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There once was a little boy who had a bad

 

temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails

 

and told him that every time he lost his

 

temper, he must hammer a nail into the back

 

of the fence. The first day the boy had

 

driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next

 

few weeks, as he learned to control his

 

anger, the number of nails hammered daily

 

gradually dwindled down. He discovered

 

it was easier to hold his temper than to

 

drive those nails into the fence.

 

Finally the day came when the boy didn't

 

lose his temper at all. He told his father

 

about it and the father suggested that the

 

boy now pull out one nail for each day that

 

he was able to hold his temper.

 

The days passed and the young boy was finally

 

able to tell his father that all the nails

 

were gone. The father took his son by the

 

hand and led him to the fence. He said, " You

 

have done well, my son, but look at the

 

holes in the fence. The fence will never be

 

the same. When you say things in anger,

 

they leave a scar just like this one. You

 

can put a knife in a man and draw it out.

 

It won't matter how many times you say I'm

 

sorry, the wound is still there. " A verbal

 

wound is as bad as a physical one.

 

Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They

 

make you smile and encourage you to succeed.

 

They lend an ear, they share words of praise

 

and they always want to open their hearts to us. "

 

 

Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.

 

..bob

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Nisargadatta , " Bob N. " <Roberibus111

wrote:

>

>

>

> There once was a little boy who had a bad

>

> temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails

>

> and told him that every time he lost his

>

> temper, he must hammer a nail into the back

>

> of the fence. The first day the boy had

>

> driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next

>

> few weeks, as he learned to control his

>

> anger, the number of nails hammered daily

>

> gradually dwindled down. He discovered

>

> it was easier to hold his temper than to

>

> drive those nails into the fence.

>

> Finally the day came when the boy didn't

>

> lose his temper at all. He told his father

>

> about it and the father suggested that the

>

> boy now pull out one nail for each day that

>

> he was able to hold his temper.

>

> The days passed and the young boy was finally

>

> able to tell his father that all the nails

>

> were gone. The father took his son by the

>

> hand and led him to the fence. He said, " You

>

> have done well, my son, but look at the

>

> holes in the fence. The fence will never be

>

> the same. When you say things in anger,

>

> they leave a scar just like this one. You

>

> can put a knife in a man and draw it out.

>

> It won't matter how many times you say I'm

>

> sorry, the wound is still there. " A verbal

>

> wound is as bad as a physical one.

>

> Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They

>

> make you smile and encourage you to succeed.

>

> They lend an ear, they share words of praise

>

> and they always want to open their hearts to us. "

>

>

> Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.

>

> ..bob

 

 

 

Beautiful story.

I was thinking...I don´t have a spite against those who have caused

me pain. And I realize that the only person who can heal the holes

in myself is myself. Because, in some strange way it was also me who

has made them. But asking forgiveness to others is also a way to

heal a holes in oneself :-)

 

Len

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Nisargadatta , " lissbon2002 " <lissbon2002

wrote:

>

> Nisargadatta , " Bob N. " <Roberibus111@>

> wrote:

> >

> >

> >

> > There once was a little boy who had a bad

> >

> > temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails

> >

> > and told him that every time he lost his

> >

> > temper, he must hammer a nail into the back

> >

> > of the fence. The first day the boy had

> >

> > driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next

> >

> > few weeks, as he learned to control his

> >

> > anger, the number of nails hammered daily

> >

> > gradually dwindled down. He discovered

> >

> > it was easier to hold his temper than to

> >

> > drive those nails into the fence.

> >

> > Finally the day came when the boy didn't

> >

> > lose his temper at all. He told his father

> >

> > about it and the father suggested that the

> >

> > boy now pull out one nail for each day that

> >

> > he was able to hold his temper.

> >

> > The days passed and the young boy was finally

> >

> > able to tell his father that all the nails

> >

> > were gone. The father took his son by the

> >

> > hand and led him to the fence. He said, " You

> >

> > have done well, my son, but look at the

> >

> > holes in the fence. The fence will never be

> >

> > the same. When you say things in anger,

> >

> > they leave a scar just like this one. You

> >

> > can put a knife in a man and draw it out.

