Guest guest Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 >>I am an avid daydreamer and although I love it, I see how destructive it is to my life. How do I give up my addiction? A good way to get an answer is carefully examining the question. You say above: >>I am an avid daydreamer and although I love it, I see how destructive it is to my life. How do I give up my addiction? Now ask yourself, " Can you really give up something that you LOVE? " . Feelings such as 'love' that you refer to here work at much DEEPER level than the reasoning which only works at the mental level. If you want to work on your habit of day dreaming, it is good to first examine " WHY " you love it. " WHAT " you ‘feel’ lacking in your life that you feel this daydreaming fulfills for you? Examine it. Is it something that you would really enjoy if it was true for you and not just a daydream. If yes, SEE if you can REALLY act towards achieving it rather than just dreaming about it. ...... Alternatively, you can examine deeply " WHY " am I looking for this object. In the end, what really I want to gain by achieving it. You might find that in reality, you are only looking for some kind of mental feeling such as - self worth, enhancing your self worth or maybe, some kind of physical pleasure. Objects that give physical pleasure are often not too hard to get and as such there is no need to just day-dream about them. There is something real that can be easily done to get them. Once you really enjoy them you could then see if they really give you any lasting fulfillment or if it is only a mental phantom. It is possible that they look attractive to you ONLY because you never REALLY enjoy them. Because you never get into them really deeply and fully. Because you stay on the surface. Because YOU ONLY KEEP DREAMING ABOUT THEM. Once you experience it deeply and fully, once you know their inner reality, you can then decide whether they are worth pursuing again or not. Mail for Mobile Take Mail with you! Check email on your mobile phone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2005 Report Share Posted July 27, 2005 ...... Once you really enjoy physical objects you could then see if they really give you any lasting fulfillment or if it is only a mental phantom. It is possible that they look attractive to you ONLY because you never REALLY enjoy them. Because you never get into them really deeply and fully. Because you stay on the surface. Because YOU ONLY KEEP DREAMING ABOUT THEM. Once you experience it deeply and fully, once you know their inner reality, you can then decide whether they are worth pursuing again or not. .. .... ...... However, you might find that most of the times your long and repetitive day- dreams are NOT so much about some real physical object but are related to enhancing your self-worth in your eyes. And, this is a very IMPORTANT factor. Pay close attention to it. You are ONLY interested in enhancing your Self-worth in YOUR OWN EYES ! On close examination you might find it Utterly Silly. Enhancing your self- worth in your own eyes ! What a crazy concept ! But, many, many humans are suffering from it. And, remember even when you are concerned about what others think of you are only concerned about how you will look to yourself ! You are only using others to create images of yourself, some of which you find great and others unacceptable. Ultimately, it is only about how you look to yourself! ...... It is possible that you have taken what you hear from media and the rest of the society Very Seriously and now you have decided to use it as an INNER judge to judge your own self-worth! You say to yourself it would have been really great if I were X, Y, Z in place of what I 'think' I am now. ONLY because those X, Y, Z are deemed worth more in the eyes of the others. YOU ARE TRYING TO LOOK AT YOURSELF THROUGH THE EYES OF OTHERS! You say to yourself, I will ONLY accept/love myself if those others will accept/love/praise/respect me. You say to yourself, I will ONLY accept/love myself if I am what those others think is worth praise, acceptance and love. You Are Bringing Others In A Place Where They Have No Business Being - Between YOU and YOURSELF ! On close examination, you will find that this whole thing is utterly stupid and meaningless at which point dreaming about it might become unnecessary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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