Love and Intimate Relationships

[Guest guest]

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Q: I've heard and read that our natural state of awareness can also

be called love. Can you expand upon this?

 

A: The presence of awareness with the absence of " me " is love.

 

Q: Is the absence of " me " required for there to be love? Can't love

be experienced in personal, intimate relationships?

 

A: Love is the essence of all existence. Love is the natural state

of all being. All there is is love. Without love, nothing is.

Love is not personal. There is no " my " love or " your " love: there

is just love.

 

Q: How is love experienced on a personal level in intimate

relationships? Surely, there must be a " you " and a " me " to know and

experience love!

 

A: When two are involved in a personal relationship there are times

when the sense of " you " and " me " (ego) falls away in each person. In

the absence of the sense of " you " and " me " there is love. This is

the sense of peace, joy, and blissful oneness for which we're all

longing: it's our natural state.

 

When the sense of ego rises again, the natural state of love is

personalized by the mind and claimed as a personal experience of the

ego. The two egos then assume that the other is the source of their

love. This, of course, leads to fear of loss, jealousy and a host of

other painful emotions.

 

Q: That makes sense, but I don't " love " everyone. There is a special

sense of love I have for my partner. Aren't there different types of

love?

 

A: On a personal level, there are different types of relationships,

and there can be a special attraction between partners based on

biological and psychological compatibility. But there are not

different types of love or a special love. Love is the essence of

all being, it's absolute, unconditional, and impersonal.

 

Q: How will this recognition help me with my personal relationships?

 

A: Knowing yourself as pure awareness and not a separate ego, there

is the recognition that your essential nature is love. You are what

you have always been seeking. You don't need anyone or anything to

fill the sense of emptiness, loneliness, and separation that is the

egoic experience. The fear of loss, jealousy, and other painful

emotions that are the essence of egoic relationships fall away. You

are able to truly enjoy the beauty of all human relationships in

complete freedom, love, and peace.

 

Love is your natural state.

 

Stephen Wingate

http://www.livinginpeace-thenaturalstate.com/correspondence.htm

 

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