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Director in my last company told me

that some very talented engineers fail

miserably because of thinking that

*politics* was not part of their job!

 

He emphasized that politics was a very

essential but *undocumented* part of

any senior engineer, tech lead, manager

and beyond. He said one can not expect

to get ahead, grow or handle his/her

job competently at senior level if had

any aversion to playing politics. Many

otherwise *great* engineers had this

aversions and were thereby were bound

to remain quite limited in their

growth, impact and success and they had

only themselves to blame for it!

 

 

VP in the company before had said me

things one similar lines. He had even

talked about taking money and sending

blank cd to meet the promised date -

counting on the *fact* that most

customers don't open the package

immediately after receiving it. I was

shocked to hear that and even more

shocked to learn that he had done it

many times before.

 

A colleague in the same company said

that I was incredibly naïve to think

that I was going to go anywhere in my

job by sticking to hard work, work

skills, truth, honesty alone. Though,

he was junior to me he said he fully

realized that politics, cheating, lying

was an integral part of the corporate

world and rest of the life and was

essential to play it well if one hoped

to get ahead.

 

Later, I watched a documentary on

Reagan's life and heard him being

greatly praised for the way he

*bluffed* Russians in negations!

 

Later, I heard high praise for FDR and

other presidents for similar *skills*!

 

I realized that perhaps a plain

honest, truthful president would be

considered a *disaster* even in views

of majority of Americans and perhaps'

such person wouldn't even make it to

nominations!

 

I realized that perhaps, I was indeed quite

naïve and I was not sure from where I

had got this lesson of honesty and truthfulness

being a really valued, respected, dependable

or desired quality. It didn't seem to match

the reality as I was beginning to see.

 

 

I realized perhaps, my expectation of

honesty and truthfulness were very wrongly

placed indeed.

 

 

-----

 

 

*As I read advertisements after

advertisements of product

advertisements with some very important

and crucial information buried in

incredibly fine print or spoken with a

speed that almost nobody could make out

- I though perhaps, the intention was

not " give " that information. These were

being written or spoken simply to save

the company from law suits. When I

worked with a company that sold

advertisements - our executives

informed us that it was exactly the

case and they counted on the *fact*

that most consumers will not read it!

 

**I read many " get rich " book preaching

can I take advantage of tax, investment,

and other law *loopholes* and why how

the author and many other *rich* and *famous*

people have already done that! I was quite

shocked to see that what I had thought to

be analogous to *cheating* was in fact

a quite respected and valued *strategy*!

 

One book went on to say that all laws

are directly/indirectly written by rich

and those *loopholes* are in fact designed

on purpose and are kept complex so that

only rich with *resources* and time can

take advantage of them.

 

 

 

 

 

Nisargadatta , " adithya_comming "

<adithya_comming wrote:

>

> - It was a mistake to expect people to

> be honest or truthful. In our

> " civilized " , " cultured " , " educated "

> society honesty and truthfulness were

> no longer a 'norm' but rather an

> 'exception'.

>

> Many people were so used

> to being dishonest and lying now that

> they didn't even realize it anymore. It

> become part of who they are - and, by

> expecting them to do something else was

> akin to expecting a cat to bark!

>

> With this understanding, it was possible for

> me to be pleasantly surprised and very thankful

> and grateful for honesty, truthfulness whenever I

> encountered it and be relatively fine with

> dishonesty, lies as I understood it as the was part of

> 'normal condition'.

>

> I discovered that this version was closer to reality and

> honesty and truthfulness in the

> " civilized " world was more a part of

> fantasy and keeping that 'expectation'

> largely hurt as it was against common

> reality!

>

 

 

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Nisargadatta , " adithya_comming "

<adithya_comming wrote:

in my last company told me

> that some very talented engineers fail

> miserably because of thinking that

> *politics* was not part of their job!

 

 

Thoughts: what you write about is *generally* the case, but not

always. If someone is, indeed, a star and can impact the bottom

line significantly they can do *whatever* they please. If you look

around in your company you will observe there are certain people who

do. It is not about honesty, truthfulness, politics, or even hard

work. It is about money. The moment a person does not either

increase the bottom line or do work as well but for less than

someone else, bye bye. Stars fade and new stars are born all the

time. This is, however, organizational.

