Love is not a Thing of the Mind.

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" Love is not a thing of the mind, is it? Love is not merely the

sexual act, is it? Love is something which the mind can not possibly

conceive. Love is something which cannot be formulated. And without

love, you become related; without love, you marry. Then, in that

marriage, you " adjust yourselves " to each other. Lovely phrase! You

adjust yourselves to each other, which is again an intellectual

process, is it not? . . . This adjustment is obviously a mental

process. All adjustments are. But, surely, love is incapable of

adjustment. You know, sirs, don't you, that if you love another,

there is no " adjustment. " There is only complete fusion. Only when

there is no love do we begin to adjust. And this adjustment is called

marriage. Hence, marriage fails, because it is the very source of

conflict, a battle between two people. It is an extraordinarily

complex problem, like all problems, but more so because the

appetites, the urges, are so strong. So, a mind which is merely

adjusting itself can never be chaste. A mind which is seeking

happiness through sex can never be chaste. Though you may momentarily

have, in that act, self-abnegation, self-forgetfulness, the very

pursuit of that happiness, which is of the mind, makes the mind

unchaste. Chastity comes into being only where there is love. "

 

" Love Is Incapable of Adjustment " - The Book of Life (April 16)

 

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