

> Self preservation.

 

 

A point can be moot even without our

accepting it as so, couldn't it?

 

 

>

> What is the point you are attempting to reach?

 

 

Just talking.....seeing where it takes us. :-)

 

>

> >

> >Melody

>

> Greetings to you, Melody.

>

> Paul

 

 

And to you, Paul.

 

Your name sounds familiar. Have

we shared the same list before?

 

Melody

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Karma does seem to answer up to our searching, but when Love takes

root there is nothing that can be done to stop it. The process of

categorization is performed wonderfully well by the ego but

ultimately, the effort expended in separation becomes a moot point.

 

Paul

 

 

On Wed, 14 Mar 2001 03:50:50 -0000, you wrote:

 

>Nisargadatta, Xan <xanma@e...> wrote:

>>

>> ~ Sighhhhhhhhh

>

>

>Not so long ago I happened across a couple of very

>good articles describing double binding behaviour,

>and prescriptions for freeing oneself from the

>schizophrenic effects of it.

>

>I understand this may seem off-topic for such

>a mailing list, and apologize in advance if

>it is seen as inappropriate discussion.

>

>But from these ears, Xan just demonstrated

>classic examples of this type of behaviour

>in which dominance or control is sought

>under the mantle of wisdom, caring, and virtue.

>

>

>Xan's final " ~ Sighhhhhhhh " may have been sculpted

>to convey a sincere sense of disappointment or

>frustration at Melody's 'lack of progress' in

>consciousness; but what it does quite forcefully

>is re-exert Xan's superior position (in consciousness)

>- which is the goal of double-binders, unconscious

>though it can be. In that sense, Xan just hit a

>home-run.

>

>For those interested in reading more about

>the practice of " double binding " , I recommend

>the following URLs:

>

>http://www3.ns.sympatico.ca/umbada/1100gp.htm

>

>http://www.well.com/user/bbear/double_bind.html

>

>Ed

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On Wed, 14 Mar 2001 09:37:26 -0800, you wrote:

 

>Hi Paul,

>

>What do you mean when you say

>

> " Karma does seem to answer up to our searching,

>but when Love takes root there is nothing that

>can be done to stop it " ?

>

>When Love takes root in what?

 

Egoic actions come back to haunt us. In the search for release all

sorts of further actions are undertaken. The search becomes never

ending and self-fullfilling. If Love is allowed to roost in the place

of these actions then the karmically driven 'spritual progress' ceases

to rule the day.

 

Do these ramblings reach you?

 

 

>>The process of

>>categorization is performed wonderfully well by the ego but

>>ultimately, the effort expended in separation becomes a moot point.

>

>Can we take this a little further here? This seems a good

>opportunity to look a little deeper at our 'knowns'....

 

Perhaps I should clarify my postion, so to speak. I know nothing. The

words you read stem from my mind, which of course 'knows' everything.

All I do is to relay the thoughts, images and concepts that appear

from there - and usually in a very poor manner!

 

How is it with you?

 

 

>If the effort expended in separation is moot,

>

>are other actions initiated wonderfully well by the

>ego - such as larceny, slander, slovenliness, rudeness,

>adultery....even murder, ultimately moot points as well?

 

Yes, these other points are moot as well, but not in a karmic sense.

 

 

>Do we draw a line in our sense of abiding? If so, who draws

>the line, and why?

 

Yes.

The ego.

Self preservation.

 

 

What is the point you are attempting to reach?

 

>

>Melody

 

Greetings to you, Melody.

 

Paul

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On Wed, 14 Mar 2001 17:59:26 -0800, you wrote:

 

>I'm working on it, Paul. It seems in order

>for me to really 'hear' what you're saying,

>I'd have to understand what your definition

>of Love is.

 

I read your response last night and still can't come up wth a

definition of love. I keep drawing a blank, so I've given up.

 

My use of a capital " L " was to differentiate Love, as in consciouness,

versus love as related to suffering.

 

 

>The question that arises for me (assuming

>your definition of Love is similar to mine) is:

>

>what exists *apart* from Love....that

>Love would need to root in?

 

My response would be to say that Love is never apart from anything, it

is the effort of trying to make it go away that is the 'problem'.

 

 

>Referring back to Nisargadatta's words

>offered earlier today,

>

> " Suffering is primarily a call for attention, which itself

>is a movement of love " ,

>

>Nisargadatta seems to be suggesting, is he not,

>that suffering (which is within the realm of 'ego')

>is a *movement* of love.

>

>In other words, Love is already 'rooted' in

>suffering, whether we recognize it or not?

 

I think that there are two different concepts at play here.

1) all is the movement of Love, meaning that existence is not a

creation of Love but merely a 'movement'. (Words begin to break down

on the definition of this). In this case, Love is indeed 'rooted' in

suffering - and in everything else for that matter.

2) egoic suffering rejects the nature of Love and by doing this calls

attention to the ego that something exists beyond itself. (Sort of

like taking a slow boat to China versus much speedier travel through

the " Who Am I? " approach.)

 

 

>Clarified. :-)

>

>And ditto for 'me'.

 

Very glad to have 'run into' you. :-)

 

 

>> How is it with you?

>

>Pretty much the same. Sometimes I seem to

>communicate my thoughts effectively. Other

>times not. But the clarity of transmission

>relies as much on the clarity of the listener as

>it does the communcator.

 

Clarity, as in the amount of ego that is allowed to dominate?

 

 

>> Yes, these other points are moot as well, but not in a karmic sense.

>

>

>I'm not sure I follow you here. How are these not

>'moot' in the same sense?

 

In the same vein as the 'Love' topic above, from the standpoint of

suffering, karma is definately not a moot point. But beyond sufferring

it doesn't matter what is done, and 'who' it is that does it. It's the

Dance of the Universe, beauty abounds, but when we begin to call our

own tune, we fall out of step. Ouch, is that you stepping on my toes?

:-)

 

 

>A point can be moot even without our

>accepting it as so, couldn't it?

 

Well said. This points back to my response to the double binding

behaviour post. Basically, the classification is itself the same as

the belief in karma. Both have no validity other than as pointers to

oneself.

 

 

>> What is the point you are attempting to reach?

>

>

>Just talking.....seeing where it takes us. :-)

 

I bow in gratitiude.

 

 

>Your name sounds familiar. Have

>we shared the same list before?

 

From time to time I read the messages of some of the other lists, but

very rarely do I ever post anything, so it is more likely that I

'know' much more about 'you' than 'you' about 'me'. :-)

 

Paul

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