 

For people who want to live life differently (spiritually) than do

the masses (who don't live like, for example, Donald Trump, but want

too) there other ways to earn enough money. It takes great courage

to break away from the herd, the path is narrow and few travel

it.

 

Noel

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Nisargadatta , " adithya_comming "

<adithya_comming wrote:

in my last company told me

> that some very talented engineers fail

> miserably because of thinking that

> *politics* was not part of their job!

 

 

>>Thoughts: what you write about is *generally* the case, but not

always. If someone is, indeed, a star and can impact the bottom

line significantly they can do *whatever* they please. If you look

around in your company you will observe there are certain people who

do. It is not about honesty, truthfulness, politics, or even hard

work. It is about money. The moment a person does not either

increase the bottom line or do work as well but for less than

someone else, bye bye.

 

Thanks for the response Noel!

 

I did believe that it was about

being *good* [profitable] for

the company/organization and more

profitable you were for the company

more valuable you became which then

translated to bigger pay, power,

respect and job security.

 

But, through my experience, from

talking to others and from hearing

form bosses an observing at other

levels - I found out that even that

it was much " narrower " than that.

 

More *profitable* you were for your

boos [or whoever was making decisions]

better your chances became!

 

It was mostly being *favorable* to those

who were responsible for making decisions.

And, it could be your boss or your boss's boss

and so forth.

 

I found out that in most situations, it was

truer to see it as you are working for certain

*person* or a group of people than for a company

or organization.

 

If you were being very profitable

and effective for the company but your boss or

his boss [or those who were responsible for

making decision] saw you as a *threat* -

they were very likely to work to remove you!

 

On the other hand, if even if you were

very mediocre in performing for company

but worked as a great tool in the game

that your boos [or his boss] was playing

for his own personal interest - he was

very likely to promote you, defend you!

I saw it happen in my company. I heard

it from my friends. Some of my friends

too play this game very well.

 

And, I think it happens on the national level too.

When you are a *Collin Powell* you are not really

working for USA - you are working for George Bush.

If George Bush* saw you as a threat or against his

own personal interests he was likely to seek to remove

you irrespective what you did or could do for America.

 

 

 

This was another lesson that I had to learn and

learning it is still little hard as it kind of goes

against the basic belief system that I was conditioned

with and it goes against the *company documents* that

I sign when I join a company. Yet, it is very much part of

the *undocumented* reality of the office, organizations

and country as I am beginning to see it!

 

Love,

ac.

 

 

---

I am using George Bush and Collin Powel only as an

example and not claim superiority of Republicans or Democrats.

 

 

 

>>Stars fade and new stars are born all the

time. This is, however, organizational.

 

>>For people who want to live life differently (spiritually) than do

the masses (who don't live like, for example, Donald Trump, but want

too) there other ways to earn enough money. It takes great courage

to break away from the herd, the path is narrow and few travel

it.

 

>>Noel

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> Nisargadatta ,

> " adithya_comming "

> <adithya_comming wrote:

>

> Re: Honesty and truthfulness . . .

>

> Nisargadatta ,

> " adithya_comming "

> <adithya_comming@> wrote:

> >

> > Director in my last company told me

> > that some very talented engineers fail

> > miserably because of thinking that

> > *politics* was not part of their job!

>

 

 

>> Thanks for the response Noel!

>

> I did believe that it was about

> being *good* [profitable] for

> the company/organization and more

> profitable you were for the company

> more valuable you became which then

> translated to bigger pay, power,

> respect and job security.

>

> But, through my experience, from

> talking to others and from hearing

> form bosses an observing at other

> levels - I found out that even that

> it was much " narrower " than that.

>

> More *profitable* you were for your

> boos [or whoever was making decisions]

> better your chances became!

>

> It was mostly being *favorable* to those

> who were responsible for making decisions.

> And, it could be your boss or your boss's boss

> and so forth.

>

> I found out that in most situations, it was

> truer to see it as you are working for certain

> *person* or a group of people than for a company

> or organization.

>

> If you were being very profitable

> and effective for the company but your boss or

> his boss [or those who were responsible for

> making decision] saw you as a *threat* -

> they were very likely to work to remove you!