> >

> > It won't matter how many times you say I'm

> >

> > sorry, the wound is still there. " A verbal

> >

> > wound is as bad as a physical one.

> >

> > Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They

> >

> > make you smile and encourage you to succeed.

> >

> > They lend an ear, they share words of praise

> >

> > and they always want to open their hearts to us. "

> >

> >

> > Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.

> >

> > ..bob

>

>

>

> Beautiful story.

> I was thinking...I don´t have a spite against those who have

caused

> me pain. And I realize that the only person who can heal the holes

> in myself is myself. Because, in some strange way it was also me

who

> has made them. But asking forgiveness to others is also a way to

> heal a holes in oneself :-)

>

> Len

 

 

On top of it, there are no holes when there is no self ;-)

 

Len

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Nisargadatta , " lissbon2002 " <lissbon2002

wrote:

>

> Nisargadatta , " Bob N. " <Roberibus111@>

> wrote:

> >

> >

> >

> > There once was a little boy who had a bad

> >

> > temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails

> >

> > and told him that every time he lost his

> >

> > temper, he must hammer a nail into the back

> >

> > of the fence. The first day the boy had

> >

> > driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next

> >

> > few weeks, as he learned to control his

> >

> > anger, the number of nails hammered daily

> >

> > gradually dwindled down. He discovered

> >

> > it was easier to hold his temper than to

> >

> > drive those nails into the fence.

> >

> > Finally the day came when the boy didn't

> >

> > lose his temper at all. He told his father

> >

> > about it and the father suggested that the

> >

> > boy now pull out one nail for each day that

> >

> > he was able to hold his temper.

> >

> > The days passed and the young boy was finally

> >

> > able to tell his father that all the nails

> >

> > were gone. The father took his son by the

> >

> > hand and led him to the fence. He said, " You

> >

> > have done well, my son, but look at the

> >

> > holes in the fence. The fence will never be

> >

> > the same. When you say things in anger,

> >

> > they leave a scar just like this one. You

> >

> > can put a knife in a man and draw it out.

> >

> > It won't matter how many times you say I'm

> >

> > sorry, the wound is still there. " A verbal

> >

> > wound is as bad as a physical one.

> >

> > Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They

> >

> > make you smile and encourage you to succeed.

> >

> > They lend an ear, they share words of praise

> >

> > and they always want to open their hearts to us. "

> >

> >

> > Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.

> >

> > ..bob

>

>

>

> Beautiful story.

> I was thinking...I don´t have a spite against those who have caused

> me pain. And I realize that the only person who can heal the holes

> in myself is myself. Because, in some strange way it was also me who

> has made them. But asking forgiveness to others is also a way to

> heal a holes in oneself :-)

>

> Len

>

 

awareness blooms in moments like these...

 

 

Bill

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Nisargadatta , " lissbon2002 " <lissbon2002

wrote:

>

> Nisargadatta , " lissbon2002 " <lissbon2002@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Nisargadatta , " Bob N. " <Roberibus111@>

> > wrote:

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > There once was a little boy who had a bad

> > >

> > > temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails

> > >

> > > and told him that every time he lost his

> > >

> > > temper, he must hammer a nail into the back

> > >

> > > of the fence. The first day the boy had

> > >

> > > driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next

> > >

> > > few weeks, as he learned to control his

> > >

> > > anger, the number of nails hammered daily

> > >

> > > gradually dwindled down. He discovered

> > >

> > > it was easier to hold his temper than to

> > >

> > > drive those nails into the fence.

> > >

> > > Finally the day came when the boy didn't

> > >

> > > lose his temper at all. He told his father

> > >

> > > about it and the father suggested that the

> > >

> > > boy now pull out one nail for each day that

> > >

> > > he was able to hold his temper.

> > >

> > > The days passed and the young boy was finally

> > >

> > > able to tell his father that all the nails

> > >

> > > were gone. The father took his son by the

> > >

> > > hand and led him to the fence. He said, " You

> > >

> > > have done well, my son, but look at the

> > >

> > > holes in the fence. The fence will never be

> > >

> > > the same. When you say things in anger,

> > >

> > > they leave a scar just like this one. You

> > >

> > > can put a knife in a man and draw it out.

