RE : RE : releasing : Dan

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Nisargadatta , " skywhilds " <skywords wrote:

> > >

> > >I only want to know how you yourself are feeling. Please do not

> talk to me about no-self, nor about abstract situations. So that I

> may feel your love and offer mine in return.

>

> I am no longer interested in the semantics of being an island. If you

> suffer, open the door to love in love. If you do not suffer, why

> list, why anything?

>

> Listing, being, is suffering, anyone who denies this is suffering too

> much to admit it.

>

> Love is beautiful suffering in hope of healing transformation though

> another, is it not?

>

> No one is beyond hope, beauty, transformation, the longing for another

> to love and be loved.

>

> ~*~

 

People talk about their concern to end suffering, theirs or someone

else's.

 

That very attempt to end suffering, or to have a solution for

suffering, it itself a form of suffering. And of course, it's a form

of suffering that has been *very* good for organized religions.

 

Suffering isn't problematic, in and of itself, as it is.

 

What gets problematic is the attaching to suffering, or conceiving of

an opposite state that one wants to attach to, or conceiving suffering

as something needing to be got rid of. Often, the conceiving it as

something better to be got rid of, and the attaching to it, are the

same process.

 

There's where the excessive friction comes in.

 

If one is suffering, one can suffer honestly and nonproblematically,

although generally people complicate it and make it worse than it is.

If one isn't suffering, then no need to try to manufacture it. How

it is, it is. If someone else is there and a loving connection is,

then it is. If a bond is broken, then it is time for a bond to break.

Nothing to attach to, in either situation.

 

There's no need to look for a remedy, or to hold a person or some kind

of state of being in love as a solution.

 

Love isn't a remedy for suffering.

 

Love is able to embody suffering without trying to move away to some

other state of being, without requiring a transformation of itself

into something else.

 

To think someone else will be the answer for one's suffering, often

tends to compound one's suffering.

 

-- Dan