>

> On the other hand, if even if you were

> very mediocre in performing for company

> but worked as a great tool in the game

> that your boos [or his boss] was playing

> for his own personal interest - he was

> very likely to promote you, defend you!

> I saw it happen in my company. I heard

> it from my friends. Some of my friends

> too play this game very well.

>

> And, I think it happens on the national level too.

> When you are a *Collin Powell* you are not really

> working for USA - you are working for George Bush.

> If George Bush* saw you as a threat or against his

> own personal interests he was likely to seek to

> remove

> you irrespective what you did or could do for

> America.

>

>

>

> This was another lesson that I had to learn and

> learning it is still little hard as it kind of goes

> against the basic belief system that I was

> conditioned

> with and it goes against the *company documents*

> that

> I sign when I join a company. Yet, it is very much

> part of

> the *undocumented* reality of the office,

> organizations

> and country as I am beginning to see it!

>

> Love,

> ac.

>

>

> ---

> I am using George Bush and Collin Powel only as an

> example and not claim superiority of Republicans or

> Democrats.

 

 

 

 

///////

 

 

I know you are only using these as examples.

 

It seems to me you are inquiring into honesty and

truthfulness. I found no disagreement between what I

wrote in response and your thoughts. Perhaps only one

is a macro and the other a micro viewpoint.

 

Would I be correct to consider that thus far the

result of your inquiry is the view that honesty and

truthfulness are relative?

 

Noel

 

 

 

 

 

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> I know you are only using these as examples.

>

> It seems to me you are inquiring into honesty and

> truthfulness. I found no disagreement between what I

> wrote in response and your thoughts. Perhaps only one

> is a macro and the other a micro viewpoint.

>

> Would I be correct to consider that thus far the

> result of your inquiry is the view that honesty and

> truthfulness are relative?

>

> Noel

>

 

Yes, I think meaning of truth and honesty

is relative.

 

On thinking it again, I realize that the word

integrity describes what I want to convey... better.

 

 

By it I mean someone

 

who does what he says

 

and

 

says what he does.

 

That is his/her behavior and words are aligned.

 

 

For example, if Bush says he completely believes

in Bible Values and will do all that he can

to uphold them and then he acts accordingly - I

will find that praiseworthy.

 

Whereas, if Cheyney said he was going to work

only for the best and direct interest of USA

and its citizns - and, then went ahead did

something just to benefit his company and harmed

USA and its common citizen in the process - I will

find it disigenuos.

 

On the same lines, if my boss made me sign

a docuemnt that I will work solely for

the interset of company and then aksed

me to do something for his " personal "

interest that goes against the interest of

the company - I will find it disingeneous.

 

I hope that clarifies, what I am thinking here.

 

 

With warm reagrds,

ac.

 

and as a result he/she can be

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> Nisargadatta ,

> " adithya_comming "

> <adithya_comming wrote:

>

> Yes, I think meaning of truth and honesty

> is relative.

>

> On thinking it again, I realize that the word

> integrity describes what I want to convey... better.

>

>

> By it I mean someone

>

> who does what he says

>

> and

>

> says what he does.

>

> That is his/her behavior and words are aligned.

>

<snip>

 

> On the same lines, if my boss made me sign

> a docuemnt that I will work solely for

> the interset of company and then aksed

> me to do something for his " personal "

> interest that goes against the interest of

> the company - I will find it disingeneous.

>

> I hope that clarifies, what I am thinking here.

>

>

> With warm reagrds,

> ac.

>

> and as a result he/she can be

>

 

 

Everything is in constant flux.

 

How can it be that a fixed rule can apply?

 

Ahhh, yes, why do we sign contracts :)

 

Let us say the boss signed this same agreement. After

some time in the company he sees the company is not

honorable toward him. Is he still obligated to be

honorable toward the company?

 

Then, when, you are hired you must sign the same

agreement only because the boss is required to have

you sign it by the company. He does not lose anything

by your signing and he satisfies a requirement of the

company.

 

Previously, in this discussion you indicated your

belief that your primary commitment is not to the

company but to your immediate work group, that they

not the company are key to your success.

 

You have already changed the contract yourself in

considering your primary allegiance to the boss. Why

would you be experiencing, apparently, cognitive

dissonance because you are not living up to the

contract with the company?

 

Noel

 

 

 

 

 

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