> > >

> > > It won't matter how many times you say I'm

> > >

> > > sorry, the wound is still there. " A verbal

> > >

> > > wound is as bad as a physical one.

> > >

> > > Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They

> > >

> > > make you smile and encourage you to succeed.

> > >

> > > They lend an ear, they share words of praise

> > >

> > > and they always want to open their hearts to us. "

> > >

> > >

> > > Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.

> > >

> > > ..bob

> >

> >

> >

> > Beautiful story.

> > I was thinking...I don´t have a spite against those who have

> caused

> > me pain. And I realize that the only person who can heal the

holes

> > in myself is myself. Because, in some strange way it was also me

> who

> > has made them. But asking forgiveness to others is also a way to

> > heal a holes in oneself :-)

> >

> > Len

>

>

> On top of it, there are no holes when there is no self ;-)

>

> Len

 

 

Actually, this story is even wiser then I thought.

Nails only leave marks because of the fence.

No fence (self-de-fence ;-) no marks.

 

Len

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Nisargadatta , " lissbon2002 " <lissbon2002

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> Nisargadatta , " lissbon2002 " <lissbon2002@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Nisargadatta , " lissbon2002 " <lissbon2002@>

> > wrote:

> > >

> > > Nisargadatta , " Bob N. " <Roberibus111@>

> > > wrote:

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > There once was a little boy who had a bad

> > > >

> > > > temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails

> > > >

> > > > and told him that every time he lost his

> > > >

> > > > temper, he must hammer a nail into the back

> > > >

> > > > of the fence. The first day the boy had

> > > >

> > > > driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next

> > > >

> > > > few weeks, as he learned to control his

> > > >

> > > > anger, the number of nails hammered daily

> > > >

> > > > gradually dwindled down. He discovered

> > > >

> > > > it was easier to hold his temper than to

> > > >

> > > > drive those nails into the fence.

> > > >

> > > > Finally the day came when the boy didn't

> > > >

> > > > lose his temper at all. He told his father

> > > >

> > > > about it and the father suggested that the

> > > >

> > > > boy now pull out one nail for each day that

> > > >

> > > > he was able to hold his temper.

> > > >

> > > > The days passed and the young boy was finally

> > > >

> > > > able to tell his father that all the nails

> > > >

> > > > were gone. The father took his son by the

> > > >

> > > > hand and led him to the fence. He said, " You

> > > >

> > > > have done well, my son, but look at the

> > > >

> > > > holes in the fence. The fence will never be

> > > >

> > > > the same. When you say things in anger,

> > > >

> > > > they leave a scar just like this one. You

> > > >

> > > > can put a knife in a man and draw it out.

> > > >

> > > > It won't matter how many times you say I'm

> > > >

> > > > sorry, the wound is still there. " A verbal

> > > >

> > > > wound is as bad as a physical one.

> > > >

> > > > Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They

> > > >

> > > > make you smile and encourage you to succeed.

> > > >

> > > > They lend an ear, they share words of praise

> > > >

> > > > and they always want to open their hearts to us. "

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.

> > > >

> > > > ..bob

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Beautiful story.

> > > I was thinking...I don´t have a spite against those who have

> > caused

> > > me pain. And I realize that the only person who can heal the

> holes

> > > in myself is myself. Because, in some strange way it was also

me

> > who

> > > has made them. But asking forgiveness to others is also a way

to

> > > heal a holes in oneself :-)

> > >

> > > Len

> >

> >

> > On top of it, there are no holes when there is no self ;-)

> >

> > Len

>

>

> Actually, this story is even wiser then I thought.

> Nails only leave marks because of the fence.

> No fence (self-de-fence ;-) no marks.

>

> Len

> LOL...Now THAT is Tremendous! With apologies to Stephen King..It's

" The Howling " ..I can see Nicholson flashing his pearlies in

laughter!

.......bob

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