Guest guest Posted June 2, 2005 Report Share Posted June 2, 2005 Remember this ... You can not really `fix' the `other', ....ac/dc/bc/cc, Toom, Garry, Gene ( Niz) , Fuzzie ... You can NOT really wake up, awaken, enlighten the `other' ... No One can ... Not Even Ramana, Osho, JK, Tolle They very attempt to `fix' is many times, is a `stupid' and `deluded' attempt by one's `limited' mind. Many other times, it is merely a control mechanism disguising as the care for others. The attempt of `fixing' often creates many more problems and solves very little. Many times, `fixing' fails even when it succeed because you don't have the whole picture and context of the `other'. Your perspective is limited, your POV is yours and often, you don't fully know and understand the other to really know what is right for him/her. ( if nothing else, then, --- millions of wives trying to `fix' their husbands and vice versa, --- many, many religions trying to `fix' the humanity should give you an idea ) Yes, people do change ... Yes, they might change in the direction you wished ... Yes, your input and feedback might be very valuable. But, don't make `fixing' others a personal problem for yourself. Offer your sincere, honest, truthful, `respectful', balanced, `thought out' and `wise' feedback / advise if you wish ... But, then, ...let it live at that ... You have done .... " what, you can do " Now, those " words of wisdom, respect, love and understanding " will do what they can do ... `Fixing others' is Not really in your control. It doesn't even need to be ... because, if fixing others is under your control, then, under `whose' control `fixing you' is ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2005 Report Share Posted June 2, 2005 ..... ....and, remember this too ... " fixing themselves " is Not even under those 'other's' control. Just like, 'fixing' yourself is Not under your control ... ( because, if it was and if you were interested in `fixing', ...you might have already fixed all of yourself. You might have become your `image' of the PERFECT human being in `your eyes'. Haven't your wife/husband, lover, boss, politician, parents, teachers, neighbors, ....priests, politicians ALREADY told you, what is wrong with you? Haven't they tried to `Completely Fix' you ? Are you `completely fixed', now ? ....or, do they keep `discovering' new `faults' now? Are You an image of `PERFECT' human in your own eyes? ) .. .... ...... All you can do for yourself is, to think clearly, calmly, completely with Consciousness, Wisdom ... Get the Complete Picture, get the Knowledge and understanding ... and, offer yourself respectful, wise advice ... Now, those words will work ... .....and, they will work silently. That is the Only thing, you can really do for others too You give them honest, respectful, loving, 'wise' feedback. now, that 'input' will do its work .... Making it a personal problem for you or them, only makes it torturous, painful and often ...very ineffective. Often, the real message and intention gets lost and only the attack and defense and hostility remains and lasts ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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